KissingPro said[quote][cite]Celticmusl said
There are exceptions, but if the other guy is in too much of a rush I really start to wonder what his "general malfunction" would be.
I understand what you mean. The desperate ones are easy to spot.
Guys always curb their enthusiasm, being hesitant, not wanting to appear desperate. When things are going too slowly, I assume he isn't crazy about me. After it ends, the guy says " I didn't want to pressure you or scare you off". Ummm.......if a guy is playing it too cool like everyone else, what's there to notice? I'm dumb. I can't read minds. If he sounds noncommital and blase, that's how I will interpret it.
Well, I want a guy to be crazy about me. Making an effort. Being respectfuly persistant. Recognizing a good thing and going after it. Getting excited about the possibilities...........talking about what we want to do tomorrow.....not next week.
If we meet for the first time and exchange phone numbers, I want to hear your message on my voicemail when I get home THAT night. If I call you, don't wait until next week to get back to me. Forget the emails and texts.
"Those who run seem to have all the fun"
I want you to notice my woody making a tent in my jeans.
That's just completely different than a lot of guys are wired, including myself. I don't curb my enthusiasm because I'm afraid I will look desperate. There will be no general enthusiasm other than for meeting a genuine nice guy. If the other guy expects more from the first meet, he will invariably quickly move onto the next guy...and the next guy....and the next guy.
What you are saying is very telling. Someone needs to be "crazy" about you the first or second time you meet them? Like I alluded to in my previous post, if someone seems "crazy" about me without even spending enough time to even get to know me as a person....I generally think they are.....crazy. At that point I feel like a number on his long list of guys that he's been crazy about because he hasn't even given me the time to let him know who I am.
If they seem sincere and interested enough to have a second date, well, I guess that's the level that I'm looking for. If they cancel out on the second date because I didn't call them every night in the meantime...well I know they need way too much attention I could possibly give someone I just met.