Is it a turnoff to be to young minded? and when is it?

  • maximumrisk

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    Jan 18, 2008 6:36 PM GMT
    Hey Guys,

    I was mailing with a friend when the question came up if its bad to be into stuff for younger Generations. I read many times this Forum that it would be a negative thing to date someone who is into Playing Videogames, watching Cartoons/Animes and other stuff the Youngsters do, because that would mean that they are just to immature or something. I like to watch "Naruto" and "The Simpsons" as well as playing on my PS2. It just seems like it would diminish my already low possibilities to meet nice guys.

    So what do you Guys here think? Is it really bad image to be into that kind of stuff? I mean, is that a reason that would make you say "Not gonna happen"?
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    Jan 18, 2008 8:30 PM GMT
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    Jan 18, 2008 8:39 PM GMT
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    Jan 18, 2008 8:42 PM GMT
    It's less about being into those things and more about placing too much importance on them relative to other things in life. Older guys tend to do that less, but that element is still important to me. Mature, pragmatic, yet playful guys are the best.
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    Jan 18, 2008 8:45 PM GMT
    you know what i have experienced... there's a timezone.

    up until about 30, you are young, energetic, carefree and do all the things one would expect from someone in their 20's

    then there seems to be a period in one's life where you appear to grow up (30-35, i'm guessing) when you switch from cartoons to news, from video games to protests, from night clubs to coffee shops.

    but then it reverts back. you become childlike again - maybe it's mid-life, i don't know. but i'm turning 35 this year (my partner's 43), and we bought a wii for the family. yes, we have 4 kids so that's part of it, but more recently the kids have had to fight us for the controls. icon_razz.gif

    (and yes, i'm quite aware that i've mentioned my turning 35 this year in other threads - i'm coping)
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    Jan 18, 2008 8:51 PM GMT
    jaydub said

    then there seems to be a period in one's life where you appear to grow up (30-35, i'm guessing) when you switch from cartoons to news, from video games to protests, from night clubs to coffee shops.


    Oh god, I'm already there and I'm only 22, lol.
  • irishkcguy

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    Jan 18, 2008 8:56 PM GMT
    I think there is a difference between being young-minded and immature or irresponsible. I want to find a way to balance being young at heart with being a mature adult.
  • maximumrisk

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    Jan 18, 2008 9:00 PM GMT
    nitaka said[quote][cite]jaydub said[/cite]

    then there seems to be a period in one's life where you appear to grow up (30-35, i'm guessing) when you switch from cartoons to news, from video games to protests, from night clubs to coffee shops.


    Oh god, I'm already there and I'm only 22, lol. [/quote]

    Thats not so bad at all.icon_biggrin.gif
    I think those things dont have to be the one or the other. I am into this stuff, but I also read Newspapers, try to stay Informed about the US elections that come this Year and I sure like to Party, but its also fun to sit down in a coffee shop and talk. Everything needs it right balance though.
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    Jan 18, 2008 9:00 PM GMT
    irishkcguy saidI think there is a difference between being young-minded and immature or irresponsible. I want to find a way to balance being young at heart with being a mature adult.

    when you find it, let me know icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 18, 2008 9:04 PM GMT
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  • DiverScience

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    Jan 18, 2008 9:12 PM GMT
    Meh. I try to balance the things I do that are "childish" and the things I do that are "adult." I'll play computer games, but I also write. My favorite board game is scrabble, but I also enjoy D&D.
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    Jan 18, 2008 9:45 PM GMT
    Well I have been one of those people who have posted about 17 year olds dating 17 year olds.

    The point of that is not what people choose to do with their time. There are plenty of adults who play video games, like go-carts, or whatever else. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

    Not having a young mind (or rather having an old mind) doesn't sound too appealing to me.

    Life experience does change us (if not our habits). I think there is a difference in life experience between a 47 year old gamer and a 17 year old gamer. That doesn't mean that those two can't have fun playing a Wii game.

    Where I think it is different is when a 47 year old (or a 50 something) is dating a 17 year old. That sounds to me (and this is a generalization) like it is more about the 40-50 year old and less about something mutual with the younger guy.

    It is one thing to be young at heart, keep a young mind, think you, and play hard. I think it is another for an older man to exploit a younger boy. That just ain't right (at least in my judgement - and yes it is a judgement).

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  • mcwclewis

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    Jan 18, 2008 9:45 PM GMT
    I think its hot.


    I wont lie, I love Fosters Home for Imaginary Friends and Chowder....


    I play video games, and I love cartoons, but also watch the news and try to stimulate myself mentally, I like reading difficult books.

    Anyways, I dont think its an issue you should be concerned with... I think its hot when a guy isnt TOO concerned with acting his age.... like previous posters have said, theres a difference between liking things that are associated with youth, and being immature.
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    Jan 18, 2008 10:04 PM GMT
    irishkcguy wrote: " think there is a difference between being young-minded and immature or irresponsible."

    I agree.

