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Anal Sex: Hygiene Edition

  • sofetch Posts: 4
    QUOTE Feb 21, 2010 11:09 PM GMT
    WARNING: this post is intended for amateur to experienced bottoms and helpful tops who aren't "grossed out" by this topic.

    I'm 23 y.o. bottom and I can't take all the flaming hoops I have to jump through anymore just to achieve a clean ass.
    This is my current (and now ineffective) method:
    I firstly have to plan it, so I'll know to eat sensibly the day before, then literally starve myself till the day of the actual event, on which I go through a cycle of endless douching to the point of fearing drowning internally.
    And with all that, I have a 50/50% chance that things will work out.
    For the past two weeks, the douching resulted in me just giving up and blowing my partner...sans any anal action.

    The sad part, I've been using this gambling method for the past 5 years, but it's now only a big issue as I have a steady boyfriend and want to be prepared more often than is needed with casual hookups when you're single.

    By my story you may think I don't eat right, but I actually make quite an effort to have enough fiber in my diet.

    I've read comments online of people who don't even douche, as they take bulk-forming fiber supplements such as Metamucil to clear out their system.
    That's how I ended up experimenting with Konsyl powder (same as Metamucil, just has more psyllium fiber).
    But that didn't help much, in my case, as it still took too long to pass through my system and ultimately still required hours of douching with no success.

    I've also read up on the effects of soluble and insoluble fiber, and found out of the high insoluble fiber content of lentils.
    I whipped up a batch, scarfed it down and was prepared for it to just clean out my insides quickly and have never looked forward as much to going to the bathroom as that day...as I had thought I finally found "the answer".
    Cut to two days later during which I had not had 1 bowel movement!
    It was like I had eaten a bowl of quick drying cement.

    Liquids, I drink plenty of 'em...water especially...so you'd think that would help but come time for the lovely multiple-hour long douching sessions....the water just never comes out clear!

    I have no ailments of any kind, so that's all irrelevant.

    So, to get down to business: I think we all want the same thing!
    A certain food or supplement that will pass through our system quickly (but gently, no harsh laxatives allowed), that will clear out everything along the way inside the intestines and produce a solid...product....that requires little to no douching prior to sex.

    So what I'm asking you guys is; what are your FOOL-PROOF methods of preparing for sex?

    Is there a certain food, meal or supplement you consume that passes through you quickly and cleans out everything, rendering douching as optional instead of mandatory?
    If you only have to starve yourself for a few hours prior to sex, instead of 1 or 2 days (like I do, because I'm a lunatic) I'd love to hear about your method.

    Now, please spare me even hitting the "reply" button if you're feeling compelled to give anything resembling the following answers:
    1. Anal sex is messy, get over it...you can't be 100% clean...in fact my partner and I like douching together....it's sexy....blah blah blah.
    Congratulations on finding your unicorn of a partner...now go douche yourself.
    2. Well first I douche, then I eat something, then I douche some more, than I jump up and down for an hour, then mow the lawn, then I go skydiving, then I starve myself for an hour or two, then I riverdance, and douche again....etc.
    I think my current method is complicated (and ineffective) enough, I already come close to having a heart attack while preparing for sex...I don't want to actually have one.
    3. Just don't have anal sex, or become the top.
    I want to and have had good sex in the past, when it happened once and a while. As I said, I'm in a relationship now, so I need to be ready to perform more often. It isn't working out but I do want it to.

    Lastly, are any of you guys capable of having spontaneous sex?
    I feel like I'm going to be limited to a life of scheduled sex, as a gay bottom.
    That scares and depressed me.
    I want to be able to show my partner how much I love him, anytime...I don't want to make appointments with him as if I'm running a hair salon.
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    QUOTE Feb 21, 2010 11:27 PM GMT
    So you have a high fiber diet and drink plenty of liquids but you still don't have solid stole?

    Go to your doctor.
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    QUOTE Feb 22, 2010 12:05 AM GMT
    Anal sex is messy, get over it...you can't be 100% clean.....all you do is do your best to get clean but if you are so hung up on cleanliness than anal sex will never be for you
  • sofetch Posts: 4
    QUOTE Feb 22, 2010 1:40 AM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidSo you have a high fiber diet and drink plenty of liquids but you still don't have solid stole?

    Go to your doctor.


    Solid, yes.
    But when douching, the water just doesn't become clear enough.
    It's like there's a always a something being digested in my system, unless I starve myself for more than a day before D day...and by then there's not much of a point as I can barely muster up the energy to make out.

