Well, thank God I don't have to deal with this anymore but you can be just as limiting in your profile by specifying the things you DO want vs. what you DON'T want, i.e., "normal" guys and "no fats, no fems". Alternative...."looking for an in-shape mans man into sports and just hanging out, not into the scene".
I don't know why people get so uptight about people expressing their preferences. Who knows the motivation behind it (whether someone is being dismissive/closed minded or just trying to narrow the field to what gets them going.....IT IS A HOOKUP SITE AFTER ALL!).
In my time on Manhunt, Adam4Adam, Atomic Men, etc., etc., I never expected to meet a life partner and I don't think most men have that expectation either (not to say it hasn't happened!), but come on, lighten up on the judgement that people are being too limiting by not "tasting the rainbow".
Maybe they already have and just decided what part of the rainbow they like best! Doesn't mean they hate the rest of the rainbow or think it has no value or purpose, it just doesn't turn them on physically. Does it make someone a bad person if they are totally turned on by black men and know that, so for sex and dating they just want to meet black men? Or Asian men? Or White men? Or Middle Eastern men? Or Latin men? I think not!
To each his own. That's what makes the world go 'round and makes us all unique individuals!
I was looking for a 35-45 year old man in LA that was into workingout, gainfully employed at something, wanted a monogamous relationship and didn't take himself too seriously. Never in a million years did I think a 21 year old from South Africa that I initially dismissed as WAY too young and TOO far away, would wind up being the man I proposed to a year later!