is it creepy for a 26 year old to date an 18 year old?

  • Thriller83

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    Feb 21, 2010 12:12 AM GMT
    i have always thought it was a little weird. i have always preferred guys closer to my age. am i a "dirty old man" for entertaining the idea of dating a guy who has just recently become non-jail bait?
  • Nayro

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    Feb 21, 2010 12:23 AM GMT
    there are guys messaging me on sites that are over 40. I dont care. If they look good age doesnt matter to me. 26-18 is not that big imo. Enjoy urself.
  • leixguy

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    Feb 21, 2010 12:36 AM GMT
    i have a similar dilemma, I'm seeing a 17 year old guy at the moment, he is really nice and the age isn't an issue for me or him but some of my friends have made a few jokes about it which really annoys me but anyhows.


    a situation that is creepy - when i was 15 one of my best friends (a girl) started going out with a 28 year old, less than three months after his fiancee who was very close to my friend died in a car accident..... but they were together for almost 3 years so maybe age doesnt matter at all!
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    Feb 21, 2010 1:20 AM GMT
    go for it, I'm mid 30s and currently dating a 23 yr old. Age is only a factor when one of you make it such.
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    Feb 21, 2010 1:24 AM GMT
    Naw, age shouldn't matter. If the chemistry is right, I say go for it!
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    Feb 21, 2010 1:25 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidI don't think that's a big age difference. But what's going to happen when you're 30...or 40 or 50....are you still going to want to date 18 year old men? Then you're a borderline chicken hawk.


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    Feb 21, 2010 1:27 AM GMT
    No. But being 40/50 something dating a "teen" is creepy!
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    Feb 21, 2010 1:30 AM GMT
    I was 17 when I started dating my first boyfriend...and he had just turned 28 at the time.
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    Feb 21, 2010 1:38 AM GMT
    I say go for it!!
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    Feb 21, 2010 1:43 AM GMT
    It depends on what the people are comfortable with. I was actually 15 when I became friends with the person who became by boyfriend. He was 25 when we became involved, and I was 16. We were together until I was 18.

    It depends on the maturity level of the person, and I was always more mature from a young age so it didn't phase me. Granted, from a legal standpoint it's not so smart but that comes with trust. 26 isn't that far from 18 as long as someone who is 18 doesn't act like they're 12.

    It's all in how you connect. Some younger guys only like older men, and some older men only like young guys.
  • Anto

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    Feb 21, 2010 1:43 AM GMT
    I wonder how/where people develop the 'creepy' feeling with age difference from?
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    Feb 21, 2010 1:44 AM GMT
    18 year olds are at different stages in their lives than guys in their late 20s and beyond. Eventually these differences in demeanor and things that each think are important will crop up so you will have to be aware beforehand of the potential pitfalls. It may seem great at first but coming from someone who was in his early 20s with someone pushing 40, those differences are hard to overcome in the long run
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    Feb 21, 2010 1:46 AM GMT
    a quickie

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    Feb 21, 2010 1:49 AM GMT
    if he were 18 and you were 40 it might be weird or a little daddy infantile.
    but 26 and 18? probably won't last because I'm sure you remember your own early 20's.
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    Feb 21, 2010 1:51 AM GMT
    I wouldn't worry about it. Just don't try to make him old before his time. Don't be a control freak, be a good example.
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    Feb 21, 2010 1:56 AM GMT
    no
  • Mohannned

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    Feb 21, 2010 2:00 AM GMT
    not at all ... I think if u like each other it doesn't matter
    whether 10 years diffrent or 30
  • swimbikerun

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    Feb 21, 2010 2:07 AM GMT
    Well honesty it depends. I'd need to see how you guys interact, how you treat each other and...well shit, basically watch you guys have sex. icon_eek.gif
  • Anto

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    Feb 21, 2010 2:11 AM GMT
    and being 26 is young. If you are talking about 40 going out 18 years old... hell that is creepy to me.

    I wonder why that is though?
  • swimbikerun

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    Feb 21, 2010 2:18 AM GMT
    Anto saidand being 26 is young. If you are talking about 40 going out 18 years old... hell that is creepy to me.

    I wonder why that is though?
    A hook up would be one thing, maybe even the occasional fuck buddy situation but dating... Seems like with such a huge age span one or the other or would get bored.
  • Joeyphx444

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    Feb 21, 2010 2:35 AM GMT
    26 and 18 is like 36 and 28 but is that bad no??

    8 years difference isn't bad at all. It's all relative, we can sit here and think of all possible combos and someone will think it's OK and others wont icon_razz.gif

    This subject is played out. Just go with ur instinct and what you want
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    Feb 21, 2010 2:59 AM GMT
    Jmuscle33 said26 and 18 is like 36 and 28 but is that bad no??

    8 years difference isn't bad at all. It's all relative, we can sit here and think of all possible combos and someone will think it's OK and others wont icon_razz.gif

    This subject is played out. Just go with ur instinct and what you want
    Exactly. Life is too short to care what other people think. As long as you're communicating and having a healthy relationship go for it.
    There's too much pain in this world and simply not enough love.icon_biggrin.gif
  • MSUBioNerd

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    Feb 21, 2010 3:08 AM GMT
    Honestly, it's all a matter of what both of you are comfortable with in terms of age difference. Some, though certainly not all, people would raise an eyebrow at a 26 - 18 difference, though I'm betting almost none would question a 46 - 38 difference. If you're both comfortable with it, enjoy.

    That being said, I'd recommend keeping in mind what you were like at 18 yourself, and thinking about what seemed really important at the time compared to what seems really important now. There are exceptions, of course, but many people change considerably between the ages of 18 and 25, and that may well reduce the probability that a given relationship will last for a long time. It still might -- or maybe neither of you are really all that interested in a long term arrangement right now --but it's worth being aware of the situation.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Feb 21, 2010 3:14 AM GMT
    My aunt married a guy 15 years younger than herself. They're still together and she's almost 70 or something. He wasn't a loser either, in case you're wondering. If it works for str8 people, why not for us?
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    Feb 21, 2010 3:18 AM GMT
    sxydrkhair said
    Anto saidand being 26 is young. If you are talking about 40 going out 18 years old... hell that is creepy to me.

    I wonder why that is though?


    50 years old guy dating 18 years old girl... People may think he is a pedophile?
    Well, for me that big of an age difference is weird regardless of whether it is a homo or hetero relationship. I would certainly not think of him as a stud. I'd ask myself what is wrong with the 50 year old, that he can't have a meaningful relationship with someone closer to his age? With the 18 year old I'd think that he/she has daddy-issues.