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  • Joeyphx444

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    Mar 10, 2010 5:01 AM GMT
    Are you confrontational? In every situation or at certain times or when you HAVE to?
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    Mar 10, 2010 5:04 AM GMT
    Pick your fights..that way people know when you are serious....icon_cool.gif
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    Mar 10, 2010 4:12 PM GMT
    I keep down and low. I don't invite confrontation. I avoid people looking for trouble by ignoring them or by giving them a fake smile and one of those generic safe responses like ..."yeah, that's life"......or a shrug. The minute you respond on their level, they got you hooked into their poisonous swamp.

    There are a lot of miserable dip shits out there who like to bring out the worst in people and thrive on non productive confrontations.

    I don't laugh at stupid jokes or participate in gossip or complaining about stuff.

    Sometimes people get pissed when I don't participate in the nonsense and they become offended and confrontational. I handle it calmly and THAT pisses them off even more. They end up staying away from me because I give hints that if they continue, I can verbally, or physicaly rip their tongues out.

    I can be a real hard ass...or a bitch.......depending on how you look at it. icon_eek.gif

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    Mar 10, 2010 4:23 PM GMT
    Wow, I guess that answered the question.
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    Mar 10, 2010 4:33 PM GMT
    I HATE this word!!!
    I let people come to me I don't go to people. People know when I am mad so they ask me if anything is wrong then I let it all out!
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    Mar 10, 2010 4:38 PM GMT
    Not really...but then again I'm no push over either.
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    Mar 10, 2010 4:39 PM GMT
    Jmuscle33 saidAre you confrontational? In every situation or at certain times or when you HAVE to?


    A smart man picks his battles. Very, very, very, very few things in life can't wait five minutes.

    Do I put up with assholes? What do you THINK?
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    Mar 10, 2010 4:48 PM GMT
    If walking up to people in a public place and asking them if they've allowed Jesus Christ into their hearts is confrontational, then, color me guilty. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 10, 2010 4:50 PM GMT
    Fuck you bitch


    McGay saidIf walking up to people in a public place and asking them if they've allowed Jesus Christ into their hearts is confrontational, then, color me guilty. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 10, 2010 4:51 PM GMT
    Hmm, I think if you let Jesus Christ into your heart, he might throw up. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 10, 2010 5:07 PM GMT
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    Do you remember that line from "Hannah and Her Sisters"? Max von Sydow says "If Jesus came back and saw this he'd never stop throwing up".
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    Mar 10, 2010 5:16 PM GMT
    I do now. icon_idea.gif
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    Mar 10, 2010 5:17 PM GMT
    I'm a kitten until I need to use an open lap lane that's being co-opted by groups using intimidation tactics. Specifically, when I'm trying to do a brisk backstroke non-stop for 20 minutes in lap lanes designated for fast swimmers that are taken over by "competitors" who spend 5% of their time sprinting, another 5% doing slow kickboard drills, and the other 90% of the 90+ minutes they spend there blocking the return lanes while coffee klatching discussing stroke technique, the good old days and lord knows what else. While other people are waiting to get into the pool (6 person maximum per lane).

    It's way tougher to work around than a cell phone and water bottle left on a bench someone's not using at the gym. The attitude of these folk is that this is "what they do" in the fast lane, it's what they've been doing for 15 years, and their competitions and navy seal training take precedence - and some of these folk are off duty, beer bellied lifeguards who work at that facility and should know better! I don't stand for it, tell 'em what they're doing's not in the bylaws, it's not a democracy, there's no majority rule, they should collectively rent lap time (I live in a rich zip code) and that this ain't high school and I'm lawyered up. Would they step in front of a speeding car where the driver has his back to the windshield?

