making friendship in wrong direction

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    Mar 11, 2010 5:59 PM GMT
    some of you might have read my forum about my moving to Toronto. now this forum is about me trying to make friends in Toronto. i don't know anyone in Toronto except my cousins. after about 2 weeks, i found my rental room with nice space and light. but i still feel lonely and need friends to talk with. i could talk to my cousins, but i rather talk to gay friends. anyway, last few days i made 2 huge mistakes and was so stupid of me making new friend in wrong direction. here's 2 short-cut stories that i have encountered.

    1) a RJ member here named TOMBELLALONE. i was surprise he emailed me, because he's so cute with hot body. we exchanged email address, so we could talk on messager. (fast forward) he needed help with bank situation, and asked for my personal info if i willy to help. i gave him my address, email, phone number, birthday, and my full name. but i didn't give him my bank acct info. then he said he would send a document by courier service, but i would have to pay about 550 bucks to courier service before i get the document. i was like "WHAT?!" (fast forward) i checked google on him, and i was shocked by researches i found. it's all scam and bogus. many websites talk about how scammers use tricks and all. scammers using yahoo, hotmail, and any other email address to lure victims into traps for money. the scams are: Nigeria Bank with a floating account, fake lottary, fake insurance, etc. i already reported to RJ about the scammer, and RJ has blocked the scammer. i also reported to Yahoo! about the scammer's yahoo id, but i doubt they'll do something about it. i fell into his trap, but i got out before i become a victim. how so stupid of me gave out my personal info, but i learned my lesson. never ever give out your personal info to strangers, especially never give out your bank info.

    2) i dared myself to send a message to a guy in adam4adam. i found a not-bad-looking older guy (old enough to be my father), and i thought older guys might be wiser, more nice, more gentleman, and more honest. (fast forward) so we talked, and met in person. he told me he loves asians, and he thinks i'm sexy (yeah, right). (fast forward) he texted me on cellphone, and he said he's near by my neighborhood. i told him i was busy finding a job online, and gotta support myself asap. he said i could use his pc if i go to his home together. i was declining his suggestions, then suddenly he texted "u no fun, i'm stalking u, ur too serious. go away." my mind was like "huh? what the f*** is wrong with this old man??" i texted back "i need a friend, not a stalker. and ur scary me." and he's like boohoo at me. so we stopped text, and i haven't heard a word from him since that odd day. another lesson learned, age has nothing to do with everything, except senior age get discount at stores.

    i'm starting to believe that online is definitely not a good place to make friends. why is it so hard to make friendship?? isn't friendship all about connection, share similar commons/interests, chemistry, trust, look out for each other, care for each other, etc??? i'm not a weird guy at all (i think), just love video games too much. and i think the dating websites might be bulls***, too. sigh...

    i have thought about LGBT center in toronto, but most clubs/meetings are about supporting communities and people. idk... i'll find out more at LGBT center, and see if they have a club for meeting new friends. might be safer that way to meet them in person.

    sigh... i'm so moron... icon_sad.gif
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    Mar 11, 2010 6:09 PM GMT
    Learn from the mistakes, but you haven't been there very long, either. As the weather warms up and people venture out more, it is much easier to meet others, as long as you venture outside as well. Shortcuts don't work. I wouldn't focus so much on only meeting gay people, straight friends are cool (some may disagree) and they probably have some gay friends they'd like to introduce you. LGBT center would be good; if you meet no one and have no fun, still probably better than your two mentioned experiences.
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    Mar 11, 2010 8:04 PM GMT
    Hey IrisSoul,

    I think it was on this board somewhere that someone mentioned a Toronto's Single Group through Meetup.com.

    http://www.meetup.com/gaytoronto/

    I've never been to it, so can't give any feedback. I've also quickly realising that sometimes what looks good on paper, is only that. So take people's online profiles with a grain of salt.

    I just came across an online profile of one of my friend's friend. Very good looking, but his personality offsets his good looks by a mile. As the song states "He ain't pretty he just looks that way"

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    Mar 11, 2010 8:45 PM GMT
    Well I think you have to get out and join some gay groups like a bowling league or tennis or something. Anyone can bowl and they're bound to have enough gay teams to fit everyones expertise level in Toronto I would think. Not everyone who bowls on a league are good bowlers, some are downright lousy and can't hit a pin but they go for the fun of it and the laughs etc.

    There's gotta be lots of gay group acitivities,, you just have to find the ones you like by trying them out.. Sitting at home moaning accomplishes nothing so get moving.
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    Mar 11, 2010 11:05 PM GMT
    thanks for the suggestions. i'll try to go out more often, and check LGBT center often. hopefully everything will be alright soon. icon_smile.gif