Abandonment

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    Mar 01, 2010 5:43 AM GMT
    Do any of you guys ever feel like you're all alone in the world? I sure do.

    Worse, I always feel like everyone eventually abandons me, for what appears to be no reason at all.

    It's a creepy feeling. When I was a kid, my parents were alcoholics and even though they didn't literally leave. . . in a sense they did, because I saw them change into drunken out-of-control wackos and it was like I didn't have parents anymore.

    And over the years I've had some really good friends (I thought they were, anyway) just sort of. . . walk away from a really great friendship / relationship for NO REASON. You'll just have to take my word, that's what happened.

    I had a best bud who just sorta changed literally overnight. . . I had known him for years, everything was cool, he loved me, and then one day. . . he was a different person. Suddenly had this real dislike for me. I kept asking him what was wrong. He wouldn't tell me. When I pressed him on it, he'd start screaming (something he never did before). It was like Invasion of the Body Snatchers.

    I would think it's me, something I did, but really, it's not that. What is it with people? Have any of you guys had experiences like this? If so, what do you do about it?

    P.S. This isn't so much about being gay, either, I don't think that's the issue.

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    Mar 01, 2010 5:57 AM GMT
    if people of various types have walked out on you, you're the common denominator, but its doesn't make you the reason necessarily.

    Maybe you simply don't have a wide enough circle of friends . Family you can't create, but friends ,yes .
    It's perhaps not easy for you to meet people, i don't know ,and reasons can be multiple. But if you don't have people around you you have to go out of your way and meet more, make connections and out of all that jumble , a few will come out as good friends.

    Does it actually make you unhappy?
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    Mar 01, 2010 2:44 PM GMT
    Friends come and go in our lives all the time. The trick, we found, is to just let these tides of life do their thing. Eventually some wash up on your beach and stay there.

    Just keep making more ( because, you know, you can never have too many friends).icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 01, 2010 3:03 PM GMT
    Just need to keep stronger. Being a gay men in a country that discrimninated , hated and despite me, I feel like that all the time. Most of my friends are happily married , my sibling have their own family to take care of, my parents are both death . All my lover have leave me simply because our relationship have no future , no chance for married or possibility to spend old age together . Even my gay friend are mostly married to a women as expected of them.

    But I am still alive , right. Its up to me to make my life meaningful and exciting.

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    Mar 01, 2010 3:07 PM GMT
    meninlove said Friends come and go in our lives all the time. The trick, we found, is to just let these tides of life do their thing. Eventually some wash up on your beach and stay there.

    Just keep making more ( because, you know, you can never have too many friends).icon_wink.gif


    This.
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    Mar 01, 2010 3:09 PM GMT
    For what reasons did you let these people into your life?

    And how would you think if I proposed the question, "Have you ever tinkered with the thought of "Why am I viewing the world the way that I am?"
  • Celticmusl

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    Mar 01, 2010 3:13 PM GMT
    Friendships are given rather freely, without any term in commitment. Actually I would think it rather odd if all the friends I had in grade school were still my friends....and high school....and college...and my first job. There is a reason they are no longer close friends, although I still wish them well and think of them fondly. I am a different person and they have also grown.
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    Mar 01, 2010 3:17 PM GMT
    meninlove said Friends come and go in our lives all the time. The trick, we found, is to just let these tides of life do their thing. Eventually some wash up on your beach and stay there.

    Just keep making more ( because, you know, you can never have too many friends).icon_wink.gif


    That is the most correct answer you will see here.

    My own thoughts on the answer is this:

    Put yourself out there as the person you really want to be in your life. Take no chances, just believe in yourself as the person you think you should be.
    Friends will flock to you. Trust me, it will happen.

    My personal journey has taught me so much - the gorgeous, tanned and buffed people who were my "friends" deserted me when I came into personal troubles.

    my true friends stayed by my side and helped me through.

    the challenge is knowing the difference

    message me, or just have good luck, and I hope my tiny advice helps somehow

    cronks