    When I do any other stroke (where I have complete visibility) they can do whatever the heck they want but when I need to backstroke? Safety first - sail over motor, brisk swimmers with less visibility and maneuverability should be deferred to. (I'm both a sailor AND a certified lifeguard.) Okay, I'm getting off the soapbox now. Meow!
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    Mar 10, 2010 5:17 PM GMT
    UrsaMajor saidicon_biggrin.gif

    Do you remember that line from "Hannah and Her Sisters"? Max von Sydow says "If Jesus came back and saw this he'd never stop throwing up".


    that's funny, considering it was Max Von Sydow
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    Mar 10, 2010 6:12 PM GMT
    Depends on the situation to be honest.
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    Mar 10, 2010 6:30 PM GMT
    Not as bad as I used to be... quitting drinking helped enormously with that, but so did realizing that I do have a say in how big a deal I want to make of things.
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    Mar 10, 2010 6:32 PM GMT
    While I am very empathetic to most, I still manage to convey my opinion during confrontational situations. If they don't understand where I am coming from or my concerns on the subject, how will they learn to prevent the situation next time? After all, the best communication is the most effective communication. When communicating concerns most efficiently, it's best to be as direct as possible.

    Basically, I'll remind non-confrontational until a certain degree. Sometimes it's best to have confrontation. I mean, there is a such thing as constructive criticism.

    Hopefully this all makes since. lol
  • Celticmusl

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    Mar 10, 2010 6:58 PM GMT
    How dare you call me confrontational. I know what my rights are. I know when I've been insulted!
  • Joeyphx444

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    Mar 10, 2010 7:06 PM GMT
    eagermuscle saidI'm a kitten until I need to use an open lap lane that's being co-opted by groups using intimidation tactics. Specifically, when I'm trying to do a brisk backstroke non-stop for 20 minutes in lap lanes designated for fast swimmers that are taken over by "competitors" who spend 5% of their time sprinting, another 5% doing slow kickboard drills, and the other 90% of the 90+ minutes they spend there blocking the return lanes while coffee klatching discussing stroke technique, the good old days and lord knows what else. While other people are waiting to get into the pool (6 person maximum per lane).

    It's way tougher to work around than a cell phone and water bottle left on a bench someone's not using at the gym. The attitude of these folk is that this is "what they do" in the fast lane, it's what they've been doing for 15 years, and their competitions and navy seal training take precedence - and some of these folk are off duty, beer bellied lifeguards who work at that facility and should know better! I don't stand for it, tell 'em what they're doing's not in the bylaws, it's not a democracy, there's no majority rule, they should collectively rent lap time (I live in a rich zip code) and that this ain't high school and I'm lawyered up. Would they step in front of a speeding car where the driver has his back to the windshield?

    When I do any other stroke (where I have complete visibility) they can do whatever the heck they want but when I need to backstroke? Safety first - sail over motor, brisk swimmers with less visibility and maneuverability should be deferred to. (I'm both a sailor AND a certified lifeguard.) Okay, I'm getting off the soapbox now. Meow!


    umm what?? English please
  • GQjock

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    Mar 10, 2010 7:30 PM GMT
    Nope ..... Nonconfrontational

    But I do always get what I want

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  • myklet1

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    Mar 10, 2010 7:39 PM GMT
    I am not confrontational but I speak the truth as it comes.
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    Mar 10, 2010 7:52 PM GMT
    Jmuscle33 said
    eagermuscle saidI'm a kitten until I need to use an open lap lane that's being co-opted by groups using intimidation tactics....

    umm what?? English please

    I confront swimmers who cut me off in the lap lane because it's dangerous. (How's that?)
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    Mar 10, 2010 8:06 PM GMT
    In fact it's a rare thing for me to have to be, I'll just walk away. But I have been put in that situation, and people have not been prepared for what was to come. It's like they have stood in the doorway, when they started their attack.

    I can stand corrected to a boss if I have done something wrong, yet there is a fine line between them pointing something out and using it to abuse. if they start to abuse, look out; there is always another job, and there is.

    But my life rarely is ever in such a situation, maybe the only time really is here at RJ, where many people do not appreciate diversity, they want to be in a room of people who all think the same as them, to feel they are correct in their thinking. I'm not good with swimming with that flow, a dead fish can do that.

    But out here, such things rarely happen to me. But I will have to stand my ground if it's needed, other than that why bother.