After how many dates is it appropriate to ask to be boyfriends??

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    Mar 11, 2010 3:04 AM GMT
    After how many dates is it appropriate to ask to be boyfriends??

    How many dates does it take for it be serious?


    Really looking forward to MenInLove's response on this one........

    Cheers boys!
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 11, 2010 3:21 AM GMT
    There isn't a definitive answer to this question. It depends on the two guys, what they want and how well they know each other when they start dating.
    To be a "boyfriend" is also ambigious. To some it might be a term of
    exclusivity.. to a few it might just mean someone you are dating.
    I would say after going on several dates, it would be a point of discussion.
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    Mar 11, 2010 5:16 AM GMT
    I would agree with Chris. For me, boyfriend comes into play after a good period of time and we both are on the same page that we are not seeing anyone else which would then move toward the next level. Ultimately, if the two are communicating, they will know when they have gotten there.
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    Mar 11, 2010 5:58 AM GMT
    Months... no exceptions.
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    Mar 11, 2010 6:18 AM GMT
    sounds like "how many blondes do you need to screw in a light bulb?" . :p
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    Mar 11, 2010 6:18 AM GMT
    xassantex saidsounds like "how many blondes do you need to screw in a light bulb?" . :p

    None, I don't need to see her face while I'm fucker her.
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    Mar 11, 2010 7:04 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    lilTanker saidMonths... no exceptions.

    Wow,,, it really takes months to decide if you are clicking with some one?
    I thought we were talking possible BFs and not marriage...icon_eek.gif



    Well, some of us see our bf's as potential husbands.
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    Mar 11, 2010 7:51 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    lilTanker saidMonths... no exceptions.

    Wow,,, it really takes months to decide if you are clicking with some one?
    I thought we were talking possible BFs and not marriage...icon_eek.gif

    na, I know when I'm clicking with someone, but being someones boyfriend requires a commitment, I don't mean we are husbands and going to be moving in together, but I mean it takes time to work out if you want something more "relationshipy" then a couple of weeks, otherwise your just dating.

    Besides, I've my entire life to find a partner, why rush?
  • tennsjock

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    Mar 11, 2010 8:10 AM GMT
    sorry, but i could never date an aggie

    hook 'em!
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    Mar 11, 2010 10:13 AM GMT
    There's no definite number. It would have to be a mutual thing. I've never blatantly said "will be be my boyfriend". It just happens; like magic.icon_biggrin.gif
  • baldone

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    Mar 11, 2010 10:33 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidone if he's the right guy....
    i agree...its something that you just know, you feel,right through your very soul...you will know if that guy is the right one, you just know
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    Mar 11, 2010 2:33 PM GMT
    Hey Aggieboy!

    How many? One, two, or even a thousand. It's up to the two courting each other. icon_wink.gif

    What brought this on? *wink wink nudge nudge*


    -us guys

    PS our reply is not much, really. Now we're both real curious...
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    Mar 11, 2010 2:36 PM GMT
    On second thought, perhaps you're asking this to try figure out how you'd know when to suggest being bfs?


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    Mar 11, 2010 2:36 PM GMT
    One date. I would know from the start.
    I date here and there.
    But anyone I've ever had a longer, meaningful "boyfriend" relationship with strarted with one date and I knew it would be something right from that first date.

    One date.
  • shirty

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    Mar 11, 2010 3:07 PM GMT
    KissingPro saidOne date. I would know from the start.
    I date here and there.
    But anyone I've ever had a longer, meaningful "boyfriend" relationship with strarted with one date and I knew it would be something right from that first date.

    One date.


    Me too!
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    Mar 11, 2010 3:15 PM GMT
    7.29 with a standard deviation of 2.35.

    Unless he is a Scorpio than it throws all the math off.
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    Mar 11, 2010 3:16 PM GMT
    if he still want to see me after the 4th date....Note "date" as in evening/day spent together entirely focused on each other not just hang out time then I think It's generally called a relationship
  • Celticmusl

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    Mar 11, 2010 3:19 PM GMT
    baldone said
    TheGuyNextDoor saidone if he's the right guy....
    i agree...its something that you just know, you feel,right through your very soul...you will know if that guy is the right one, you just know


    I seriously have no idea what you guys are talking about.
  • Celticmusl

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    Mar 11, 2010 3:20 PM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    lilTanker saidMonths... no exceptions.

