A little lost here guys, is there a future for us men?

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    Mar 06, 2010 10:14 PM GMT
    Hey guys, I came across some thoughts these past days, that i'd like to share with you.
    Here's the deal. I'm uncertain about the future when it comes to being gay, in terms of having a steady life. I noticed that so much in this 'world' is about looks. A sizzlin' sixpack, a huge chest, and a killer smile seems to be all there is. Of course, that counts for something. Yet all i'm looking for is true relationship in the future. Someone to laugh with, or to cry for that matter. Someone to hold and to have fun with. Someone you can call 'your other half', stuff like that.
    I know i know! I still believe in the earthquaking-rule-breaking-head-over-heels-manifesting love. So the question is, do you guys believe in it, and have you experienced it?

    This subject might have been spoken about for a million times but i just need some reassurance.

    for the serious responses, it's greatly appreciated. thanks!
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    Mar 06, 2010 10:39 PM GMT

    Yes there is.
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    Mar 06, 2010 11:02 PM GMT
    why thank you icon_smile.gif
  • masculumpedes

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    Mar 06, 2010 11:05 PM GMT
    Bryan91 said Yet all i'm looking for is true relationship in the future. Someone to laugh with, or to cry for that matter. Someone to hold and to have fun with. Someone you can call 'your other half', stuff like that.


    You know, I am looking for the exact same thing....best of luck to the both of us! icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 06, 2010 11:08 PM GMT
    true, but just like everything else...it will go away :i...Im such a downer huh?
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    Mar 06, 2010 11:10 PM GMT
    Bryan91 said A sizzlin' sixpack, a huge chest, and a killer smile seems to be all there is.


    Absolutely not.... couldn't be more wrong

    A nice big pert buttocks is also considerably important and supersedes a six pack any day....

    Abs is for gurlz
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    Mar 06, 2010 11:10 PM GMT
    malefeet said
    Bryan91 said Yet all i'm looking for is true relationship in the future. Someone to laugh with, or to cry for that matter. Someone to hold and to have fun with. Someone you can call 'your other half', stuff like that.


    You know, I am looking for the exact same thing....best of luck to the both of us! icon_wink.gif


    indeed my friend! icon_smile.gif
    ah well. it's not like i want my own little utopia or something, without work there's no results, right?
  • jgymnast733

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    Mar 06, 2010 11:14 PM GMT
    Having all those attributes is what gets me in trouble, not to mention the bubble butt...So, i'v been looking for someone with the same attributes in hopes of finding THE ONE.....
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    Mar 06, 2010 11:16 PM GMT
    No, I don't believe in "earthquaking-rule-breaking-head-over-heels-manifesting love." That's a fairytale, and those who live fairytales are few and far between. But that doesn't mean there isn't a satisfying relationship out there.....somewhere.
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    Mar 06, 2010 11:16 PM GMT
    Heyyyy malefeet without the sunglasses! You have a beautiful face.

    -us
  • GQjock

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    Mar 06, 2010 11:16 PM GMT
    To answer your question
    Yes ... there is
    But it's one of those things where if you try and force it it's less likely to happen
    If you live you life by trying to be the best man possible
    whether that's physically mentally or a combination of both
    people will become attracted TO you
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    Mar 06, 2010 11:20 PM GMT
    I believe in true love but I do not think its something we all are entitled to and will get. I am not capable of passionate head over heels etc....I want a quiet love that is rarely spoken about but is understood.
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    Mar 06, 2010 11:20 PM GMT
    I am positive there is someone else out there for me. It's just hard finding him, apparently.

    It would be nice if more gay men were capable of being dedicated, good boyfriends though. But I'm pretty sure that's an issue in the straight world as well.
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    Mar 06, 2010 11:22 PM GMT
    abelian0 saidI am positive there is someone else out there for me. It's just hard finding him, apparently.

    It would be nice if more gay men were capable of being dedicated, good boyfriends though. But I'm pretty sure that's an issue in the straight world as well.


    What is a "good/dedicated boyfriend"...that's rather subjective to the person involved...
  • masculumpedes

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    Mar 06, 2010 11:23 PM GMT
    meninlove said Heyyyy malefeet without the sunglasses! You have a beautiful face.

