When you hold hands with another guy...

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    Feb 24, 2010 2:38 AM GMT
    When you are out and about and holding hands with your guy, are you the one who usually walks in front leading the way, the guy who normally walks behind being led, or do you normally walk side by side?

    I think it's funny how when I see a gay couple holding hands, many a times one guy is always walking behind the other being led. What do you reckon of this?
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    Feb 24, 2010 3:56 AM GMT
    I've actually never held hands with a guy before, but I know exactly what you're talkin about.
    Anyway, to the OP I want to compliment your ass, very nice.
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    Feb 24, 2010 4:07 AM GMT
    wreckd saidI've actually never held hands with a guy before, but I know exactly what you're talkin about.
    Anyway, to the OP I want to compliment your ass, very nice.



    lol. concentrate mate, concentrate!!!
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    Feb 24, 2010 4:19 AM GMT
    Aggieboy said
    wreckd saidI've actually never held hands with a guy before, but I know exactly what you're talkin about.
    Anyway, to the OP I want to compliment your ass, very nice.



    lol. concentrate mate, concentrate!!!


    Kinda hard when it's your main profile picture, lol
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    Feb 24, 2010 5:19 AM GMT
    Aggieboy saidI think it's funny how when I see a gay couple holding hands, many a times one guy is always walking behind the other being led. What do you reckon of this?

    I think it's a natural rhythm that many couples fall into.
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    Feb 24, 2010 6:15 AM GMT
    I usually either walk side-by-side or lead if I'm excited. It's normal for me to set a fairly brisk pace.

    I don't think I've ever been in a man's tow. Now, being dragged by the wrist is another story. icon_razz.gif
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    Feb 24, 2010 6:27 AM GMT
    My bf and I tend to walk right next to each other. I don't think either of us really has a power-play kinda deal about it, which is what I perceive it to be about when one is leading the other. Then again, I've never stopped to ask another couple about it, so I'm just guessing.

    And yeah, nice ass OP. =P
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    Feb 24, 2010 2:48 PM GMT
    Iluros saidI usually either walk side-by-side or lead if I'm excited. It's normal for me to set a fairly brisk pace.

    I don't think I've ever been in a man's tow. Now, being dragged by the wrist is another story. icon_razz.gif



    And don't forget that time with the leash...


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    Feb 24, 2010 4:29 PM GMT
    djdorchester said
    Iluros saidI usually either walk side-by-side or lead if I'm excited. It's normal for me to set a fairly brisk pace.

    I don't think I've ever been in a man's tow. Now, being dragged by the wrist is another story. icon_razz.gif



    And don't forget that time with the leash...




    I never would. icon_razz.gif

    I should say, if a man tried to lead me he might need to be punished. icon_wink.gif
  • darryaz

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    Feb 24, 2010 4:33 PM GMT
    We walk side-by-side unless we're getting close to a Crate & Barrel or Williams Sonoma store, in which case I drag him.
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    Feb 24, 2010 5:13 PM GMT
    Iluros said
    djdorchester said
    Iluros saidI usually either walk side-by-side or lead if I'm excited. It's normal for me to set a fairly brisk pace.

    I don't think I've ever been in a man's tow. Now, being dragged by the wrist is another story. icon_razz.gif



    And don't forget that time with the leash...




    I never would. icon_razz.gif

    I should say, if a man tried to lead me he might need to be punished. icon_wink.gif


    Don't make me restrain you. Again.

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    Feb 24, 2010 7:18 PM GMT
    It's odd, because I'm taller than my bf and he has long baboon arms, its uncomfortable for him to hold my hand. So we just link pinkies. Now that's gay.
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    Feb 24, 2010 7:32 PM GMT
    TheIStrat saidIt's odd, because I'm taller than my bf and he has long baboon arms, its uncomfortable for him to hold my hand. So we just link pinkies. Now that's gay.


    Now THAT'S adorable.

