How you judge people on their first impressions

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    Feb 24, 2010 3:41 PM GMT
    Do you judge people on their first impressions more negatively or more positively? Which type of judgment (good or bad) do you give people most of the time?


    Usually, and I guess this goes with my optimistic personality, I receive people's first impressions as positively. I don't really worry about bad judgements because I don't judge other people in a bad way usually.
  • Iluros

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    Feb 24, 2010 4:26 PM GMT
    I try to be fair-minded, and don't weigh any judgments heavily from my first impression of a person. So I basically try to be neutral until I have a better idea of them. And I tend to expect the same from others. icon_razz.gif

    Of course, it depends on how colorful their impression is. Someone who I perceive to be deliberately insulting or disrespectful will probably be seen in a negative light, for example.
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    Feb 24, 2010 4:36 PM GMT
    Although I try to keep neutral until I know the person, I'll admit that there are some people I have extreme reactions to from time to time. It's a vibe or energy or something, can be negative or positive. And once I've had that kind of extreme reaction, it's tough to shake it even after getting to know the person.

    I dunno what to say... just being honest. It's not intentional, nor does it happen often at all. But it does. icon_redface.gif
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    Feb 24, 2010 4:42 PM GMT
    I don't because I know I can give bad first impressions.

    Sometimes I'm impeccable, like meeting important officials or friends' parents, my manners are simply immaculate and I can keep on point with what I want to impress upon parent's impressionable minds...

    But then I can mishear someone choking because they're from Spain or Mexico or one of those soccer countries and I heard something different than "can I drink that" and I said no.

    Like what the fuck? I'm a dick.
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    Feb 24, 2010 4:58 PM GMT
    I judge on what's been given to me to base an opinion. I tend to come off somewhat arrogant tho.
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    Feb 24, 2010 5:03 PM GMT
    I try not to judge anyone, however my intuition will tell me if they are a positive or negative person. Rarely in a conversation of a first meeting with someone have I ever been wrong. I can just tell and have always been able to do so. icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 24, 2010 5:30 PM GMT
    I would like to think that I look for the good in people and that I am open minded.

    But I've come to the realization that I'm not the angel I thought I was. Maybe this has something to do with dealing with people who really are weirdos or something and I need to feel safe from nonsense.

    Maybe I'm jaded since I've met my share of bullshit artists, control freaks, snottiness etc. There are guys out there who are experts in hiding their real personalities.

    But I'm working on it. The problem is when I do let down my guard and let go of my judgements the nasty people come out of the woodwork to torture me.icon_eek.gif
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    Feb 24, 2010 5:34 PM GMT
    i try not to judge. but i do take into account eye contact and body language to gauge authenticity and mutual comfort...
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    Feb 24, 2010 5:41 PM GMT
    I can pick up on people's personalities pretty well, so that helps. Like for instance, most people here try to judge others fairly...

    I'm that good.
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    Feb 24, 2010 5:58 PM GMT
    curve saidi try not to judge. but i do take into account eye contact and body language to gage authenticity and mutual comfort...


    It's "gauge."
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    Feb 24, 2010 6:01 PM GMT
    Good judgment is what keeps us alive and out of trouble. Anyone without good judgment is a fool. It's something many folks should employ more.

    I preemptively do things. E.g., I pre-ignore picture-less profiles / non-complete profiles. I know, based upon that lack of effort, and information, that person is not worth knowing (at least by me).

    I'm a firm believer in responsible risk management. If a person tells me they're a thief, a drunk, closeted, or in some other dysfunctional relationship, I get rid of them.
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    Feb 24, 2010 6:27 PM GMT
    chuckystud said
    curve saidi try not to judge. but i do take into account eye contact and body language to gage authenticity and mutual comfort...


    It's "gauge."


    thanks Chuck! English isn't my first lanuage... sometymes
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    Feb 24, 2010 6:48 PM GMT
    It's "some times." LOL
  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 24, 2010 6:52 PM GMT
    FIrst impressions are always interesting. I can get good ones or less than favorable ones quickly, but try and have a positive viewpoint. Just because someone does things (clothes, approach, etc) differently than me, should mean nothing. Having dirty teeth or outward habits like smoking.. do...

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    Feb 24, 2010 7:03 PM GMT
    Yeah, man. We don't associate with smokers. We don't allow them in our home, either. They stink. They're dangerous to have around. Anyone who smokes has to be an idiot, too.
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    Feb 24, 2010 9:20 PM GMT
    Read this book, rather interesting:

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    Feb 24, 2010 9:40 PM GMT
    Monir saidRead this book, rather interesting:

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    that`s an awful book based on nothing put pure coincidences. Malcolm is one of the greatest charlatan of our times.
    I had to read it for one of my courses, and only an incompetent professor can assign such rubbish.
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    Feb 24, 2010 9:45 PM GMT
    I always look at people like they are probably cool. Then when I see what they do that may bring their coolness down a notch, I still give them the benefit of the doubt that they're cool. When they do or say something really stupid or offensive, I still think they are cool but having a really bad day.

    I am either forgiving, or a sucker.
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    Feb 24, 2010 9:55 PM GMT
    wrestlervic saidI always look at people like they are probably cool. Then when I see what they do that may bring their coolness down a notch, I still give them the benefit of the doubt that they're cool. When they do or say something really stupid or offensive, I still think they are cool but having a really bad day.

    I am either forgiving, or a sucker.


    I think you are very forgiving and kind of sweet :-)

    I give everyone the benefit of the doubt. It takes a lot for me to dislike someone, and there is not a single soul I hate.
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    Feb 24, 2010 10:00 PM GMT
    I usually like people until they give me a reson not to. However, in all honesty, sometimes people just have a stupid looking face that I can't stand. If they do, there's no hope for them... I'll never like them. It's weird, huh?

    Oh... and I also judge mouth-breathers. First impression of a mouth-breather is awful.

    ...you hear that Kristen Stewart? Shut your fucking mouth for 2 seconds, just shut it.
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    Feb 24, 2010 10:04 PM GMT
    ANDCB said
    Monir saidRead this book, rather interesting:

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    that`s an awful book based on nothing put pure coincidences. Malcolm is one of the greatest charlatan of our times.
    I had to read it for one of my courses, and only an incompetent professor can assign such rubbish.


    I agree with you that he somewhat compiles his "evidence" in a way that fits within his story, but at the same time it remains an interesting book to read. Nonetheless, I do not understand why you would have to read this book for a course... it is close to self help and other "amusement" books. What course was it for?