    -us


    Thanks...I thought it was time to stop teasing the guys with my faceless photos...icon_twisted.gif
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    Mar 06, 2010 11:25 PM GMT
    IsmeIvan1990 saidtrue, but just like everything else...it will go away :i...Im such a downer huh?


    Now Debbie don't feel like that.
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    Mar 06, 2010 11:27 PM GMT
    I believe that if you stay open to it and BE the boyfriend you want to have, earth shattering love will find you. There is a downside to it though... when you find real love, you may find it's so wonderful that when it ends, it's equally earth shattering.
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    Mar 06, 2010 11:29 PM GMT
    One of the benefits of giving back my gay Card at 25, was I left so much of that bullshit behind, and my life as a whole has not been inflicted by it. I started to hear Pattison what a nice guy you are, instead of pattison what a great body you have.

    I've also been blessed to of had/have two long term relationships since I gave back my gay card. Not sure any of that would of come to pass, if I had never done so.

    Yes there is hope.
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    Mar 06, 2010 11:30 PM GMT
    abm1985 saidI believe that if you stay open to it and BE the boyfriend you want to have, earth shattering love will find you. There is a downside to it though... when you find real love, you may find it's so wonderful that when it ends, it's equally earth shattering.


    Agreed!
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    Mar 06, 2010 11:33 PM GMT
    Bryan, I know it is a big bad world out there and it is a lot easier to face it from the security of a relationship. Don't be afraid, there is tons of guys out there looking for meaningful human interactions, be they friendships or relationships. Just go out and do stuff that you enjoy with other gay guys, there are so many opportunities in Amsterdam, go to the CoC if you want to volunteer, there are also gay sports-clubs. I've played in gay volleyball tournaments in Amsterdam (around the time you were born icon_redface.gif) with my team from Koeln.
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    Mar 06, 2010 11:33 PM GMT
    abm1985 saidI believe that if you stay open to it and BE the boyfriend you want to have, earth shattering love will find you. There is a downside to it though... when you find real love, you may find it's so wonderful that when it ends, it's equally earth shattering.


    So true as high as it can take you, it can also take you to your depist of depth of despair too. But it all depends on how you process it too. One true love, my soul mate, was murded just before Christmas in a terrorist act. Yes I have hurt, but it has not totally consumed me, because I never forget all those years I had his undying love, his friendship, his support too, he is still with me everyday, he is with me right now too.

    But if he walked away from me for another, maybe it would all be so diffrent; in fact I'm sure it would be.
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    Mar 06, 2010 11:34 PM GMT
    Pattison said
    abm1985 saidI believe that if you stay open to it and BE the boyfriend you want to have, earth shattering love will find you. There is a downside to it though... when you find real love, you may find it's so wonderful that when it ends, it's equally earth shattering.


    So true as high as it can take you, it can also take you yo your dentist depth of despair too. But it all depends on how you process it too. One true love, my soul mate, was murded just before Christmas in a terrorist act. Yes I have hurt, but it has not totally consumed me. because I never forget all those years I had his undying love, his friendship, his support too. he is still with me everyday, her is with me right now too.

    But if he walked away from me for another, maybe it would all be so diffrent; in fact I'm sure it would be.


    Sorry for your loss
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    Mar 06, 2010 11:36 PM GMT
    MsclDrew said
    Bryan91 said A sizzlin' sixpack, a huge chest, and a killer smile seems to be all there is.


    Absolutely not.... couldn't be more wrong

    A nice big pert buttocks is also considerably important and supersedes a six pack any day....

    Abs is for gurlz


    Amen to that!
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    Mar 06, 2010 11:58 PM GMT
    I refuse to believe there is no one out there for me. Its just a matter of finding him. I had a wife ... that didnt quite work out, obviously ... sometimes I do think I missed my chance because I came out so late in life. But I still have hope. I just have to! icon_confused.gif
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    Mar 06, 2010 11:58 PM GMT
    Lol, I'm sure you aren't the only one who wants to find their soulmate and settle down. I'm definitely like that, and there are plenty more of us out there. It's just the matter of finding someone who you can get along with, which is obviously a lot harder than it sounds =P