ass too tight? partner can't enter me...

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    Feb 17, 2010 5:14 PM GMT
    hi there

    i have a minor operation on my anus recently. i don't know what has happened and it seems to be get tighter than before.

    my bf has a rather above average dick sizeicon_sad.gif and is thick. we tried to have anal sex but he has issue on entering me. of all the times we tried, i was sitting on him, trying to get his dick into me. but it has all failed.

    will our anus gets tighter after an operation and what can be done to loosen the ass so that we can have one good fuck, at least for once.

    this is bothering me.......all advices are welcome...

    P.S i have tried to use a lot of lub, but it just doesn't work. icon_sad.gif
  • rnch

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    Feb 17, 2010 5:46 PM GMT
    if rimming, one/two finger slow message and entry doesn't work..

    at the risk of being flamed by the "holier than thou's" here on RJ...

    POPPERS! icon_razz.gif
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    Feb 17, 2010 9:39 PM GMT
    Poppers are a bad idea, as I have stated before in a non holier-than-thou way.

    Poppers dull the senses. If you can't get it in while sober you shouldn't try to cram it in while high. That is a good way to injure yourself, particularly if you just had surgery. Once you can handle his dick in your ass then poppers can be fun.

    Now, to help answer your question, what is he doing to prep your ass? Is he eating you out? Is he fingering you? Are you using toys? Few people can just slam a dick up there without any prep.

    Do you play with your ass on your own? If not, you should so you train yourself to accommodate a fucking. If you do and can take a dildo easy then it seems nerves are keeping you from taking it. In which case your partner should eat you out, and use increasingly larger toys until you can take it. Having him do it will calm your nerves.

    Also, you just had surgery on your anus. Has your doctor given you the green light on ass sex?
  • manpit209

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    Feb 18, 2010 4:39 AM GMT
    I agree with MunchingZombie... you have to have some foreplay in that area to loosen it up a bit. I'm kinda tight there also and you can't just ram it in. Fingering and toys help loosen it a bit then it's easier to get inside.
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    Feb 21, 2010 12:09 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidYep... James.. (MZ) always writes just what I am thinking about this subject.
    I love to Top but have to really get my bottoms to highly relax and almost beg for it if I ever plan to enjoy it,,,
    That's were a talented tongue really comes in handy.. nothing loosens a guy mentally than an awesome rim job.. If someone learns to totally relax,,, they can have a seat on a dick of substantial size with very little problem.. I pleasured someone recently in the RIM dept. and he hopped on my meat and had it all the way down to my short hairs in no time...
    Mind you the fucker came in about 15 seconds flat which was not so great for me! I was just getting my groove on and the party was over before I barley got started!...icon_eek.gif


    Duly noted. I promise you I will never commit the above-mentioned 15 second transgression should I ever be lucky enough to meet you for a night of RIM pleasures, and the subsequent drilling I'd fully accept from you! You're quite a babe, by the way. Are you taken? If so, are there any more like you back home?
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    Feb 21, 2010 1:00 AM GMT
    I've never seen someone write so articulately about anal penetration, MunchingZombie. icon_redface.gif

    "Green Light on Ass Sex" sounds like a great title for a book.
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    Feb 21, 2010 1:14 PM GMT
    doc has given the green light to have anal sex.

    yes he does finger me, rim me to pre me for the sex. but after all we had tried, he still faces issues of entering me.

    i heard pop helps...is there any other reason that he cant enter? what else can be done
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    Feb 22, 2010 9:52 AM GMT
    Have you tried working on it yourself with a starter kit of small dildos? It's a muscle right? You start off small and give the body time to assimilate what is happening.
    Are you yourself limber? do any yoga? There's probably residual inflamation from the healing that could last up to a year (really) Red fruits or fruit juices act as anti inflamitory agents - cherries, cranberries - the juices are available in unsweetened concentrates. OR - if your in a hurry, you could ask your surgeon about this possibility and try a regimen of Alleve.
    But stretching the glutes, adductors and abductors will deliver blood and nutrition to the area and hopefully accelerate healing and reduce swelling and inflamation.
    I would def try the little starer kit of dildos. Maybe try to allow 5 or 10 minutes every other day for "anal therapy" - Muscles like regularity - they learn best if the activity is habitual, so maybe try doing it the same time of day and allow a few minutes to stretch before or after. A deep squat held for 30 seconds actually does stretch the anus open along with the glutes and other upper leg muscles.
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    Feb 23, 2010 2:22 PM GMT
    hey heymack, how do i know if there's inflammatory? is there any sign that i can look out? i could feel the muscles around the anus are more tense and somehow it is tighter.

    it is strange that he could finger me with 2 fingers but when it comes to his hard dick, we faced issues.

    he could use his 2 fingers to twist and turn without any issue...just anal-ing me.
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    Feb 23, 2010 2:25 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie said you should so you train yourself to accommodate a fucking.


    I was giggling at this
  • rnch

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    Feb 23, 2010 2:42 PM GMT
    sounds like some post-op mental anxiety goin' on?

    i suggest a bottle (or 2) of wine, a joint, some "anal eaze" spray and some poppers. icon_twisted.gif