What makes a good top?

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    Mar 07, 2010 3:02 AM GMT
    Listen - I'm not here asking for a political discussion on whether there should be roles of tops or bottoms or anything else. If that's what you're here for, stick a cork in it and move on. Just wondering from the bottom's point of view what tops do that really turn you on? What are some turn offs? I love being a top and aim to please. icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 07, 2010 4:14 AM GMT
    Depends are we talking what makes a good top in your imagination or in real life?

    What makes a good top in my experience for me, someone who can match my aggressiveness when it comes out, who is at least as strong as I am, perhaps a little forceful on occasion but knows not to take it to far or knows when to pull back and although he can be the dominate one doesn't mind giving up that role to me as I'd do for him, plus some ferocious passionate desire that'll sorta take over and just let us decide physically where things will go.

    OOOh and with a sex drive that can meet my own would ultimately be nice
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    Mar 08, 2010 9:37 AM GMT
    In my experience a good top needs to be aggressive, doesn't hold back, passionate & strong. I like my tops to be a beast!icon_lol.gif

    But once in a while I'd like a gentle lover.
  • FriscoJansen

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    Mar 08, 2010 10:05 AM GMT
    What turns me on the most is when a man knows what he wants and takes it without any question. I like a man that can be aggressive in bed yet have moments of passion mixed in. I like it rough mostly...I like my ass slapped and a man moaning pushes me overboard. I like it verbal. I'm very sexual and prefer a man that can LAST as well. That's what I need. A man that knows my limits and yet at times knows that sometimes no really does mean yes.
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    Mar 08, 2010 10:09 AM GMT
    a good bottom
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    Mar 08, 2010 5:23 PM GMT
    A good lover is someone that works with you to get the two (or more) of you off. Maybe that means hitting the bottom's prostate from a certain angle, maybe that means having tacos before shitting on a glass coffee table. The only universal rule is pay attention.
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    Mar 08, 2010 5:35 PM GMT
    Good tops always make the best bottoms.

    The best way to be a great top is to be born Brazilian.
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    Mar 08, 2010 5:47 PM GMT
    Dumber than dirt and fucks like a runaway jack-hammer.
  • cityguy39

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    Mar 08, 2010 5:51 PM GMT
    A good top will get plugged every now and then to remember what it feels like for the bottom. For me, it keeps empathy for the bottom, because I remember how they feel when I'm topping them. That's just me though.
  • OptimusMatt

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    Mar 08, 2010 6:18 PM GMT
    GuerrillaSodomite saidDumber than dirt and fucks like a runaway jack-hammer.


    Amen
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    Mar 08, 2010 6:20 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidA good lover is someone that works with you to get the two (or more) of you off. Maybe that means hitting the bottom's prostate from a certain angle, maybe that means having tacos before shitting on a glass coffee table. The only universal rule is pay attention.



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  • Timbales

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    Mar 08, 2010 7:06 PM GMT
    I don't remember. icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 08, 2010 7:19 PM GMT
    I'm vers, but when I bottom I expect whoever is topping me to push the envelope. I want a top who's verbal, aggressive, and knows how to be dirty. A guy who knows what positions he likes and can flip you from one to the other in a second. I'm not a submissive bottom at all, so when a guy is like this, it creates some awesome sexual tension because we're both trying to show the other how much we can tire each other out. For instance, I had one guy who liked just plain old me on top riding him. But he made it hot by slapping my ass a lot, constantly saying how good it felt and how fast or slow or deep he wanted me to go, and kept saying how he loved that he was stretching me out. He then pushed the envelope by putting his finger in me while his cock was in there too. It hurt a little bit but the fact that he was doing something I could tell he's wanted to try turned me on.
  • triniboy

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    Mar 08, 2010 7:31 PM GMT
    First, I'm not a bottom but I feel like sticking in my 2 cents real quick.
    Second, I am not trying to boast.

    From my experiences and the critiques I've received, I would have to say that my success at being a good top is figuring out what my partner likes and then incorporating that into what comes naturally for me to make us both happy.
    To me it's definitely a team effort.
    Also, no top can really perform well with a bad bottom.
  • triniboy

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    Mar 08, 2010 7:36 PM GMT
    AJeJr88 saidI'm vers, but when I bottom I expect whoever is topping me to push the envelope. I want a top who's verbal, aggressive, and knows how to be dirty. A guy who knows what positions he likes and can flip you from one to the other in a second. I'm not a submissive bottom at all, so when a guy is like this, it creates some awesome sexual tension because we're both trying to show the other how much we can tire each other out. For instance, I had one guy who liked just plain old me on top riding him. But he made it hot by slapping my ass a lot, constantly saying how good it felt and how fast or slow or deep he wanted me to go, and kept saying how he loved that he was stretching me out. He then pushed the envelope by putting his finger in me while his cock was in there too. It hurt a little bit but the fact that he was doing something I could tell he's wanted to try turned me on.


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    Mar 08, 2010 7:43 PM GMT
    Being able to get off on seeing a guy enjoy riding your cock.
  • jrs1

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    Mar 08, 2010 8:10 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidA good lover is someone that works with you to get the two (or more) of you off. Maybe that means hitting the bottom's prostate from a certain angle, maybe that means having tacos before shitting on a glass coffee table. The only universal rule is pay attention.

    my oh my ... this hit my prostate at ' the right angle. '
  • jrs1

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    Mar 08, 2010 8:11 PM GMT
    GuerrillaSodomite saidDumber than dirt and fucks like a runaway jack-hammer.

    you coy betch ... iLike it.
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    Mar 08, 2010 8:14 PM GMT
    Enjoy yourself, stay hard and enjoy watching and making me cum 3 - 5 times before I drop from exhaustion. I can take care of all the rest. ... size helps.
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    Mar 08, 2010 8:21 PM GMT
    stamina, aggression, rhythm, humour.

    At least that´s what makes me good.

    Oh and size... icon_rolleyes.gif

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    Mar 15, 2010 2:42 PM GMT
    cityguy39 saidA good top will get plugged every now and then to remember what it feels like for the bottom. For me, it keeps empathy for the bottom, because I remember how they feel when I'm topping them. That's just me though.







    I would so love to top you ........mmmmm.....
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    Mar 15, 2010 2:45 PM GMT
    Can Someone please top me?!!?
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    Mar 17, 2010 2:35 AM GMT
    The better question is what makes a good lover?
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    Mar 23, 2010 1:54 PM GMT
    timboice77 saidListen - I'm not here asking for a political discussion on whether there should be roles of tops or bottoms or anything else. If that's what you're here for, stick a cork in it and move on. Just wondering from the bottom's point of view what tops do that really turn you on? What are some turn offs? I love being a top and aim to please. <span style=COLORED TEXT GOES HERE/assets.rjstatic.com/images/global/icon_wink.gif" />
    RESIZED TEXT GOES HERE i love being on top and bottom but wht rreally getts me is how hard and how long they can last !! and as long as im getting it somtime i still love men!!!
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    Mar 23, 2010 2:11 PM GMT
    control, has rhythm, able to multitask