    However, going to the doctor for some info is probably my best bet, indeed.
    I'm going to make it my personal mission to find a method that works for all guys who find it a chore to prepare for sex.
    I'll post my progress on this very thread till I find a solution.

    To Rujock, golf claps for your mindset.
    My mentality is more like; where there's a will, there's a way.
    My problem is that I've just about tried every damn way I could think of.

    Now, in case you two also have any input on this and don't mind sharing,... do you guys manage to have sex, whenever you want to, or do you mostly have to sort of plan it?
  • Iluros Posts: 559
    QUOTE Feb 22, 2010 1:48 AM GMT
    Let me tell you from experience: if you want to have "perfectly clean" anal sex, then you're just going to have anal sex pretty infrequently, not at all spontaneously, and with many many wasted sessions trying to prepare yourself.

    I was like you in my last relationship, trying to get perfectly clean. Sometimes you get lucky, often you do not. Like you, I tried doing extremely long douching sessions to no avail. Other than the fact that it's bad for you (and futile), douching for that long will tend to exhaust you and make you sore, limiting how long you can even bear having that region stimulated. Sex will begin to seem a chore as you realize you spend more time and effort preparing for sex than actually having sex.

    Water and fiber can help when they've become a regular part of your diet over the course of weeks. Ultimately, how clean you are is the result of your body's digestive process, sometimes cleaning it all out is not a possibility. And even if you've removed the visible fecal matter, the anus is still not clean. So maybe reconsider what the point of really being squeamish about it is.
  • sofetch Posts: 4
    QUOTE Feb 22, 2010 3:26 AM GMT
    Thanks for the input lluros.
    That does seem to be my outlook as well if I don't find a "solution".
    But I guess I can live without spontaneity, as long as the pipes are clean and the sex is good, I should be more than satisfied.
    I'll be going to the doctor first thing tomorrow, I'll be posting how each (if any) of her suggestions work out for me.

    Indeed, aside from being a pain in the ass (meant in every way imaginable) douching isn't healthy and I have read some guys say they luckily don't even have to do it, because of their diets.
    So I'm just going to try to find something fool-proof that works for me and hopefully many other guys who are in the same boat.
    Hopefully douching will become something of the past.
    (Don't laugh okay people, this is my stonewall, so just let me have this and shut up).






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    QUOTE Feb 22, 2010 1:49 PM GMT
    Here is what works for me...


    Morning. I wake up and drink water. Usually a BIG glass. I use my Protien cup and usually drink about 20oz in one go.

    Before I head out to work, I make a 240z mix of Gatoraid Powder Mix & Metamucil. I usually use the measuring cap inside the Gatoraid Powder Mix and use one scoop of each. I drink this during work.

    Once I get home, I change over to gym close and make a Muscle Milk Protien Shake. It's lactose free and the one I use says it has fiber in it and go work out. There, naturally, I also drink water.

    After a shower, I go make another 20oz cup of water and drink it in one go.

    Now, this is what I DRINK. My meals are what I eat and naturally, you know what gives you diarrhea and what doesn't.

    Now, I also use BABY WIPES instead of toilet paper and because of my fluid intake, I notice that my stool is actually very solid and somewhat tough. This makes less of a mess and requires very little wiping.

    When cleaning yourself after a bowel movement, be sure to not only wipe the hole but also the muscles that push out excrement. Two to Three wipes should be enough. Don't over do it. It's not douching.

    After all this, I have come to a few conclusion....

    1 - You cant infact, always be CLEAN. I have had sex after clubbing my boyfriend where I knew I wasn't dirty but I hadn't douch and because of my wiping and solid stool, everything was fine. Would I put his cock in my mouth? No. Was their any stool in his penis. No. There was a hint of smell but it didn't matter since afterwards, we showered.

    2 - If your boyfriend knows you haven't douched moments before, he has SOME idea that there is a risk. Any good top knows this.

    3 - There is no need to starve yourself so long as you know your body. Do you use the restroom after EVERY meal or usually twice a day? Try timing sex after a movement. Jump in the shower and take a good shower and then afterward clean yourself up in their.

    4 - Dont over douch. Seriously. Push the water in and then push out. Do no more then four times. After that, stay squating and push out whatever else is in side. Then stand and push some more. Once you feel fully clean, use SOME soap and water clean the area. I have found the more I do douch and the more water that goes it, sometimes doesn't come out when in the shower but will during sex.

    If you are doing things like this and nothing else works, the only thing I could tell you is to take IMMODIUM tables on days you want to have sex. Constipate yourself.

