Why is it soo hard to find a Out jewish man...?

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    Mar 11, 2010 1:07 AM GMT
    I mean....are they only dating guys from their own faith.....i could convert..lol..i mean..what gives...does Religion play an important part now when selecting boyfriends/ future long term lovers?

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    Mar 11, 2010 3:04 AM GMT
    What? A gay Jew? Is there such thingicon_eek.gif
  • silverfox

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    Mar 11, 2010 5:46 AM GMT
    No....there is no such thing as a gay Jew.
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    Mar 11, 2010 8:35 AM GMT
    silverfox1 saidNo....there is no such thing as a gay Jew.



    Surely you jest. I know several on this site.
  • Bunjamon

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    Mar 11, 2010 8:47 AM GMT
    Half of the gays I know from university are jews.
  • silverfox

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    Mar 11, 2010 2:35 PM GMT
    ErikTaurean said
    silverfox1 saidNo....there is no such thing as a gay Jew.



    Surely you jest. I know several on this site.


    LOL I am teasing I am a big old Jew. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 11, 2010 3:45 PM GMT
    tereseus1 saidI mean....are they only dating guys from their own faith.....i could convert..lol..i mean..what gives...does Religion play an important part now when selecting boyfriends/ future long term lovers?

    I wasn't aware there was a trend one way or the other. Could the New York Jewish population where you live be more insular than elsewhere?

    In the Fort Lauderdale area we actually know fewer gay couples where both partners are Jewish, than couples where one of them is Jewish, and the other Christian. Indeed, the 2 most lasting couples we know among our immediate friends, each paired together over 25 years, are both mixed faith.

    As for converting, I stayed with a gay Jewish guy down here for a while, and attended synagogue with him, at a mostly gay temple. I found the service very beautiful and comforting, even if I couldn't understand the Hebrew parts (reminded me of hearing the old Latin Mass from my youth, that not all Catholics understood, either). I might have considered converting, if he & I had gotten serious.

    And I'm already circumcised. But a possible issue for an uncut guy, I suppose. In any case, I see lots & lots of out Jewish gays down here, dating Jews and non-Jews. Like most general questions of this kind, a lot has to do with location and demographics.
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    Mar 11, 2010 3:48 PM GMT
    Mmmmmmmmmmmmm, Jew boys. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 11, 2010 4:04 PM GMT
    there are plenty of us out jewish guys.
  • MSUBioNerd

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    Mar 11, 2010 4:20 PM GMT
    I think this is again a numbers game.

    Percentage of the population that is male ~50%
    Percentage of the male population that is gay ~5%
    Percentage of the US population that is Jewish ~2.5% (generous estimate)

    Therefore, if Jewish guys were no more likely to be gay than non-Jewish guys were, and there wasn't a strong geographical substructuring (ie, if we pretended that a given guy in NYC was no more likely to be Jewish than a given guy in Topeka), gay Jewish men are 1 in every 1600 people. Gay men in general, on the other hand, are 1 in every 40 people. In other words, for every gay Jewish man you find, you'll have to pass over 39 gay non-Jewish men (pun fully intended).

    In general, we guys who want to date other guys are already facing a difficult enough numbers game, just by needing to find another guy who likes guys. Then the pool is inevitably further limited by wanting him to be available, there being some sort of mutual chemistry, and things like that; these are pretty much requirements for any sort of couple. The more selective we get on other traits (must be this height, must make at least $x a year, etc.) the harder it is to find anyone who meets the qualifications.

    In the end, while it's great to end up with a guy who you think is 1 in a million, if your actual dating requirements turn out to be 1 in a million, there are around 307 or so possible matches in the entire US. Good luck even meeting one of them, let alone hitting it off.
  • Celticmusl

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    Mar 11, 2010 4:25 PM GMT
    All this kvetching. Find a nice Jewish Doctor and settle down. What's not to like?
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    Mar 11, 2010 4:26 PM GMT
    Maybe the problem is not in finding a jewish gay man, but in being of any interest to him.
    And honestly how often are gay guys pious? Is it not hypocritical to be gay and believe in ant of the homophobic religions
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    Mar 11, 2010 4:43 PM GMT
    GuerrillaSodomite saidMmmmmmmmmmmmm, Jew boys. icon_biggrin.gif


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  • yogadudeSEATT...

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    Mar 11, 2010 5:03 PM GMT
    We're everywhere, dude.
  • danisnotstr8

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    Mar 11, 2010 5:03 PM GMT
    GuerrillaSodomite saidMmmmmmmmmmmmm, Jew boys. icon_biggrin.gif


    I'll be visiting mine in Israel in 19 days icon_smile.gif
  • DarkSensation

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    Mar 11, 2010 5:55 PM GMT
    Lol, like Italians, Jews are Really into Blacks icon_lol.gif ….They are Second Highest Ethnicity that I’ve dated especially if they from Israel. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 11, 2010 6:03 PM GMT
    Gay Jew here! I want a Jewish man because we share a common experience. Its just as cultural as religious.

    Here's a a few experiences to why I will only settle down with a Jew:

    One guy I was seeing was mad at me and let an Auschwitz comment slip.

    Another thought I was overreacting when somebody drew a swastika with the word Juden with dry erase on my dorm room door.

    One guy thought my "popes hat" was offensive. I keep my head covered with a kippah/yarmulke a good portion of the time to show respect.

    So after those experiences and more...I want somebody who may have a different intepretation of their Jewish Idenity but can understand and respect mine!

    What is the challange is to find a gay jew who isnt a total faygle! LOL JK
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    Mar 11, 2010 6:31 PM GMT
    Lol im a jew magnet most of the guys that i end up seeing are jewish have no idea why and i know this after the fact.
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    Mar 11, 2010 6:53 PM GMT
    my mother would be so happy if I settled down with another nice jewish boy....not happening. my man is white and irish/scandanavia!
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    Mar 11, 2010 7:02 PM GMT
    Me, I don't complain!

    And why should I? I'm a nice Jewish boy just lookin' for a little fun. I deserve that, am I right?

    Seriously - we're here, ripe, ready, and nicely cut........ready to be plucked!
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    Mar 11, 2010 7:14 PM GMT
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    GuerrillaSodomite saidMmmmmmmmmmmmm, Jew boys. icon_biggrin.gif


    I'll be visiting mine in Israel in 19 days icon_smile.gif


    Colour me jealous!icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 11, 2010 7:26 PM GMT
    CAJock753 saidMe, I don't complain!

    And why should I? I'm a nice Jewish boy just lookin' for a little fun. I deserve that, am I right?

    Seriously - we're here, ripe, ready, and nicely cut........ready to be plucked!


    Mazeltoff! You can be fiddler on my roof anytime!icon_biggrin.gif

    One of my good friends, has a jewish doctor in his swim club, charming and extremely good looking and very down to earth. No airs whatsoever. I have to fight the urge to drop trou and cough each time he's around.icon_lol.gif
  • madeinisrael

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    Mar 11, 2010 11:09 PM GMT
    We are not hard to find icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 11, 2010 11:15 PM GMT
    Hard to find somebody who is religious...or somebody willing to tolerate a kosher house etc.
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    Mar 11, 2010 11:32 PM GMT
    Drfishman saidMaybe the problem is not in finding a jewish gay man, but in being of any interest to him.
    And honestly how often are gay guys pious? Is it not hypocritical to be gay and believe in ant of the homophobic religions


    Just because one considers themself a Christian doesn't mean they believe all the same things every other Christian on the planet does. Hence why even the Christians are split up and fragmented between Catholics, Lutherans, Methodists, Baptists, Southern Baptists (shudder), etc. etc. etc.