Im 23, am I too young to be in a relationship or fall in love?

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    Feb 18, 2010 4:43 AM GMT
    Im 23 and everyone says I am too young to get in a relationship or fall in love.. Why is that? I am capable of being with someone, I just dont get it..

    This is a random question but where is a good place to meet someone a little older?

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    Feb 18, 2010 4:48 AM GMT
    Age doesn't necessarily dictate your capacity to love. Likewise, emotional development isn't always linear.

    If you feel you're ready, you're probably ready.

    I met my man when I was 21 and we've been together since. It isn't about age. It's about your devotion to each other.

    And sorry I can't help too much with finding someone older. Avoid Craigslist? icon_eek.gif
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    Feb 18, 2010 4:52 AM GMT
    Listen to the Elders
  • Bunjamon

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    Feb 18, 2010 5:16 AM GMT
    My parents were together when my dad was 23, and they've been married for over 30 years now.

    Do what feels right. If you are ready for a serious relationship, do it. If you're not, wait. Other people can't dictate when YOU will feel old enough to have a serious relationship.
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    Feb 18, 2010 5:18 AM GMT
    Who says that?
    Theres people in a relationship at like 16years old
    Being in a relationship at 23 years is totally normal
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    Feb 18, 2010 5:19 AM GMT
    Rodmramer saidListen to the Elders
    At most I'd say take into consideration what people who have lived through it have said about it then formulate an informed decision based off of those references.
  • Joeyphx444

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    Feb 18, 2010 5:21 AM GMT
    WOW ur 23 and they are still saying that lol icon_razz.gif
    I am 20 and everyone says that, well mostly older guys

    Yes I don't have exp but doesn't mean I dont have a loving, caring instinct, etc I know what I want.
  • DrewT

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    Feb 18, 2010 5:22 AM GMT
    collegeguy12 saidIm 23 and everyone says I am too young to get in a relationship or fall in love.. Why is that? I am capable of being with someone, I just dont get it..

    This is a random question but where is a good place to meet someone a little older?



    Mostly they say this because they don't feel ready or they think guys just want to sleep with anything or anyone that moves. If you're looking to meet someone older, try looking online through different gay websites or other social networks. In person that's a bit harder to do.
  • danisnotstr8

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    Feb 18, 2010 5:25 AM GMT
    collegeguy12 saidIm 23 and everyone says I am too young to get in a relationship or fall in love.. Why is that? I am capable of being with someone, I just dont get it..

    This is a random question but where is a good place to meet someone a little older?



    You're going to ask a bunch of people on a forum site about this? I suggest you trust your own instincts. These people don't know shit. They're all single and lonely. Like me.
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    Feb 18, 2010 5:32 AM GMT
    collegeguy12 saidIm 23 and everyone says I am too young to get in a relationship or fall in love.. Why is that? I am capable of being with someone, I just dont get it.

    It can happen, with your own age or older. I know quite a number of gay couples who got together in their early 20s, and are still together today in their 60s, 50s and 40s.

    I posted pics here a few months back of our cruise on a yacht owned by a couple who have been together since their early 20s, and we just went to a birthday party for one of them as he turned 50, the other one still "only" in his late 40s. And another gay couple, I would call them our best friends, just celebrated their 28th anniversary on Valentine's Day, and both are still in their 50s. So do the math, and when did they get together?

    Whether you've found a suitable life partner I can't say. But CAN you find a life partner at your age? ABSOLUTELY!
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    Feb 18, 2010 5:36 AM GMT
    collegeguy12 saidIm 23 and everyone says I am too young to get in a relationship or fall in love.. Why is that? I am capable of being with someone, I just dont get it..

    This is a random question but where is a good place to meet someone a little older?


    No you aren't too young, you could always drive down here and see if I am right.

    Also, Chicago is a buffet, there is someone out there. You are just mature enough to want someone to count on rather than turning random tricks.
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    Feb 18, 2010 5:37 AM GMT
    Lolz.. looking for older men, for a serious relationship is noob mistake no. 100,399,245.015- File: B34-0002 icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 18, 2010 5:47 AM GMT
    My boyfriend and I are together for more than 10 years and I am 28 now. So it is possible to be capable to form a great relationship at 23.
    Maybe these poeple aren't/weren't ready at 23 and don't like to see anyone that is.
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    Feb 18, 2010 5:50 AM GMT
    correct, young age has NOTHING to do with you being in a relationship, or not. it has everything to do with maturity level and compatibility. i am 19 and i've been in a serious committed relationship for 15 months now and my boyfriend is 31. if you're in love and it feels right, then keep doing you man. icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 18, 2010 5:53 AM GMT
    Nothing wrong with being in love at any age, buddy.

    You just gotta know how and when to handle yourself and your love which would greatly require you have your senses together like maturity level and compatibility I would assume.Who you fall in love with isn't relevant since love is blind.
  • rdberg1957

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    Feb 18, 2010 5:55 AM GMT
    Where's a good place to meet an older guy? In Chicago, Chicago, that toddlin' town. Silverdaddies.com, etc. There are a number of websites where younger/older meet. There are more older men who want younger than vice versa, so you may have your choice of a number of guys who are falling all over themselves to get to you.
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    Feb 18, 2010 6:04 AM GMT
    thanks for all the responses.. keep em coming..
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Feb 18, 2010 6:07 AM GMT
    Just follow your heart and see where it takes you
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    Feb 18, 2010 6:31 AM GMT
    Define older.
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    Feb 18, 2010 6:34 AM GMT
    Older, I mean someone a few years older. Someone as mature or more. Established, can challenge me and vice versa. A little more dominant. I like guys that are a little more bigger, dominant type I guess.. Never liked guys my age, Idk why, i have always been more attracted too guys a few years older..

    does that make sense?
  • EricLA

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    Feb 18, 2010 6:35 AM GMT
    Only you can really answer that question. Don't let other people dictate whether you're ready or not. It's not like you're going to get married right off, anyway. If you find someone you want to commit to and he feels the same way, go for it.
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    Feb 18, 2010 6:43 AM GMT
    Definitely listen to the guys who say follow your heart... as far as places to meet guys who are more mature (and by that I'm not just saying older), consider a voluteer organization or a political group - basically any group that pursues a cause that's close to your heart. This isn't 100%, but guys who are thinking outward have usually done some growing up.
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    Feb 18, 2010 11:06 AM GMT
    love is a fire, but whether is is going to warm your heart, or burn down your house, you never can tell.
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    Feb 18, 2010 11:07 AM GMT
    Not necessarily... just know that people change and accordingly so does one's understanding of what love is.
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    Feb 18, 2010 11:14 AM GMT
    Horsepower saidAge doesn't necessarily dictate your capacity to love. Likewise, emotional development isn't always linear.

    If you feel you're ready, you're probably ready.

    I met my man when I was 21 and we've been together since. It isn't about age. It's about your devotion to each other.



    I was searching for the words to post to this thread. But Horsepower's posting seems to have captured it the best!
    Best of luck.
    Cheers,
    Keith
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