    Just because you want to bottom, if your body or ass don't respond well to it, you may just have to give up.

    And I'm a verse/top who dated a total top so I had basically learn the hard way how to be ready to go. Sorry you want things to be spotless but yes, sex is messy. I've also had vaginal sex with women and even there, it can get messy.

    Just having lube on your dick after sex is messy no?
  • cobra2814 Posts: 28
    QUOTE Feb 23, 2010 4:46 AM GMT
    Immodium works for me. Take two, then douche, then fuck. Clean hot sex!
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    QUOTE Feb 23, 2010 7:01 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    cobra2814 saidImmodium works for me. Take two, then douche, then fuck. Clean hot sex!

    I'll take one of what his BF's having...! hehe..
    We TOPs to love a clean bottom,, especially when we rim the fuck outta that hole.. but once all the fucking is going on,,, it's not really that big a deal when you got a wrapped tool....


    You just charmed the pants off of me.
  • sofetch Posts: 4
    QUOTE Apr 15, 2010 9:58 AM GMT
    cobra2814 saidImmodium works for me. Take two, then douche, then fuck. Clean hot sex!


    Ok, I haven't died (contrary to many RJ members' wishes).

    So cobra, thanks so much for your reply.
    I'm currently on some meds that have the same effect as immodium and so far, it seems to be working better than any other method I've tried.
    So thanks a million!!!

    After even my doctor recommended using laxatives (she was just trying to get rid of the crazy neurotic sex-crazed homo in the room at all costs), I was beginning to lose hope.
    That's the same reason I'm trying to avoid douching, I don't want a bunch of unevacuated liquid to just be sitting in there and waiting to shoot out of my pikachu during intercourse.

    Fiber suplements and immodium, that seems to be the key!
    Now I just need to master this technique and make it fool-proof.

    Thanks again.
  • QUOTE Apr 16, 2010 1:43 AM GMT
    I usually bottom and I've never in my life douched. It's so unnecessary and a big pain. Nobody has complained yet. In fact I've always got good feedback.

    And this is coming from someone who has IBS and tons of food intolerances.
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    QUOTE Apr 16, 2010 7:15 AM GMT
    dudeeeeeeeeee chill out sex is supposed to be fun
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    QUOTE May 02, 2010 1:27 AM GMT
    Uh, yeah... as long as you live, your rectum cannot and will not be anywhere close to sterile regardless of how many hours you spend douching it or however much fiber you can manage to eat. It's just not the base state of your rectum, or anyone else's for that matter, to be sterile. Kinda goes with the territory.

    I hear that you can get used to the sight and smell of mess afterwards though so you could look forward to that at least when you give up the quest of sterilization.

  • etcollg Posts: 1
    QUOTE May 06, 2010 3:29 PM GMT
    hey dude,


    i find myself in exactly the situation you described at the start of this topic. 5 years of gambling, now currently in a steady relationship. it's funny to know you're good at the fucking part of sex, but that there's still something i haven't figured out about the prep.

    anyway, i'm looking forward to taking some of the advice guys offered in replies and seeing what works for me. can i ask what the doctor put you on and if you're still pleased with the results?

    after 7 months my boyfriend admitted to me he has become anxious about sex because it hasn't been consistently clean. and then he explained that the only reason he doesn't bottom is because he's afraid he'd be in the same boat as me. so there's some irony- and some sympathy, but I still want our sex to be carefree like it is when you're hooking up with a stranger. (coupled with the care and intimacy of fucking someone you love).

    anyway thanks for posting. hope you're good,

    -j
  • supsidekick Posts: 1
    QUOTE Sep 06, 2010 9:03 AM GMT
    I love your post. I can relate to everything you just said.

    I haven't been in a steady relationship for some time so I do a lot of hooking up with different guys to be blunt.

    I love bottoming, and nothing turns me on more to know I'm clean back there. It makes sex that much pleasurable knowing I don't have to worry about anything and I can just completely focus on the sex and positions etc.

    The first time I ever topped, my boyfriend crapped all over me.
    It being my first time, I nor he was aware of that happening.
    So I swore I would never be that guy that crapped over someone else, it turned me off so badly.

    Anyways, now I'm pretty much a full time bottom and love it.

    The only thing is, I hook up frequently and I'm always doing my best to make sure I'm clean.

    However I too don't have a secure system to always maintain clean.

    I pretty much just do what you do. Ill starve myself for a day or days at a time and live off liquids and vitamins.

    It sucks because I LOVE to eat, but I know that I love sex a lot more.

