"WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE ON RJ, YOU HAVE A BF"

  • HndsmKansan

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    Jan 17, 2008 11:09 PM GMT
    I always think its kind of funny, some reactions you get on various sites. I've had several instances this week where someone has IM'd me (and one post to a thread I did) which were kind of dumb (or tactfully, I'll call them "ill thought").

    The latest was... "What are you doing on here (RJ), you have a bf".. I don't know if he thought I was looking for someone or if somehow since I'm involved, I should give up all social contact...

    This site is not a hookup site, its a social site for me.

    What are some of the stranger or odd responses or comments you have had on this site that you remember?
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Jan 18, 2008 12:33 AM GMT
    "How big is you cock"

    Does that count?

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    Jan 18, 2008 1:39 AM GMT
    I don't get those questions, guess it's because I'm married..or is it because I'm dating? LOL I just keep them guessing. I think you should remind them that you're not dead HndsmKansan. They really need to find a hook up site, they'll never find what they're looking for here. OK, maybe I'm wrong! LOL
  • Timbales

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    Jan 18, 2008 1:43 AM GMT
    Some guys, especially younger ones, seem to think that when you get a bf your whole world ends and you live only for him.

    I don't get many odd questions, though.

    I do wonder what someone is thinking when they look at my profile, though.
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    Jan 18, 2008 1:45 AM GMT
    Timberoo saidSome guys, especially younger ones, seem to think that when you get a bf your whole world ends and you live only for him.

    I don't get many odd questions, though.

    I do wonder what someone is thinking when they look at my profile, though.


    "haha this guy is cute AND funny!"

  • Timbales

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    Jan 18, 2008 1:52 AM GMT
    well now I'm blushing icon_redface.gif
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    Jan 18, 2008 1:59 AM GMT
    Does the 10 stand for 10 inch dick? Yea right, Thats why I'm not in porn I'm too big, ha!
    Joe
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    Jan 18, 2008 2:09 AM GMT
    Timberoo saidwell now I'm blushing icon_redface.gif


    i had never looked thought I would just give you my first impression icon_smile.gif
  • Thirdbeach

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    Jan 18, 2008 2:11 AM GMT
    Odd comments I've had:
    Two IMs this week that started out "U Wrestle"
    (hmmm... Wrestling via internet; just how would that be done)

    One fellow that kept typing "U in a jock" over and over

    I also get a few that just start "sup" but those have progressed into conversations.

  • justinlee86

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    Jan 18, 2008 2:41 AM GMT
    Yeah I do not see this as a hook up site what so ever...I love all the Forums and reading up on fitness!!!
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    Jan 18, 2008 2:44 AM GMT
    I'm only 20, and I've been in a relationship for a couple months now. I'm hella-in-love with my man and I'm not here for any meaningless hook-ups.

    I happen to enjoy the online "company" and conversation of other like-minded individuals. Like eb925guy said, I'm not "dead" just because I'm taken.

    It does bother me, though, that some people will have a hostle tone with me because I'm on RJ and I'm in a monogomous relationship. Holy shit! Deal with it. The last time I heard so much complaining about a relationship it was Britney getting married to KFed.

    Funny thing is, my BF gives me some slack about coming to this website. Even he doesn't understand that this is just an interesting place to be involved with and there's nothing innately sexual about it.

    In my opinion, it's just a state of mind.
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    Jan 18, 2008 2:49 AM GMT
    I have had a few people try and IM me looking for a quickie! I guess I should be complimented being 47 and "married". Like Timberoo though I wonder if they actually look at my profile, especially the part that says "monogamous relationship", unless they do not believe me!

    I enjoy this site as a source of information regarding working out, health issues and sports as well as the social aspect. I honestly did not know it was also a "hook-up" site until a few days in. I thought that was what "Manline" was for, but maybe I was naive.
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    Jan 18, 2008 2:58 AM GMT
    "I love you."

    In a first time email from someone I've never met or communicated with.
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    Jan 18, 2008 3:00 AM GMT
    XRuggerATX said"I love you."

    In a first time email from someone I've never met or communicated with.


    I'm sorry, XRugger, I guess I just got carried away.
  • UVaRob9

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    Jan 18, 2008 3:07 AM GMT
    While I do add people to my "hot list", that's more out of admiration for what they've done than anything else. I'm about the celebrate 4 years in a committed relationship tomorrow (which is how many years in gay?) and I'm pretty happy. On occasion, we've played together, but that's not what our relationship's about.
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    Jan 18, 2008 4:09 AM GMT
    Happy anniversary, UVaRob
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    Jan 18, 2008 4:11 AM GMT
    UVaRob9 saidWhile I do add people to my "hot list", that's more out of admiration for what they've done than anything else. I'm about the celebrate 4 years in a committed relationship tomorrow (which is how many years in gay?) and I'm pretty happy. On occasion, we've played together, but that's not what our relationship's about.


