Gym etiquette question

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    Jan 20, 2008 4:05 PM GMT
    I was at the gym yesterday and was on the leg press machine for a good 10 minutes doing a series of four exercises recommended by my trainer. The weight was kind of heavy and I was taking my time. God, maybe it was closer to 15 minutes. I kinda lost track, but the gym was nearly deserted, so I didn't really think about it.

    By the time I finished what I was doing and got off, I saw a guy sitting behind me who had obviously been waiting there for most of that time, and I felt like shit for making him wait.

    Being new to the weight training part of the gym, I'm still not aware of every detail of gym etiquette. I'm thinking now that I should have just done a couple exercises, gone to do something else and then come back. Did I stay on that machine too long?
  • cowboyathlete

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    Jan 20, 2008 4:17 PM GMT
    Part of gym etiquette is that he had the right and responsibility to ask you - between sets - how much longer you would be on the equipment. I am on both sides of that question all the time. It can be handled very diplomatically and matter of factly, it keeps everyone moving along.
  • MSUBioNerd

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    Jan 20, 2008 4:37 PM GMT
    A number of people have different thoughts on these matters. It's definitely helpful when you're on the machine for someone to ask you between sets how many more you have left. But, when waiting for a machine, it's also really helpful if the other person appears to be aware of his or her surroundings, so it's not always your job to ask. Personally, I recommend that when you're resting between sets on a machine, you don't actually sit on the machine--you stand up, clearly next to it and about to continue using it, and look around to see if there are people waiting. It indicates that you're aware that others might need the equipment (making you more approachable), and relieves any guilt you might feel because people waiting for a machine but not obviously enough that you'd be able to tell if you got off the machine and looked around aren't worth feeling guilty over. It also helps diffuse anger--I know I'm personally much more likely to get annoyed at someone zoned out and sitting on a machine but not using it, than I am at someone standing next to a machine, shaking out his arms and legs or stretching.
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    Jan 20, 2008 4:57 PM GMT
    This is stupid.

    When I started lifting, we had two benches, one leg press and so on.

    I try to take a leadership role in this, both ways, saying the following which are BOTH Common Sense 101:
    "I don't require exclusive use of the apparatus."
    "I'd like to work in with you between your sets."

    Sharing should not be a concept grown adults fail to understand.

    DOH!
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    Jan 20, 2008 5:15 PM GMT
    I wouldn't worry about it. He should have asked if he really wanted to work in. Or maybe he was waiting because he was gym stalking youicon_lol.gif
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    Jan 20, 2008 5:22 PM GMT
    Yeah Man

    Don't feel guilty. It is his fault that he didn't come by and ask how long you were going to be of if he could work in. Besides if the gym was deserted he could have easily done other exercises until he saw that you were finished.
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    Jan 20, 2008 5:26 PM GMT
    If I notice someone waiting, I always try to take the high road, and tell them, "You're welcome to work in here. I don't require exclusive use of the apparatus." There's something to be said for active leadership. Nothing wrong with just plain being nice, and perceptive of your surroundings.

    If someone is real obnoxious, I'll plop my 180 to 210 pound 5'5" ass down on the bench and say, "Excuse me, and I need to hurry up and get done so I can go eat. Let me know when you're ready to do your next set, and I'll get out of your way. Thanks a bunch for being so thoughtful." That's usually gets them.

    Folks are SO I,I,I, self-involved, and compartmentalized. I suppose it's a sign of urban culture, but, it sure can be annoying, whether it's sexuality, or sharing a weight bench.

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    Jan 20, 2008 5:28 PM GMT
    Don't share...the whole gym was empty and bonehead waiting guy had a lot to keep him busy until you got done. Gyms are a lot like prison...you can either be the fucker or the fuckee. Next time, don't just stay on the leg press as long as you want, but pose out a little after you get off, that's what I would have done. Now, this type of behavior may not earn you many friends, but you've got plenty already, right?
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    Jan 20, 2008 5:40 PM GMT
    chuckystud saidIf I notice someone waiting, I always try to take the high road, and tell them, "You're welcome to work in here. I don't require exclusive use of the apparatus."


    APPARATUS? You actually say "apparatus"? Jeez, Chucklet....
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    Jan 20, 2008 5:49 PM GMT
    I fucking do. I do. I do.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jan 20, 2008 6:00 PM GMT
    Well there are a number of factors that enter into the approach I take.....

    If I've just started working on a machine and someone comes up, I usually tell them I'll be done shortly, unless I haven't really started and someone justs asks to complete their set. I have no problems with that.

    There are a couple of machines with which I spend more time.. for those I try and focus and get done and not meander around... and how busy the gym is does enter. If its deserted, I doubt if I would be as diligent.

    I always try and be reasonable to others, so long as they are reasonable to me.
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    Jan 20, 2008 6:03 PM GMT
    Courtesty goes both ways. If he wanted to work in, he should have asked. If you were doing multiple exercise and using the machine for an extended period and saw him waiting, you should offer to allow him to work in.

    Since you were unaware of his presence, he should have approached you. Since he didnt say anything, he must not have been in that much of a hurry.


  • Timbales

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    Jan 20, 2008 6:21 PM GMT
    10 to 15 minutes doesn't seem selfish to me. He could have always asked to work in or adjusted his workout to do other things while you were finishing up.
  • GQjock

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    Jan 20, 2008 10:19 PM GMT
    You don't have to feel guilty...if you were using the machine .... you're using the machine
    he could have asked you how many more sets you had or if he could work in
    also your trainer should have seen him there and said something too
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    Jan 21, 2008 1:36 AM GMT
    Now, should you really feel like this over an awkward gym moment?

    h

    If you are new to the gym. I guarantee there will be more, like if you are looking at something across the room and a guy in your field of vision covers up his crotch, as if you were even ever interested or if you clang a weight really loud in an empty gym or trip over a plate someone shoulda put up. Besides that, there are a lot of things in a gym to trip over and you WILL trip more than once, LOL.
    If you are really upset about this guy, why not befriend him, strike up a conversation next time and bring up the day you kept him waiting on the Leg Press. If he even remembers, I bet he'll insist you didn't do anything wrong.
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    Jan 21, 2008 1:50 AM GMT
    Don't feel bad we've all waited for equipment to free up.
    Do what I've done next time, ask them if they want to go in between your sets. Most guys don't mind and usually do.
    Great workouts
    Joe
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    Jan 21, 2008 1:54 AM GMT
    Yep. That's just good karma.
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    Jan 21, 2008 12:21 PM GMT
    Thanks for all the feedback guys. MSUBioNerd, I think what you suggested is especially helpful. I think I'll do that from now on.

    And GuiltyGear -- yes, I feel exactly like that during any awkward gym moment. Or any awkward moment at all. Finally, somebody understands! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 21, 2008 4:20 PM GMT
    I feel like that at any gay club I go to. All the guys start pointing at me and handing me their business cards.
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    Jan 29, 2008 5:54 AM GMT
    I did it. I actually said it. Chucky would be proud of me. I noticed some guy impatiently waiting to use the machine I was on, and I just couldn't help myself.

    "You're welcome to work in here. I don't require exclusive use of the apparatus."

    I spoke those words verbatim and the guy just gave me this dumbfounded look. It was priceless. I can't wait to say it again. haha