Does anyone else feel like this?

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    Feb 23, 2010 10:08 PM GMT
    I believe so much in love, that connection with another person is just so magical and perfect to me. I don't need sex, I don't need hookups, I'm 18 young and in college where there's plenty of meat to be touched but none of it appeals to me.

    I don't know why maybe I just haven't enjoyed the joys of just massive sex but I walk around campus and sit in my classes and listen to songs and influential people and all I can think about at the end of the day is who I'm going to cuddle up with and tell my stupid jokes to.

    Maybe I'm just young and this is some phase but I keep getting this feeling in the bottom of my feet that goes through my entire body that is just begging to release to somebody...I mean I'm not creepy, I'm not the kid who tells you he loves you on the first date nor do I text and call you every day.

    I just miss the days when people valued relationships, dates and sex was a little more sacred... icon_sad.gif

    sorry to rant!

    Justin
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    Feb 23, 2010 10:46 PM GMT
    There are still many people that feel the same way. Keep your head up, we will all get our chance at one time or another, maybe even multiple chances.

    But I would say, don't let your life pass you by, everyone needs to make mistakes and to learn from those mistakes. It is our experiences that shape our world. I'm by far not condoning hookups, but remember to get your feet wet and test the waters a bit.

    Not everyone is that "hopeless romantic" but there are a few of us out there!
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    Feb 23, 2010 10:48 PM GMT
    jayyp saidI believe so much in love, that connection with another person is just so magical and perfect to me. I don't need sex, I don't need hookups, I'm 18 young and in college where there's plenty of meat to be touched but none of it appeals to me.

    I don't know why maybe I just haven't enjoyed the joys of just massive sex but I walk around campus and sit in my classes and listen to songs and influential people and all I can think about at the end of the day is who I'm going to cuddle up with and tell my stupid jokes to.

    Maybe I'm just young and this is some phase but I keep getting this feeling in the bottom of my feet that goes through my entire body that is just begging to release to somebody...I mean I'm not creepy, I'm not the kid who tells you he loves you on the first date nor do I text and call you every day.

    I just miss the days when people valued relationships, dates and sex was a little more sacred... icon_sad.gif

    sorry to rant!

    Justin


    Oh man, you got it bad. ...Good luck! ... icon_wink.gif ... icon_lol.gif
  • curve

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    Feb 23, 2010 11:02 PM GMT
    nothing wrong with being a true romantic and confident with whatever works for you! For 18 years young, it's an impressive state of mind (and body) you're in.
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    Feb 23, 2010 11:06 PM GMT
    jayyp saidI believe so much in love, that connection with another person is just so magical and perfect to me. I don't need sex, I don't need hookups, I'm 18 young and in college where there's plenty of meat to be touched but none of it appeals to me.

    I don't know why maybe I just haven't enjoyed the joys of just massive sex but I walk around campus and sit in my classes and listen to songs and influential people and all I can think about at the end of the day is who I'm going to cuddle up with and tell my stupid jokes to.

    Maybe I'm just young and this is some phase but I keep getting this feeling in the bottom of my feet that goes through my entire body that is just begging to release to somebody...I mean I'm not creepy, I'm not the kid who tells you he loves you on the first date nor do I text and call you every day.

    I just miss the days when people valued relationships, dates and sex was a little more sacred... icon_sad.gif

    sorry to rant!

    Justin


    100% agreed. I feel the same way. icon_neutral.gif
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    Feb 23, 2010 11:08 PM GMT
    SoCalNerd said
    jayyp saidI believe so much in love, that connection with another person is just so magical and perfect to me. I don't need sex, I don't need hookups, I'm 18 young and in college where there's plenty of meat to be touched but none of it appeals to me.

    I don't know why maybe I just haven't enjoyed the joys of just massive sex but I walk around campus and sit in my classes and listen to songs and influential people and all I can think about at the end of the day is who I'm going to cuddle up with and tell my stupid jokes to.

    Maybe I'm just young and this is some phase but I keep getting this feeling in the bottom of my feet that goes through my entire body that is just begging to release to somebody...I mean I'm not creepy, I'm not the kid who tells you he loves you on the first date nor do I text and call you every day.

    I just miss the days when people valued relationships, dates and sex was a little more sacred... icon_sad.gif

    sorry to rant!

    Justin


    100% agreed. I feel the same way. icon_neutral.gif
    Me, too.


    Someone is about to look up our profiles and find that we're around the same age. lololol
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    Feb 23, 2010 11:11 PM GMT
    Soulasphyx said
    SoCalNerd said
    jayyp saidI believe so much in love, that connection with another person is just so magical and perfect to me. I don't need sex, I don't need hookups, I'm 18 young and in college where there's plenty of meat to be touched but none of it appeals to me.