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    Jan 18, 2008 4:16 AM GMT
    This is one topic I am very happy to see on this site. I've been with my BF for over 2 years now & am completely committed. Just as UVaRob9, I add people to my hotlist as an admiration. Nothing more.

    Recently relocating to a new area, I have found social sites like this one to be a good way to get to know people (not only here, but around the world). I enjoy this communication. Doesn't mean that I want sex. It may be surprising, but the penis isn't the only brain that a gay man uses to think. Besides, I already have sex! icon_biggrin.gif

    There have been a few that prove they don't read the WHOLE profile. One, once I stated that I was in a committed relationship, told me "you should've said." I did! In my profile!

    Thanks for starting this thread, HndsmKansan. It's great to finally be able to express these thoughts.
  • sportz36

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    Jan 18, 2008 4:37 AM GMT
    Not to be judgmental in any way or cause offence (the disclaimer!!) but I think the fact that HndsmKansan has a pic with him lying with his crotch on full in a suggestive manner may be more the reason he is getting questioned for his motivation for being on here....logic being that his pic has a sexual tone which is not really required just to make friends. Not saying that is his intention but just saying how it looks.
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    Jan 18, 2008 4:58 AM GMT
    XRuggerATX said"I love you."

    In a first time email from someone I've never met or communicated with.



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  • RSportsguy

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    Jan 18, 2008 10:28 AM GMT
    I guess I am lucky (or unlucky---it matters how you view it--LOL) that I don't get any real suggestive messages to me. ( I did get a real nasty one from our little punk Real Latino--but I quickly dismissed that one because who it was from). I think if you contact someone, you should read their profile first. Most of the guys here are very upfront about their relationship status. I admire some of the guys because of their awesome comments about their partners on their profile. I have contacted a few of these guys and have told them that. Like Justinlee stated in a post above, I do not feel that this site is a pick up site. I think it is much much more. Sportz36, I think it is unfair to criticize HndsmKansan about his pics. I think they are really quite artistic. I don't think because a person has a hot pic up here that it absolutely opens them up to rude, crude suggestive comments. I guess this is a very long post to say that we should all read the profiles of the guys before we message them.
  • zakariahzol

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    Jan 18, 2008 11:01 AM GMT
    I dont think this is a hook up site, but certainly an comradeship and friendship site. I have a few nice guy extending a hand of friendship to me. Some from UK and USA. I appreciated those more that any form of sexual suggestion.
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    Jan 18, 2008 11:07 AM GMT
    I joined this site because of the name. I was looking for a social site that dealt with fitness from a gay perspective. I wasn't looking for a hookup site. So I'm not bothered by the fact that I rarely get hit on by anyone. If I do, it's rarely within 1000 miles of me.
    As to HndsmKansan picture, if I looked like that, I'd pose that way for a photo too. There's no reason he should be covered up because he's got a bf. This site is about gay jocks. A significant aspect (though ostensibly not the only one) is the kind of body you've developed because of it.
    I've hotlisted many guys that I find inspiring. The assumption of "he's hot" being, by default, automatically followed with "I want to sleep with him" is rather childish.
    The sense of community here and the quality of so many guys here (particularly on the forums) is reason enough to visit here. Becoming friends with guys that I find smart, funny and with incredible builds, is inspirational and not to be automatically assumed that I want to sleep with them (whether they are single or not.)
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    Jan 18, 2008 11:13 AM GMT
    I don't think its got that much to do with HndsmKansan's pics either. I say that because none of mine are even remotely suggestive or sexy and I've gotten a few emails lately asking "Does 'Monogamous Relationship' mean you don't do hookups (or cam, threesomes, etc)?" icon_eek.gificon_rolleyes.gif

    Anyone ever notice that when you're single, nobody wants you... but when you're in a relationship... especially one that's really good... every horndog on the planet comes out of the woodwork? icon_lol.gif

    I do get the impression that a lot of guys seem to think that any website or forum that's specifically or primarily gay is automatically just for hookups. I really don't think it occurs to some of them that those of us in relationships are still social, or that gay sites can and do exist that aren't primarily for hooking up.
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    Jan 18, 2008 12:03 PM GMT
    It's refreshing to a have a place where one can exchange views and share life experiences with other gay men. My partner and I often find that our life in the 'burbs is very heterocentric, so it's good to get away from that occasionally. I often will send people messages just to say, "Good job," or "Howdy, neighbor," if I see that we have something in common. While I have absolutely no interest in hook-ups, cams or the like, you never know when you might strike up a worthwhile friendship.