I really like this guy.... My first time... Advice?

  • heyman

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    Mar 10, 2010 3:05 PM GMT
    Ok, So there is this guy, who I really like and we are about to be in bed, he has a lot of experience, but I have just done Oral and just twice in my life.
    I want to give him the best oral that I possibly can, but I have no idea if I have done it right before, and there is a chance that I will do bottom...

    Anyone could please give me some advice...?
    I really like him and I don't want to dissapoint him
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  • stevendust

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    Mar 10, 2010 4:19 PM GMT
    Talk to him about it. I always found it hot when a guy told me what he liked during sex or would find out what he was doing right for me.
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    Mar 10, 2010 4:40 PM GMT
    exactly. And if you think he's the right guy to do it with the first time, even better. Just be confident, have a good time!
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    Mar 10, 2010 4:42 PM GMT
    heyman saidOk, So there is this guy, who I really like and we are about to be in bed, he has a lot of experience, but I have just done Oral and just twice in my life.
    I want to give him the best oral that I possibly can, but I have no idea if I have done it right before, and there is a chance that I will do bottom...

    Anyone could please give me some advice...?
    I really like him and I don't want to dissapoint him
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    Practice makes perfect. It is what it is. Unless you go take sex lessons there's not a whole lot you can do, right?

    You DO realize how silly and a turn off the whole question is? Just go with it.

    It's sex. It's not nuclear medicine.

    Nothing is a bigger turnoff than some fairy going on about all his esteem issues. STOP IT. Just have sex. It's JUST sex.
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    Mar 10, 2010 4:42 PM GMT
    Bryan91 saidexactly. And if you think he's the right guy to do it with the first time, even better. Just be confident, have a good time!


    DOH! He's clearly not confident or else he would not have asked such a question. LOL.
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    Mar 10, 2010 4:43 PM GMT
    Ok, stop. Just stop.

    You are working yourself into a tizzy, mister, and you really don't need to. The first time with a new lover is often a bit awkward. Both people get nervous and worry about their performance. That is perfectly natural. You just have to clear your head, relax, and enjoy the experience. Why do you think so many people go to bars to meet men, or go on dates with plenty of drinks? Because everyone is a nervous wreck and needs a drinky drink to calm down.

    There really is nothing you can do to prepare other than work the truck stops, which I do not recommend. Everyone is different and gets off on different things. Just pay attention to how he reacts. If he moans and sighs and thrusts, keep going. If he screams bloody murder then lay off the teeth a bit.

    Have fun. Send pictures.
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    Mar 10, 2010 4:44 PM GMT
    Munching's Sex Therapy - Today at 2:00 p.m. on Big 8 TV. Am I good enough? Am I big enough? Will I make the grade? Tune in today, at 2:00!!
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    Mar 10, 2010 4:50 PM GMT
    Instead of concentrating on what you can do for him, get him really turned on by telling him, or showing him, what he can do for YOU . Tell him what you like. Give him some direction. Get very verbally and physicaly assertive. When you are turned on, he will notice and eagerly go along for the ride.

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    Mar 10, 2010 5:02 PM GMT
    chuckystud saidMunching's Sex Therapy - Today at 2:00 p.m. on Big 8 TV. Am I good enough? Am I big enough? Will I make the grade? Tune in today, at 2:00!!


    Oh my god. That would be awesome. You have to be a guest. Whenever some pudgy Catholic can't get a boner because of the heavy guilt he feels you can tell him to drop his false belief system and get his fat ass to the gym.
  • jrs1

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    Mar 10, 2010 5:21 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidOk, stop. Just stop.
    Why do you think so many people go to bars to meet men, or go on dates with plenty of drinks? Because everyone is a nervous wreck and needs a drinky drink to calm down. Have fun. Send pictures.


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    oh, munchie. I love it. (and so true, too.)
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    Mar 10, 2010 5:47 PM GMT
    Relax, have a good time, and try not to sweat it. Every body has a first time, and it's awkward for everyone. Enjoy it!
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    Mar 10, 2010 5:57 PM GMT
    Man you guys are insensitive. He's never done anything more than give head a couple times, now he's talking about being with someone more experienced and bottoming for the first time. My advice would be tell the guy he's the first and you're not really sure exactly what to do. If he doesn't understand and tell you he will go slow and won't do anything you're not comfortable with, don't do it. Wait for someone who will be patient with you and take it slow at first, if all goes well and it feels good and you want him to get a bit more aggressive that's fine but the last thing you want is someone whose going to just do what he wants and not worry about if it's painful for you or if you enjoy it. Not much of a first experience.
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    Mar 10, 2010 6:00 PM GMT
    Make sure you use your teeth. Chew on that sucker like you're eating corn on the cob. Guys love that!
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    Mar 10, 2010 6:06 PM GMT
    reppaT saidMake sure you use your teeth. Chew on that sucker like you're eating corn on the cob. Guys love that!

    You do know you will burn in Hell for that comment, don't you?
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    Mar 10, 2010 6:10 PM GMT
    chuckystud said
    Bryan91 saidexactly. And if you think he's the right guy to do it with the first time, even better. Just be confident, have a good time!


    DOH! He's clearly not confident or else he would not have asked such a question. LOL.


    So that's why it's my advice to try it.. that's kinda the point here..?
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    Mar 10, 2010 8:03 PM GMT
    I think it's cute as fuck when a guy is super new to things, just tell him you're new to it etcetc...it'll be up to him to be nice or annoyed about it.
  • GQjock

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    Mar 10, 2010 8:07 PM GMT
    Yeah I agree with the other guys here
    Talk to him preferrably just before you hop into bed and
    tell him that you're pretty new to this
    It's kinda fun when you have guys that are new
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    Mar 14, 2010 6:22 PM GMT
    if your about to be in bed with him then why the hell are you on the forums talking about it??