    I don't know why maybe I just haven't enjoyed the joys of just massive sex but I walk around campus and sit in my classes and listen to songs and influential people and all I can think about at the end of the day is who I'm going to cuddle up with and tell my stupid jokes to.

    Maybe I'm just young and this is some phase but I keep getting this feeling in the bottom of my feet that goes through my entire body that is just begging to release to somebody...I mean I'm not creepy, I'm not the kid who tells you he loves you on the first date nor do I text and call you every day.

    I just miss the days when people valued relationships, dates and sex was a little more sacred... icon_sad.gif

    sorry to rant!

    Justin


    100% agreed. I feel the same way. icon_neutral.gif
    Me, too.


    Someone is about to look up our profiles and find that we're around the same age. lololol


    Me too. You're on the right path brother. icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 23, 2010 11:23 PM GMT
    I felt that way when I was 18 and still do. For me, there's no other way.icon_cool.gif

    Sounds like you are on solid ground.
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    Feb 23, 2010 11:26 PM GMT
    PAJohn said
    jayyp said

    I just miss the days when people valued relationships, dates and sex was a little more sacred... icon_sad.gif

    Justin



    I'll try not to laugh while and 18 year-old reminisces about the old days!


    Okay cute, make fun of my age, but I've watched enough old-movies and musicals, books, and heard enough stories from my grandparents and parents to know that the image of sex has completely been downgraded icon_sad.gif

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    Feb 23, 2010 11:27 PM GMT
    I feel like that all the time.
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    Feb 23, 2010 11:55 PM GMT
    "I just miss the days when people valued relationships, dates and sex was a little more sacred..."

    Sorry, kid. You're 18? You were born well after those days ended. Don't know how you can miss them. Since you've only witnessed this in media, you're basing your missing on myth. Dates and sex more sacred? Dates were for the purpose of getting to sex. Gay people, being the smarter of the sexualities, had/have sex more quickly. I had sex with my partner of 22 or so years within 15 minutes of meeting him. Lesson? If you don't like the sex, nothing will keep you together. Get with the program! Where's my Playbill?
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    Feb 23, 2010 11:55 PM GMT
    I have felt like that for quiet a while, but I always get "you are still young" line.
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    Feb 24, 2010 12:01 AM GMT
    Omgness I am the same. and when I finally find the guy that I like I let down easy(but i'll be hopeful). Although I am the type of guy who likes to text my man everyday; I think a relationship is based on communication and I'd like to talk to them even if I can't see them face to face.
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    Feb 24, 2010 12:11 AM GMT
    I also agree. I never thought so many other people would feel the same way. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 24, 2010 12:19 AM GMT
    Cuddling, Long walks on the beach, holding hands in public, sharing stupid jokes, making googly eyes over pasta, etc. etc. > Sex

    Someone slap me.
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    Feb 24, 2010 12:22 AM GMT
    I think about this all the time.. trust me, it's normal. I think it means you're gay. loljk
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    Feb 24, 2010 12:25 AM GMT
    Upon further consideration, I think you should keep your eyes on the prize. The experience of today's young gay man (or woman) is not nearly the same, in many cases, as that of yesterday's. I'll bet you find what you're looking for. I suggest you get yourself a lot of condoms and go looking, though, because if you sit and wait for it to find you, you'll end up an old maid. The gay population is not nearly that of the straight population, which decreases your chances and increases the required effort.
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    Feb 24, 2010 12:33 AM GMT
    grr... the only thing i seem to hear more than guys asking to hook up is other guys venting how they don't want to. look, do your thing. forget about what other people are or aren't doing. it's your life. it's your business. stop looking for validation from the outside for your choices and start finding it in yourself.
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    Feb 24, 2010 12:39 AM GMT
    Hey jayyp, you're not alone at all, as you can see from other posts.


    Bill and I are also much like you in your outlook...and here we are. You have an advantage we never had. The internet. icon_wink.gif


    -Doug
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    Feb 24, 2010 12:51 AM GMT
    calibro saidgrr... the only thing i seem to hear more than guys asking to hook up is other guys venting how they don't want to. look, do your thing. forget about what other people are or aren't doing. it's your life. it's your business. stop looking for validation from the outside for your choices and start finding it in yourself.


    as much as i understand what you're talking about, this was merely a connection post -- don't need any validation for my own lifestyle i just wanted to see who shares the same view. that's why everything but the subject is in first person.
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    Feb 24, 2010 2:13 AM GMT
    I'm so down with what you're saying dude.. I'm in love with being in love. It's like I just want to skip over this period in my life were everyone expects me to be this super horny kid who screws everything that walks, and go to happy married where I don't just have sex.. I make love.