    There are also certain times/stages of your life where you just want something new or different - unless you are stagnant and don't grow or change over time - there comes a point where Everquest and Super Mario Bros. just don't entertain anymore - they become stale.

    While I don't think any one point you listed is a turn off, I think that for people to bond they have to connect on somne level through shared history or interests - and most older guys are not interested in spending a disproportionately huge amount of time playing vid games anymore.

    No matter how much I love our Wii icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 18, 2008 10:21 PM GMT
    If I dated a guy called me childish for watching Gundam SEED Destiny I'd tell him your done.

    You connect with people based on shared interests. If he doesn't like what you do/play then to hell with him he isn't worth your time.
  • maximumrisk

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    Jan 18, 2008 10:23 PM GMT
    ITJock saidirishkcguy wrote: " think there is a difference between being young-minded and immature or irresponsible."

    I agree.

    There are also certain times/stages of your life where you just want something new or different - unless you are stagnant and don't grow or change over time - there comes a point where Everquest and Super Mario Bros. just don't entertain anymore - they become stale.

    While I don't think any one point you listed is a turn off, I think that for people to bond they have to connect on somne level through shared history or interests - and most older guys are not interested in spending a disproportionately huge amount of time playing vid games anymore.

    No matter how much I love our Wii icon_lol.gif


    I know that there comes the Age-barrier, but you said you have a Wii yourself. So your generation can enjoy those things just like us. I just get the feeling sometimes that most guys dont give it even a chance, for them its made for kids = childish = not apropiate and thats just wrong. I mean, my Dad tells me that he hates Series like "Scrubs". But I can see that he clearly enjoys himself when he watches it with me.
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    Jan 19, 2008 12:12 AM GMT
    so since i like to play video games, that makes me immature??? i just thought it meant i like to play video games, haha! oh lord...no wonder i can't get a date, LOL!

    i guess i should remove those interests from my profiles.

    what's next? will the same happen when it comes to my taste in music?

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    Jan 19, 2008 1:51 AM GMT
    I love Naruto! My xbox360. and anime. Although I am in my early 20's.... Hmmmm. Maybe I am young hearted.
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    Jan 19, 2008 1:55 AM GMT
    Trance23 saidIf I dated a guy called me childish for watching Gundam SEED Destiny I'd tell him your done.

    You connect with people based on shared interests. If he doesn't like what you do/play then to hell with him he isn't worth your time.
    Destiny is the best. Except for maybe Gundam X....nah. Destiny is the best.

    Also, someone said that he balanced playing video games with writing? Like writing is mature? Kids do that all the time. Some of my younger friends are published authors (books, I mean, not magazine articles) and I'm 19 for crying out loud. Writing is as imaginative and intellectual as any video game, and therefore just as stimulating to growing and developing minds (and reflexes, and problem-solving skills).
  • DiverScience

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    Jan 19, 2008 2:03 AM GMT
    Writing (novels and poetry) are usually *considered* more "adult" passtimes than video games, whether this perception is logical or not (it isn't really).

    And that's really what this is all about, perception. People have *decided* that video games and cartoons are for kids. In my opinion, some people have just forgotten that things can be fun for fun's sake and don't have to be placed in little boxes.
  • Timbales

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    Jan 19, 2008 2:04 AM GMT
    I'm 37 and buy comics every week. I watch occasionally, used to watch Justice League. I'd play games if I knew someone with a system.
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    Jan 19, 2008 2:05 AM GMT
    To be young at heart is one thing; to be immature is another.
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    Jan 19, 2008 3:16 AM GMT
    countercultured saidDestiny is the best. Except for maybe Gundam X....nah. Destiny is the best.

    Also, someone said that he balanced playing video games with writing? Like writing is mature? Kids do that all the time. Some of my younger friends are published authors (books, I mean, not magazine articles) and I'm 19 for crying out loud. Writing is as imaginative and intellectual as any video game, and therefore just as stimulating to growing and developing minds (and reflexes, and problem-solving skills).


    Hmm... perhaps but Cowboy Bebop > Any Gundam series icon_cool.gif

    I just wish they had followed GW and made near 50 episodes.
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    Jan 19, 2008 4:16 AM GMT
    Old is the man who can not embrace his inner 5 year old... and immature is the man who is obssessed with that inner 5 year old.

    Balance in all things is the key. I enjoy watching cartoons, reading comic books and playing video games. I balance that with everything else I have to do, which comes first. Devoting time and attention to my BF, my job, my cat, my finances (I'm actually looking at retirement much more seriously), running a household, my fitness, and all the social interests I have... all those things come first. The "kid" stuff comes only if I have time for it.

    Maturity is the other key. There's nothing wrong with having fun... in fact, its important to do that whenever you can. But you have to have the capacity to think for yourself and handle day to day life in an adult manner. You have to be able to make decisions and resolve conflicts as an adult and have adult interests along with the "kid" stuff.
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    Jan 19, 2008 4:20 AM GMT
    Trance23Hmm... perhaps but Cowboy Bebop > Any Gundam series

    Cowboy Bebop rocks... and so did Wolf's Rain, which I wish they'd continue...