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    Mar 04, 2010 2:08 PM GMT
    What is normal to you? This morning I'm reflecting on what people perceive as normal in the GLBT community.

    I don't agree with every lifestyle or genre, but as a community we are so diverse and colorful. I was looking through old topics today, and found this statement a guy used regarding his bisexuality:

    "I am masculine male and when it comes to sex with men, they have to be masculine and normal, non feminine."

    Masculine and normal, as if those two words go together. But I digress - What do you consider normal when it comes to our community? Do you think the fem acting guys in our community are the freaks? Is there a stereotypical genre in our community that you are prejudiced against, or do you take in every color of our rainbow with open arms?
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    Mar 04, 2010 3:13 PM GMT
    I think it's abnormal to obsess on this issue.
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    Mar 04, 2010 3:21 PM GMT
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    Mar 04, 2010 3:23 PM GMT
    Oh Mary Mother of God, not again!

    OK, I have to admit, I think cock rings are utterly detestable. Like I'm supposed to be turned on that I can't give you a proper erection????
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    Mar 04, 2010 3:24 PM GMT
    Boy_Vegas, this is an interesting question. As someone who has been working a bit in the field of 'identity creation', I'd say there is clearly no straight-forward answer to your thread EVER.

    On the one hand, we'd have to quantify 'normal' somehow. Normal would be something that in everyday life we would probably look at as adhering to the norms that are established within and by a certain society/community. Again, these norms will most likely vary from one social environment to another. Context is very important here as it has an impact on our social behaviour, be it acquired or simply a reaction to an 'action'.

    On the other hand we are looking at definitions. We all know more or less what is meant by 'normal' or at least we probably have a picture of this in our minds. Then again, there is a nuance from person to person using the same terminology, isn't there?

    Could I therefore consider something as 'normal'? I guess the only thing I would consider is that diversity is normal when it comes to our societies / communities and it is part (or should be) of a normal life to take other persons for who they are, not just what they stand for, either publicly or in our own minds.

    Long story short: I like myself a nice 'n' normal dude! icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 04, 2010 3:26 PM GMT
    Brit_Bloke saidOh Mary Mother of God, not again!

    OK, I have to admit, I think cock rings are utterly detestable. Like I'm supposed to be turned on that I can't give you a proper erection????


    Oh, sorry, I didn't know that we were discussing THAT identity... icon_lol.gif
    I might actually have a few items to contribute there. Good start, Brit_Bloke!

    Compiling now, may come back later! (this will take time...)
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    Mar 04, 2010 3:29 PM GMT
    If you're gay, you're not normal, the norm, the average, etc. While you may meet and fall in love with a normal guy, no normal guy will fall in love with you. Normal guys fall in love with women. Normal women fall in love with men. Exceptional men (exceptional meaning the exception, not the norm or the normal) fall in love with men and exceptional women fall in love with women. You are not normal if you're looking for love and sex with someone of the same sex. It is embarrassing to witness such striving to be normal. You will never be, no matter how much you protest and no matter how much you proclaim it to be so.
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    Mar 04, 2010 3:30 PM GMT
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    Brit_Bloke saidOh Mary Mother of God, not again!

    OK, I have to admit, I think cock rings are utterly detestable. Like I'm supposed to be turned on that I can't give you a proper erection????


    Oh, sorry, I didn't know that we were discussing THAT identity... icon_lol.gif
    I might actually have a few items to contribute there. Good start, Brit_Bloke!

    Compiling now, may come back later! (this will take time...)


    I didn't bother to read the original post properly, I must admit, as I got the mas/fem vibe quickly and got bored. So I gave it my own spin.

    cockrings are quite a "gay" thing, really, aren't they?

    I mean, I know straight people sniff poppers too, but we kinda have a lead on that, don't we?
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    Mar 04, 2010 3:51 PM GMT
    Actually McGay in today's society, personally, I do consider gay being normal. I have known about and my family has accepted the gay lifestyle since I was a kid with older cousins, it was never taboo, just something you were - Like black, or ugly. So to me gay is normal. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 04, 2010 3:56 PM GMT
    Devilmaycry saidBoy_Vegas, this is an interesting question. As someone who has been working a bit in the field of 'identity creation', I'd say there is clearly no straight-forward answer to your thread EVER.


    There is not supposed to be one single answer, i was asking what each of us perceives as normal and is there anything that you personally are against. There is no answer if you ask the broad question, what is normal, because obviously that is different to everyone. That difference is what i want to discover.
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    Mar 04, 2010 3:58 PM GMT
    lol, in the movie "As Good As It Gets" Helen Hunt complains to her boyfriend Jack Nicolson.

    ""ALL I WANT IS A NORMAL BOYFRIEND!!!", she shouts.

    Her mother peeks out the door of of their shared apartment and says...."We all want that, dear....it doesn't exist....."

    ...and that's the straight world.

    We're each a piece in a massive mosaic looking jigjaw puzzle, Boy_Vegas; find the one that fits you.

    And always keep in mind that no matter how normal one considers themselves, there will always be others that will find you abnormal compared to themselves or what they like.