    And everything else that's super corny. icon_razz.gif
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    Feb 24, 2010 2:25 AM GMT
    jayyp saidI believe so much in love, that connection with another person is just so magical and perfect to me. I don't need sex, I don't need hookups, I'm 18 young and in college where there's plenty of meat to be touched but none of it appeals to me.

    I don't know why maybe I just haven't enjoyed the joys of just massive sex but I walk around campus and sit in my classes and listen to songs and influential people and all I can think about at the end of the day is who I'm going to cuddle up with and tell my stupid jokes to.

    Maybe I'm just young and this is some phase but I keep getting this feeling in the bottom of my feet that goes through my entire body that is just begging to release to somebody...I mean I'm not creepy, I'm not the kid who tells you he loves you on the first date nor do I text and call you every day.

    I just miss the days when people valued relationships, dates and sex was a little more sacred... icon_sad.gif

    sorry to rant!

    Justin


    i dont know BUT i am like you totally. Sex is important but that person that love isnt there. I am a believer in true love too. Its like you need to find yourself and you know you are ready. You want someone not in the sex way but in like a living way. I miss the days when love was THE SHIT. SIGH and we are gay guys for gods sake. LOL we think abt sex every 9 seconds. but yea im believe in true love. i am scared i wont find someone. but im still 18 eh? so what the hell.

    sorry i suck at proving my point.

    good luck! icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 24, 2010 2:43 AM GMT
    It's worth noting that in today's current 'young gay' generation, there appears (note I said APPEARS) to be a trend toward a less stereotypically...sexualized approach to 'gay life.' This is likely a result of several things: the small in occurrence but prominent in impact advent of gay marriage, the increasing large-scale acceptance of homosexuality, the demystification of all things gay via the internet.

    I grew up and came of age in the late 80s/early 90s, pre internet. I remember is was SUCH a big deal that Norman was an openly bi guy on the first The Real World. That Melissa Etheridge came out and still had hits...back in the early 90s anyway, lol.

    Now, gay people are all over niche media and tv, especially cable. The internet is likely a much higher percentage gay then the rest of the world. The gays have MADE the blogsphere much of what it is.

    So it shouldn't surprise anyone that young gays are going to behave more like young straights - they have seen/experienced better indicators for how to grow up gay than any previous gay generation.

    I often wonder how differently my gay youth might have been if I'd had the internet....
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    Feb 24, 2010 2:58 AM GMT
    jayyp saidI believe so much in love, that connection with another person is just so magical and perfect to me. I don't need sex, I don't need hookups, I'm 18 young and in college where there's plenty of meat to be touched but none of it appeals to me.

    I don't know why maybe I just haven't enjoyed the joys of just massive sex but I walk around campus and sit in my classes and listen to songs and influential people and all I can think about at the end of the day is who I'm going to cuddle up with and tell my stupid jokes to.

    Maybe I'm just young and this is some phase but I keep getting this feeling in the bottom of my feet that goes through my entire body that is just begging to release to somebody...I mean I'm not creepy, I'm not the kid who tells you he loves you on the first date nor do I text and call you every day.

    I just miss the days when people valued relationships, dates and sex was a little more sacred... icon_sad.gif

    sorry to rant!

    Justin



    Consider your self fortunate to have such wholesome views at such young age. I am 46 years old but my views on sex, love, and relationships stills remains as sacred as I felt way back when I was 18 years old. I embraced my sexuality growing up in the 1980's; the most decadent and liberating decade for being gay; at least it was for me!! but even thou I fully accepted my gayness back then I did feel like an outcast not only with the straight world but even more so with my own gay peers.

    Unfortunately the modern and fast paced times we are living in have transformed people into emotional coach potatoes! a lover sit on you while their asses get warm, but when they get tired listening or looking at you they use you as a control remote while they keep searching other channels for their own entertainment to add excitement to their boring and emptied lives! sadly the strongest and the best of connections have lost a sense or an appreciation for romanticism, loyalty, courtship, trust, and a myriad of other virtues and values once highly though to strengthen human relationships.

    My advise to you is to never loose touch of the inner explorer within! in the long run it is better to continue the often tiresome and endless journey that in the beginning feels like a place to nowhere!? Jay the world of dating may feel like a huge wilderness, but believe me. you will benefit more by exploring the long and less traveled roads where the brave at heart may be waiting for you, then walking up and down the stairs in a civilized world where a coach potato may await for you at the door.


    Leandro ♥
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    Feb 24, 2010 3:21 AM GMT
    Many of us are "hopeless romantics" - you certainly aren't alone in those thoughts. Just remember to always be true to yourself, be open and honest with that special someone when you find him. Keep the lines of communication going and don't ever take him for granted. It's worth it and when the time comes you will realize it! Best of luck to you! icon_smile.gif