Caslon is really puzzled by this...

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    Mar 07, 2010 3:10 AM GMT
    What does an open relationship mean? I see it so often. It seems that an open relationship means the sex is open. But isnt that precisely the part of a relationship that is closed and makes it a relationship? Otherwise, arent you just friends with benefits? I really dont understnad.
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    Mar 07, 2010 3:49 AM GMT
    I think it depends on the couple. For some, the emotional connection is the basis for the relationship. And sex is just sex. But for others, yeah I could see it as a relationship of convenience. They each see other people, but at the end of the day, they come home to each other.

    I don't try to understand. Different strokes for different folks, I suppose. As long as everyone involved is happy, that's all that matters.
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    Mar 07, 2010 3:54 AM GMT
    Caslon13000 saidIt seems that an open relationship means the sex is open. But isnt that precisely the part of a relationship that is closed and makes it a relationship?

    That sounds like you're saying it's the sex that makes the relationship. Yes?
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    Mar 07, 2010 3:59 AM GMT
    there is more to a relationship then sex.. unless it's a relationship of sex then it's just sex, but in the context of what your talking about, there is a whole lot more to it
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    Mar 07, 2010 4:01 AM GMT
    It all depends on each person's point of view. When I am in a relationship, I only have sex with my partner and he only (supposedly) has sex with me because I attach emotions to the sex to turn it from just having sex...into making love. However, I do know of some gay couples who haven't had sex in years and still live together for the 'security' of having a home.icon_sad.gif
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    Mar 07, 2010 4:05 AM GMT
    What's confusing? A relationship is determined by those who participate and a friendship is the base of any. respect is the value given. while I don't think a open relationship would wrk for me, I do think it must take a lot for those willing to share and define a difference of sex and love. I do wonder tho if all participants are willing or if one is afraid that he will lose the other if he's not on board and willing to share.
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    Mar 07, 2010 4:23 AM GMT

    Well, I tried it, and discovered I'm the monotonous, er, monogamous( dayum I love that joke) type.

    Basically, love+sex+friendship over here with BF ....and trick = sex + friendship(optional) over there. Lots of ground rules, like what activity can be done with trick.

    -Doug
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    Mar 07, 2010 5:03 AM GMT
    I sometimes suspect that there are those who claim this appellation just to hide the fact that they arent in any relationship....and the partner can be purely imaginary.
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    Mar 07, 2010 5:08 AM GMT
    Caslon13000 saidI sometimes suspect that there are those who claim this appellation just to hide the fact that they arent in any relationship....and the partner can be purely imaginary.


    Interesting. Earlier you said, " I really dont understnad."