How important is a relationship?

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    Feb 20, 2010 1:42 AM GMT
    I was just wondering what it means and how important it is for you to be in a relationship...just curious.

    I grew up while watching my parents being together for over 30 years and my sisters bringing their boyfriends over for dinner etc., so I definitely want a monogamous, mature, long term relationship.

    But on the other hand, I have goals and many other things I'd like to achieve and to be successful in life, so I'd definitely want to try to complete myself before I can complete someone else, meaning, being independent and financially stable etc. Also I'm not really outgoing when it comes to dating, and it takes some time to open up myself to other guys (I know I need to work on it though.) I have this feeling that I'm going to end up spending quite some time by myself with some desperation (haha.)

    So I guess what I'm trying to ask is, are there guys who are like me on here? I'd love to hear some good stories! (I just want to hear your stories, so let's not make any drama or bash fellow members, 'cause that won't get us anywhere!! Ha.)
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    Feb 20, 2010 1:50 AM GMT
    Right now I'm at a point in my life where I'm being completely selfish. I'm focusing on me, and I'm keeping my best interest in mind at all times. Having said that, what ever happens, happens. If someone great comes along, then that's awesome, if not then, that's ok too.
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    Feb 20, 2010 1:53 AM GMT

    Good gosh, you're aikurushii!

    (we can say that because we met when you were 2)

    There are a lot of guys here that feel the same way. You'll just have to be here awhile before you meet each other.


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    Doug and Bill of meninlove
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    Feb 20, 2010 6:46 AM GMT
    wreckd saidRight now I'm at a point in my life where I'm being completely selfish. I'm focusing on me, and I'm keeping my best interest in mind at all times. Having said that, what ever happens, happens. If someone great comes along, then that's awesome, if not then, that's ok too.


    I don't think it's selfish, it rather makes you look good. icon_smile.gif Maybe that's why they say you'll find one when you're not looking. Haha.
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    Feb 20, 2010 6:52 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    Good gosh, you're aikurushii!

    (we can say that because we met when you were 2)

    There are a lot of guys here that feel the same way. You'll just have to be here awhile before you meet each other.


    Welcome to Realjock!


    Doug and Bill of meninlove


    lol I don't remember anyone call me aikurushii even when I was 2, but thanks! icon_smile.gif

    I'm not so sure there's many other guys like me after getting only two replies though... I'll keep my fingers crossed!
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    Feb 20, 2010 6:53 AM GMT
    It's incredibly important to me. I've decided though that I'm most likely to be the bread winner in my future duo, and so have started focusing on what things I would want from the other person in the face of that fact. I used to think I wanted someone with a similarly demanding job, but realized that two people who can't manage to make their Outlooks match up are doomed to fail. Instead I'd rather have someone who cares and has the time to make something work, and I can provide the material support.
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    Feb 20, 2010 6:59 AM GMT
    あいくるしいさん、どうぞよろしく ^^

    You're right that it's important to be happy with yourself before you find a boyfriend. A boyfriend will not complete you but he will make you happy!
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    Feb 20, 2010 9:05 AM GMT
    abelian0 saidIt's incredibly important to me. I've decided though that I'm most likely to be the bread winner in my future duo, and so have started focusing on what things I would want from the other person in the face of that fact. I used to think I wanted someone with a similarly demanding job, but realized that two people who can't manage to make their Outlooks match up are doomed to fail. Instead I'd rather have someone who cares and has the time to make something work, and I can provide the material support.


    Thanks for the input! And that's an interesting point. I'll end up as the bread winner no matter what because I need to make a living for myself anyway, and I think I'd want my significant other to be somewhat the same and to be equal.

    I believe it's possible for one to provide the material support AND to have the time to make it work at the same time, I think that really depends on each couple though. I definitely agree with you saying that two people who can't manage to make their outlooks match up would fail.
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    Feb 20, 2010 9:11 AM GMT
    Tyinstl saidあいくるしいさん、どうぞよろしく ^^

    You're right that it's important to be happy with yourself before you find a boyfriend. A boyfriend will not complete you but he will make you happy!



    True. I would definitely want to make my boyfriend the happiest guy in the world... he's just not here yet! icon_razz.gif Haha.
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    Feb 20, 2010 2:51 PM GMT
    Hey dsato17,

    "I'm not so sure there's many other guys like me after getting only two replies though... I'll keep my fingers crossed!"

    Keep on posting on topics and as people get to know you....icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 20, 2010 3:02 PM GMT
    A relationship is not all that important to me unless it is the right relationship.
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    Feb 20, 2010 3:10 PM GMT
    To me a relationship is important - having someone in your life to love and care for and enjoy each day with, and you to do the same for him. The feeling of just knowing when you have great news to share, or if you have had a bad day and just need a shoulder to lean on that he is there for encouragement and support. Someone who can make you laugh when its needed and to hold you close as well. I am a romantic at heart so having that special someone there in my life will always be important to me.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 20, 2010 3:24 PM GMT
    I'm not saying I'm picking up on guys in the bread line, but I'm also realistic in saying that my prospective match can't have the same crazy 70-hour workweek with flights all over creation. Essentially, I don't think dating an investment banker is in the cards for me, though trying to do so in Austin would be its own little slice of impossible anyway.

    dsato17 said
    abelian0 saidIt's incredibly important to me. I've decided though that I'm most likely to be the bread winner in my future duo, and so have started focusing on what things I would want from the other person in the face of that fact. I used to think I wanted someone with a similarly demanding job, but realized that two people who can't manage to make their Outlooks match up are doomed to fail. Instead I'd rather have someone who cares and has the time to make something work, and I can provide the material support.


    Thanks for the input! And that's an interesting point. I'll end up as the bread winner no matter what because I need to make a living for myself anyway, and I think I'd want my significant other to be somewhat the same and to be equal.

    I believe it's possible for one to provide the material support AND to have the time to make it work at the same time, I think that really depends on each couple though. I definitely agree with you saying that two people who can't manage to make their outlooks match up would fail.
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    Feb 21, 2010 2:10 AM GMT
    If you can find a soul mate, Someone who is into the same things you are into that would be nice.I feel being in a relationship is very important for human survival.

    Now the relationship I speak highly of are the ones where you can be yourself.This is bad a example. When someone always takes the lead and never compromise to come to a common good.



    This is a good one where you can be free yourself. When your walking in the truth

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    Feb 21, 2010 2:11 AM GMT
    wreckd saidRight now I'm at a point in my life where I'm being completely selfish. I'm focusing on me, and I'm keeping my best interest in mind at all times. Having said that, what ever happens, happens. If someone great comes along, then that's awesome, if not then, that's ok too.


    Good stuff here. Being selfish is not bad at all!
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    Feb 21, 2010 4:59 AM GMT
    MagickBoy saidTo me a relationship is important - having someone in your life to love and care for and enjoy each day with, and you to do the same for him. The feeling of just knowing when you have great news to share, or if you have had a bad day and just need a shoulder to lean on that he is there for encouragement and support. Someone who can make you laugh when its needed and to hold you close as well. I am a romantic at heart so having that special someone there in my life will always be important to me.icon_biggrin.gif


    Ah that's so ideal. I would love to have someone like that!