Coming out through a letter???

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    Feb 19, 2010 1:56 AM GMT
    I read a post from HeyItsDan about him coming out through a letter to his parents. I never really thought coming out through this avenue, but it sounds like a pretty good idea. Do you think most parents will take this easier than a confession in person??? If I do this, I guess I am a bit worried that my parents will think I am a coward for not telling them in person. What do you reckon?
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    Feb 19, 2010 2:25 AM GMT
    Aggieboy saidI read a post from HeyItsDan about him coming out through a letter to his parents. I never really thought coming out through this avenue, but it sounds like a pretty good idea. Do you think most parents will take this easier than a confession in person??? If I do this, I guess I am a bit worried that my parents will think I am a coward for not telling them in person. What do you reckon?

    Would you want someone you love to tell you something of huge importance about themselves by letter?
    Of course not. You would feel hurt and your relationship demeaned because they didn't trust your love enough to face them with it.
    That's how your parents would feel if they get a letter.
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    Feb 19, 2010 2:38 AM GMT
    Emotions can run really high and things can be said that weren’t meant, a letter can give people time to cool down and think before they act.
    Every situation is different. A long time ago when I first started “coming out” I wrote a long letter to my best friend explaining how I was no longer going to hide. I was leaving the state at the time but stayed around for an extra day to see if he wanted to talk.
    I never heard from him again.
    I still believe it was the right thing to do, because I don’t think I could have done it to his face; both, because I couldn’t have emotionally handled a bad reaction, and I feared it may have become violent.
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    Feb 19, 2010 5:55 AM GMT
    It's always best to face the music in person. How would you feel, if you were on the other end and only have a letter to read? I have never been there, but as a parent of three beautiful girls, I would not be excited to hear their life change, but would certainly would support them in whatever they wish to go forward, no questions asked from me. Do it face to face. It perhaps will be the most difficult subject to address in person, but be strong.
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    Feb 19, 2010 6:50 AM GMT
    I came out to the 'rents in a letter. They took it fine, little awkward at first, told me they appreciated me doing it in a letter. I'm not for sure if they were serious, or just being nice.
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    Feb 19, 2010 6:52 AM GMT
    my best friend is the only person I'm out to
    and I came out to him by a letter

    I think that was the only way I could do it