How DARE you do better than me!? : BF finds a new BF!

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    Jan 19, 2008 9:11 PM GMT
    Breaking up is easy to do if you search your soul and find that the two of you REALLY would be better apart.
    Or, if you find that he's a pig and want to do yourself a favor, do the rational thing, and dump his ass.

    Whatever the reason, the break up had to happen!

    LOL, so why does it hurt so much when they find another?


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    Jan 19, 2008 9:56 PM GMT
    Love is a chemical addiction in the brain. Addictions suck when you're cut off.
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    Jan 19, 2008 10:04 PM GMT
    Because they still feel like your property. Not to compare gay men to dogs (if the shoe fits) but you've already marked your territory. Even if you've let him go, he's still marked. So when someone moves in on them it feels like someone is taking something from you. And that never feels good.

    Once you get over that, or that he found someone before you did, you'll see that this new relationship doesn't replace the one you had with him. And that eventhough you're apart now, you'll still be a part of who he is forever.

    ~Alex
  • tinman511

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    Jan 19, 2008 10:11 PM GMT
    My first partner introduced me to his new BF.. I told him wow he's cute...Only to be told that the Bf thought I was ugly...well 2 weeks later his new BF left a party with me... Apparently he didn't think I was that ugly.. It was never planned but I do Love revenge when I get to spoon feed it to a real asshole


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    Jan 19, 2008 10:44 PM GMT
    I was not hurt when my ex-lover found a new lover at all because I had totally moved on. I felt sorry for his new lover because my ex-lover was totally unstable!icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 19, 2008 11:09 PM GMT
    LOL, don't address your comments to me. I still got my ex on ice. I plan to thaw him out when we aren't so different anymore.
  • GQjock

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    Jan 19, 2008 11:28 PM GMT
    Yeah?
    You think that's bad?
    How about finding out your ex-BF

    is now part of a threesome?
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    Jan 20, 2008 1:15 AM GMT


    Ouch, sorry to hear about that GQ.
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    Jan 20, 2008 1:26 AM GMT
    Boyfriend dumps you.

    Boyfriend finds new boyfriend but you don't know about it.

    Ex-BF keeps coming back for hookups every few days or week.

    You find out a couple months down the road that he's been in a "monogamous" relationship since the week he dumped you.

    ....

    Anger, pain, frustration, revulsion, confusion, pride, and a whole lot of WTF?
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    Jan 20, 2008 1:39 AM GMT
    wow, I didn't start this post expecting all the drama, but damn, MEN ARE PIGS! I smell a sequal for Waiting to Exhale with an all gay cast, what do you guys think? I'm down as long as I get to play Whitney Houston's character.
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    Jan 20, 2008 6:08 AM GMT
    one of my exes dumped me so he could have ONE night with a straight guy (wanted to show the dude how much sex with him meant to him), he got rejected but that was still pretty fucked up.
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    Jan 20, 2008 7:18 AM GMT

    AAUUUGGH! Whatta douch, served him right!
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    Jan 20, 2008 7:26 AM GMT
    Once I've decided that a relationship is over, I just say something like, "Best of everything to you, man" and I hope they move on. I'd rather the guy find someone new than have him carrying a torch for me.
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    Jan 20, 2008 7:35 AM GMT
    guilt
  • kew1

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    Jan 20, 2008 1:10 PM GMT
    GuiltyGear saidLOL, don't address your comments to me. I still got my ex on ice. I plan to thaw him out when we aren't so different anymore.


    Has Cryogenics improved that much?
    Keeping an ex in liquid nitrogen seems a little creepy:-)
  • zakariahzol

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    Jan 20, 2008 1:57 PM GMT
    My ex who use to live in my house ,and still have a key. Come over one day and demanded to know who shoes , chains and cap in my living room. He latter told me eventhough everything over between us he still think about me and have a right to be jealous of anyone else I am going out with. Its sort off puzzling but flattering , cause a much as I want to let go. I still think I love him and concern about him. You know I afraid anything bad, or he get hurt (he a policemen) or gettting some horrible disease (god forbid) like AIDS.

    It one of those things, a matter of the heart. Probably somebody in Real Jock should write a gay version of "A women who love to much".
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    Jan 20, 2008 4:55 PM GMT
    Hey, hon...break ups do not just happen. You guys ain't together for a reason and just because you still care about him (and you always will) doesn't mean that you love him. If you did, you two never would have had to part. I'd kick him out of my house when he stopped by, wish him well. I'd point somewhere, "the men are that way!" And, give him a push or two in the right direction. LOL, I loved your story, Zakarihzol, you sound like a real sweetheart, he shoulda hung on tigther. He a man who lose good thing!
    ok
  • zakariahzol

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    Jan 20, 2008 10:42 PM GMT

    GG
    Wow, it sure feel nice to be call a sweetheart from a dream lover like you. To bad we live in a different side of the world.
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    Jan 21, 2008 1:09 AM GMT
    You called me, Dream Lover, I like that. I always like to be called nice things.

    james

    Oh, thanks, Miss.
  • zakariahzol

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    Jan 21, 2008 12:23 PM GMT
    Well, you deserve it
  • cowboyupnorth

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    Jan 26, 2008 4:36 AM GMT
    GuiltyGear saidLOL, don't address your comments to me. I still got my ex on ice. I plan to thaw him out when we aren't so different anymore.


    Damn why didn't I think of that.

    I do not think it has to hurt, I think we let in hurt. Change your thoughts and you will not be stuck in pain. I know this but I am not applying it, lol.

    My ex destroyed my credit, business etc. Cheated on me and I still love the bastard.. He is dating a 23 yr old now, he claims to love and plans on moving in with. I have dated but no true love or even close. I would not care but I was his first and only BF and he was my first real BF we were together close to 12 yrs. I feel I grew up with him and it was us against the world. Sad to lose that history. We really knew each other from having nothing, graduating college, bla, bla bla.

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    Jan 26, 2008 4:52 AM GMT
    UUUUGH! What a pig your boyfriend was, cowboyupnorth, he should be delt with slow and painful like.
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    Jan 28, 2008 9:54 PM GMT
    My ex, who claimed to beo ver me, hadn't spoken to mee for 8 months since we broke up. Then we made some tepid overtures to a friendship. Some bitchy queen showed him my Manhunt ad, and my ex flipped out! Told me never to speak to him again, etc. I was thinking WTF? If he was over me, why would he flip out over me wanting to get laid?

    At the time, it both amused and angered me. Now I don't care, but I always thought his reaction was curious.