    -Doug


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    Mar 04, 2010 4:21 PM GMT
    Boy_Vegas saidActually McGay in today's society, personally, I do consider gay being normal. I have known about and my family has accepted the gay lifestyle since I was a kid with older cousins, it was never taboo, just something you were - Like black, or ugly. So to me gay is normal. icon_biggrin.gif


    Your post asked US what WE think is normal, what is normal to us. I offered my perspective and now I'm just further convinced that you're anything but. Sorry.
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    Mar 04, 2010 4:35 PM GMT
    meninlove said lol, in the movie "As Good As It Gets" Helen Hunt complains to her boyfriend Jack Nicolson.

    ""ALL I WANT IS A NORMAL BOYFRIEND!!!", she shouts.

    Her mother peeks out the door of of their shared apartment and says...."We all want that, dear....it doesn't exist....."

    ...and that's the straight world.

    We're each a piece in a massive mosaic looking jigjaw puzzle, Boy_Vegas; find the one that fits you.

    And always keep in mind that no matter how normal one considers themselves, there will always be others that will find you abnormal compared to themselves or what they like.

    -Doug




    Double lol, my favourite part is when Jack Nicholson introduces them to each other

    "Carol the waitress, meet Simon the fag"
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    Mar 04, 2010 4:40 PM GMT
    Boy_Vegas saidActually McGay in today's society, personally, I do consider gay being normal. I have known about and my family has accepted the gay lifestyle since I was a kid with older cousins, it was never taboo, just something you were - Like black, or ugly. So to me gay is normal. icon_biggrin.gif


    Ugly people aren't normal they should all be shot!! It's just unnatural and against God's Plan!!!
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    Mar 04, 2010 4:50 PM GMT


    Ugly people aren't normal they should all be shot!! It's just unnatural and against God's Plan!!![/quote]

    evolution is taking care of that, lol
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    Mar 04, 2010 4:53 PM GMT
    WILDCARD73 said

    Ugly people aren't normal they should all be shot!! It's just unnatural and against God's Plan!!!


    evolution is taking care of that, lol[/quote]

    Does surgery count as "evolution"? Sure Darwin didn't anticipate that one ...
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    Mar 04, 2010 4:58 PM GMT
    Brit_Bloke said
    WILDCARD73 said

    Ugly people aren't normal they should all be shot!! It's just unnatural and against God's Plan!!!


    evolution is taking care of that, lol


    Does surgery count as "evolution"? Sure Darwin didn't anticipate that one ...[/quote]


    ... *looks the other way* ...

    sometimes super-tanning is a way to cover it up as well.
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    Mar 04, 2010 5:00 PM GMT
    kaicho said
    Brit_Bloke said
    WILDCARD73 said

    Ugly people aren't normal they should all be shot!! It's just unnatural and against God's Plan!!!


    evolution is taking care of that, lol


    Does surgery count as "evolution"? Sure Darwin didn't anticipate that one ...



    ... *looks the other way* ...

    sometimes super-tanning is a way to cover it up as well.[/quote]

    Wachoo talkin bout Willis?
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    Mar 04, 2010 5:00 PM GMT
    My half-sister just wrote in an e-mail to me, "Weird is the new normal." I think that's perfect.
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    Mar 04, 2010 5:43 PM GMT
    If you can't be stereotyped, then you're just fuckin' weird.
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    Mar 04, 2010 7:48 PM GMT
    flex89 saidIf you can't be stereotyped, then you're just fuckin' weird.


    Repeat after me: "i before e except after c"!
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    Mar 04, 2010 7:51 PM GMT
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    Boy_Vegas saidActually McGay in today's society, personally, I do consider gay being normal. I have known about and my family has accepted the gay lifestyle since I was a kid with older cousins, it was never taboo, just something you were - Like black, or ugly. So to me gay is normal. icon_biggrin.gif


    Your post asked US what WE think is normal, what is normal to us. I offered my perspective and now I'm just further convinced that you're anything but. Sorry.



    Is it just me or everytime you post something in any topic it seems asinine? Thanks for your input, you and chuckystud should be friends haha. And that, is my perspective.
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    Mar 04, 2010 7:53 PM GMT
    I'm sure it's not just you, twirp, it's you and anyone else who can't follow the logic of his own posts.

    And again, you're not normal, by a longshot.
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    Mar 04, 2010 8:40 PM GMT
    McGay saidI'm sure it's not just you, twirp, it's you and anyone else who can't follow the logic of his own posts.

    And again, you're not normal, by a longshot.


    Dude you're finished done bye out of here pack up and leave take off and slip out the back jack! Word is out you and Chucky are getting married this place isn't big enough for the two of you together. Either that or you're each others Alter-ego!!! icon_lol.gif

    Oh Take Brit_Bloke with you he's not normal either, seems he won last years British version of the Spelling Bee icon_razz.gif

    And he doesn't like normal UGLY PEOPLE that leaves me out. WTF....icon_redface.gif
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    Mar 04, 2010 8:52 PM GMT
    I don't have a perception of what is "the normal gay person" within our sexual minority group, cos I don't know what constitutes an average GLBT person, if you presume that norm=average.

    I don't have a notion of being part of a gay "community" either, maybe that makes me not normal.... when you have something in common does that automatically make you part of a community?

    If it does, then I'm thinking about joining the "guys with receding hairline community". I think I'd have a lot in common with those guys.