    So now I'm stuck on a binge/starving routine which is kinda fucking me up.

    Ill starve for days at a time and then one day of the week ill eat & eat like a gorilla, and the next day spent all day on the toilet douching. But that's pretty much a whole different story.

    Sex is my drive so it's what makes me do this.

    Anyways, I just recently started taking laxatives.
    I don't know if I necessarily like them bcuz they make me feel heavy bcuz at times it could take hours to 2 days for everything to fully come out of me, but when it does it comes out quite nicely and not messy at all.

    As far as the routine I got going now, I'm okay with it cuz I'm used to it.
    I save money from buying food, I stay skinny, I don't break out from greasy foods I'd normally eat on a daily basis, I drink more water bcuz I'm on liquids, and the sex is well worth it.

    The cons are that bcuz I starve, sometimes its awkard going out with friends to eat or at dinner, everyone else is eating and I'm not. Of course I don't tell them its bcuz I plan on having sex later that night, they'd think I'm crazy AND a whore.

    Also, since I'm aware when I don't eat, I'm more likely to get headaches, I take baby aspirin before hand so I'm not living with a migrane and a hungry stomach at the same time.

    I googled "starving and binge" and a lot of forums say that people who do this do it out of depression. However, being for sex & pleasurable reasons, I wouldn't say I'm depressed, just horny.. Every night. Anyways, any tips anyone has for me would be great. Thanks !
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    QUOTE Sep 06, 2010 10:46 AM GMT
    Fiber and probiotics - anything, including Danactive or forms of kefi

    _light_ douching., Unless your bf has a 9+ cock, you don't need to get the lower intestine cleaned out. Followed by immodium sometimes.
  • LosingIt Posts: 69
    QUOTE Sep 09, 2010 2:25 AM GMT
    If you're so worried that you won't be perfectly clean, you could always use a female condom. Slip it in your ass, one or both of you lube it up then relax and enjoy the ride!

    Safe, can be in for however long the two of you are playing, and no worries of messiness. And it will allow you to eat a healthy diet and not mess around with enemas!
  • dmt5276 Posts: 16
    QUOTE Sep 09, 2010 8:28 PM GMT
    Get a DynaDouche... it works great.
  • natiluv Posts: 50
    QUOTE Sep 21, 2010 1:15 AM GMT
    All that douching/enemas is not good. You actually end up drying out the anus/rectum and for anal fucking you need all the moisture down there you can get. Are you a meat eater? If you eat meat you're gonna have it in your system for several days. You might try less meat more veggies/fruits/grains. Try no solid foods 24 hrs before and lot's of liquids plus coffee/green tea. You also may have to forgo some spontaneity for planned fucks giving you time to prepare and yes you can be 100% clean almost everytime but it takes work and planning ahead.
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    QUOTE Sep 21, 2010 1:23 AM GMT
    natiluv saidAll that douching/enemas is not good. You actually end up drying out the anus/rectum and for anal fucking you need all the moisture down there you can get. Are you a meat eater? If you eat meat you're gonna have it in your system for several days. You might try less meat more veggies/fruits/grains. Try no solid foods 24 hrs before and lot's of liquids plus coffee/green tea. You also may have to forgo some spontaneity for planned fucks giving you time to prepare and yes you can be 100% clean almost everytime but it takes work and planning ahead.


    That's.... still a lot of work. lol.
  • my8kitso Posts: 59
    QUOTE Sep 23, 2010 3:11 PM GMT
    Interesting stuff. I must say I can't believe how much work some guys go to to try and have hard bowel movements.

    When you deal with the ass, you have to expect a little shit sometimes. It's not nice, but it's reality. If you love someone, a little poop on your dick is not going to be a deal breaker. Trust me, I'm a top and I will do anything to get my dick in your ass, clean or not, it's what I WANT! I want to feel my thick dick penetrate your tight ass and make you moan like a coyote at a full moon. I get pleasure in making sure you RECEIVE pleasure, I try and make the bottom enjoy it more then I do, and I enjoy it A LOT! When he starts yelling at me to fuck him harder, I know I'm doing a good job. One guy I fucked came without touching his dick, I was really proud of that one!

    Normally your lower colon, right before your sphincter, is empty and 1 or 3 rinses with an anal bulb (that you can get in sex shops) will clean out any remaining fecal matter. I know you said no matter how much you rinse, it still doesn't come out clean, but it's just how our bodies work.