    Wow,,, it really takes months to decide if you are clicking with some one?
    I thought we were talking possible BFs and not marriage...icon_eek.gif


    There are exceptions, but if the other guy is in too much of a rush I really start to wonder what his "general malfunction" would be.
  • hartfan

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    Mar 11, 2010 3:22 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx said7.29 with a standard deviation of 2.35.

    Unless he is a Scorpio than it throws all the math off.


    How does that affect the math? icon_confused.gif
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    Mar 11, 2010 3:44 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]Celticmusl said
    There are exceptions, but if the other guy is in too much of a rush I really start to wonder what his "general malfunction" would be. [/quote]

    I understand what you mean. The desperate ones are easy to spot.

    Guys always curb their enthusiasm, being hesitant, not wanting to appear desperate. When things are going too slowly, I assume he isn't crazy about me. After it ends, the guy says " I didn't want to pressure you or scare you off". Ummm.......if a guy is playing it too cool like everyone else, what's there to notice? I'm dumb. I can't read minds. If he sounds noncommital and blase, that's how I will interpret it.

    Well, I want a guy to be crazy about me. Making an effort. Being respectfuly persistant. Recognizing a good thing and going after it. Getting excited about the possibilities...........talking about what we want to do tomorrow.....not next week.

    If we meet for the first time and exchange phone numbers, I want to hear your message on my voicemail when I get home THAT night. If I call you, don't wait until next week to get back to me. Forget the emails and texts.

    "Those who run seem to have all the fun"

    I want you to notice my woody making a tent in my jeans.


  • Space_Cowboy_...

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    Mar 11, 2010 3:48 PM GMT
    It really depends on the guy I'm with/ Like what kind of a person and all that jazz
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    Mar 11, 2010 4:15 PM GMT
    hartfan said
    dustin_K_tx said7.29 with a standard deviation of 2.35.

    Unless he is a Scorpio than it throws all the math off.


    How does that affect the math? icon_confused.gif


    Scorpios transform the painful poisons of possessive passion into a higher consciousness based on universal love.
  • Celticmusl

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    Mar 11, 2010 4:41 PM GMT
    KissingPro said[quote][cite]Celticmusl said
    There are exceptions, but if the other guy is in too much of a rush I really start to wonder what his "general malfunction" would be.


    I understand what you mean. The desperate ones are easy to spot.

    Guys always curb their enthusiasm, being hesitant, not wanting to appear desperate. When things are going too slowly, I assume he isn't crazy about me. After it ends, the guy says " I didn't want to pressure you or scare you off". Ummm.......if a guy is playing it too cool like everyone else, what's there to notice? I'm dumb. I can't read minds. If he sounds noncommital and blase, that's how I will interpret it.

    Well, I want a guy to be crazy about me. Making an effort. Being respectfuly persistant. Recognizing a good thing and going after it. Getting excited about the possibilities...........talking about what we want to do tomorrow.....not next week.

    If we meet for the first time and exchange phone numbers, I want to hear your message on my voicemail when I get home THAT night. If I call you, don't wait until next week to get back to me. Forget the emails and texts.

    "Those who run seem to have all the fun"

    I want you to notice my woody making a tent in my jeans.


    [/quote]

    That's just completely different than a lot of guys are wired, including myself. I don't curb my enthusiasm because I'm afraid I will look desperate. There will be no general enthusiasm other than for meeting a genuine nice guy. If the other guy expects more from the first meet, he will invariably quickly move onto the next guy...and the next guy....and the next guy.

    What you are saying is very telling. Someone needs to be "crazy" about you the first or second time you meet them? Like I alluded to in my previous post, if someone seems "crazy" about me without even spending enough time to even get to know me as a person....I generally think they are.....crazy. At that point I feel like a number on his long list of guys that he's been crazy about because he hasn't even given me the time to let him know who I am.

    If they seem sincere and interested enough to have a second date, well, I guess that's the level that I'm looking for. If they cancel out on the second date because I didn't call them every night in the meantime...well I know they need way too much attention I could possibly give someone I just met.
  • Mikeylikesit

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    Mar 11, 2010 4:45 PM GMT
    well...everyones connotation of what boyfriends mean is different. Some believe ur just dating, others think it means ur exculsive...ect..ect...gonna do what works for you!
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