    If we're holding hands in crowds, where we have to be single-file, I'll lead my bf along clearing the way. If we're in a hurry, J's little legs move him along faster than my long legs and so he's in front pulling me. Otherwise casual strolling, side-by-side.

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    Feb 24, 2010 7:54 PM GMT
    _Brandon said
    Aggieboy saidI think it's funny how when I see a gay couple holding hands, many a times one guy is always walking behind the other being led. What do you reckon of this?

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    Brandon, I don't understand your point. If there is one.
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    Feb 24, 2010 8:15 PM GMT
    When I had a partner usually side by side! 8-)

    Edit!

    When we out shopping once I was pulling him along b/c I love to shop and he hates to shop.
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    Feb 24, 2010 8:20 PM GMT
    My bf and I hold hands and lock elbows. We are loud and proud... well not really loud, but we look good so that counts icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 24, 2010 8:23 PM GMT
    Mostly side by side.
    Depending on who is "driving the days expedition" might determine who leads.
    Frequently, I like to be lead because I like to look around and see what's happening without having to deal with the details of where we're going, I like to enjoy the scenery. I also prefer to ride in the passenger seat opposed to driving.

    - When I kinda like someone I'll hold their elbow and let them lead if they feel compelled
    - If I really like them I hold a belt loop and follow behind and will totally gawk
    - When I *love* someone I hold their index and ring finger and vacillate between the two
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    Feb 24, 2010 8:23 PM GMT
    always hold hands... ALWays!
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    Feb 24, 2010 8:41 PM GMT
    does it matter? what does matter, is when it's "in your face, straight/gay world, look at us and how well adjusted we are" type of handholding. there are exceptions, but usually it feels forced. and i actually think that lesbian girls doing it are taking much greater risk if some straight dudes start to heckle them. for men? it's whatever, "look at me type" of a public display of affection. most people i know just snicker at it under their nose.
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    Feb 24, 2010 8:57 PM GMT
    I get so giddy when I see a gay couple holding hands! When it's a hetero couple I'm just like, meh, whatever.
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    Feb 24, 2010 9:08 PM GMT
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    djdorchester said
    Brandon, I don't understand your point. If there is one.

    The point?...well...I just don't get it!,lol ...tell me!...why show this kind of affection in public?...u know... "holding hands or kisses"... is this "really" necessary?...what they gain exposing themselves in public anyway?.icon_smile.gif

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    Are you talking about homosexuals specifically, or just couples in general who hold hands in public?
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    Feb 24, 2010 9:11 PM GMT
    carabin saiddoes it matter? what does matter, is when it's "in your face, straight/gay world, look at us and how well adjusted we are" type of handholding. there are exceptions, but usually it feels forced. and i actually think that lesbian girls doing it are taking much greater risk if some straight dudes start to heckle them. for men? it's whatever, "look at me type" of a public display of affection. most people i know just snicker at it under their nose.



    For the record, I just snickered at this comment.
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    Feb 24, 2010 9:37 PM GMT
    I can't believe I'm posting on this topic *pinches self*. Yep, apparently I am.

    Yes there are forced displays.

    Yes there aren't forced displays, and those ones look as natural as birds taking wing in tandem. Or horses running together.

    You see the same thing with straights; natural and unnatural looking. It's all in the sincerity of intent behind the gesture, and those that can't discern the difference and find all of it uncomfortable say something very loud about their self image and perception of self that I can hear from here. I have a great deal of compassion for that discomfort as I once felt it myself, long ago when I first came out.

    _brandon_, when you fall in love, truly, madly, deeply, you'll think differently and see with new eyes. icon_wink.gif

    Now, this man has to call his husband and find out what he'd enjoy with roast chicken this evening.

    -Doug

    PS does our Avatar pic make any of you uncomfortable? We're doing a lot more in it than the mere holding of hands. Thirty straight witnesses and not a dry eye.

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    Feb 24, 2010 10:00 PM GMT
    I usually walk Side By Side when we have held hands... not sure what the big deal is....
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    Feb 24, 2010 10:39 PM GMT
    maybe one knows where hes going and the other one dosnt