    Have you tried using one of those enema douche kits that plugs onto the faucet or shower head so you can get a lot of water up there? Then finish off with 1 or 3 rinses with an anal bulb? As someone else mentioned, douching often is not good for your ass, and NEVER put soap in your ass, it will cause cramps and kill the healthy bacteria that is in your ass that keeps you healthy.

    I thought the idea of the female condom was a good one if you're really serious about trying to make it clean.

    You can always put down a big towel on the bed to fuck on, and keep a small hand towel handy to wipe up any lube or drips. Then just bunch it all up after sex and toss it in the laundry.

    Have fun, relax, as someone posted, sex should be fun, you shouldn't worry so much about it being perfect. I know you're asking for advice, so my advice is just don't worry so much and enjoy it. If his dick comes out dirty, just say, "Gross, sorry about that, but that was a great fuck you gave me!" Trust me, the top cares more about you then some junk on his dick.

    Have fun! BIg kiss! Pete
  • rnch Posts: 10886
    QUOTE Sep 23, 2010 4:17 PM GMT
    my8kitso saidInteresting stuff. I must say I can't believe how much work some guys go to to try and have hard bowel movements.

    When you deal with the ass, you have to expect a little shit sometimes. It's not nice, but it's reality. If you love someone, a little poop on your dick is not going to be a deal breaker. Trust me, I'm a top and I will do anything to get my dick in your ass, clean or not, it's what I WANT! I want to feel my thick dick penetrate your tight ass and make you moan like a coyote at a full moon. I get pleasure in making sure you RECEIVE pleasure, I try and make the bottom enjoy it more then I do, and I enjoy it A LOT! When he starts yelling at me to fuck him harder, I know I'm doing a good job. One guy I fucked came without touching his dick, I was really proud of that one!
    .....



    Pete, if you are ever in new orleans, lemmie know!



  • Beeftastic Posts: 1624
    QUOTE Sep 23, 2010 4:30 PM GMT
    This is a good topic. I am almost always a top, so I don't have to worry about this myself very often. However, I thought it was just me that had such trouble cleaning my ass when I wanted to be available for bottoming! That has been a frustrating experience and has kept me from experiencing it more often.

    The thing about douching for me is that is seems to stimulate my whole colon, and then it gets even worse than if I don't douche. I could spend 30 minutes in the can douching over and over and it sometimes just gets worse and worse.

    I think some people are just made for it more than others.

    BTW, taking something like Immodium regularly is not healthy! And it can mess up your digestive tract too! Not the least of which is to give you diarrhea anytime you are not on it!

  • Row_heath Posts: 1
    QUOTE Apr 27, 2012 8:25 AM GMT
    Hey Bro.. I had the exact same problem as you, still do sometimes, but i found a couple tricks that worked... I know annoying and depressing it can be... Hope this helps.. Just remember these are just my own analysis and theories..they worked for me - I cant say for sure it would work for everyone..

    1. Don't use massive Dildos! As dull as that sounds, it's unfortunately true.. Every time I have used a "larger than life" dildo, it ends up loosening my inner anal spincture. That's the ring way inside your ass that needs to be tight always to avoid shit from coming down into your rectum. Kegel exercise really helps keep this door shut always... So even if u hv shit nearly there, it will always be behind this "valve" and keep you shit free while you get fucked.. But just be careful when u hv those massive 9+ inchers fucking you...they can go past it and will be brown dicked!

    2. When you douche, try not to flood your ass with water from a pipe... I had one of those douche things attachable to the shower hose that u can stick in your ass and blow out any shit from in there... Reality : it only makes it worse... Douching should be only for the the part outside your inner anal spincture.. If you force water beyond that point, you will loosen up the shit there causing it to come out very watery.. That's why sometimes the douche water never comes out clear...

    3. On a wild wild night, when I absolutely must remain shit free - I just pop in one of those immodium instants... They work like magic..

    The rest is all the regular crap about high fibre, regular bowel movement, etc.. They seem great on paper - but is always a hit n miss. Everyone's body is unique - u hv to observe, find a trend, analyse how you react to what and make your own strategy that works for you..

    Hope you find a way and have a happy shit free sex life!
  • flamingo Posts: 1
    QUOTE Jun 02, 2012 1:02 AM GMT

    These discussions are helpful to me, but as an older guy who can be both top and bottom - I find when I'm bottom, there's usually no need to prepare. Okay - I can't guarantee I'll be clean, but I know when I've been top - well, occasionally things get a bit souped up .. but to me this is part of being close together.

    I don't usually go home with a guy without having established some closeness, and things almost always go well .. and with happy memories to follow. Good luck all of you.