Dealing with Dumbasses

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    Mar 15, 2010 12:56 AM GMT
    So, theres this guy, who isnt really my friend, but hes my friends friend. And he and I were interested in one another at one point but then I decided i was interested and ever since then hes nothing but rude to me. And yes, i understand that hes jealous or upset and still likes me....whatever. But now when my friends bring him around i have to deal with his bullshit about everything you can think of haha. So my question is, how do you deal with someone who you are going to be seeing on more than one occasion but at every situation, you will be having to deal with this dumbass??

    Ive tried ignorance and that works just fine, but now its getting to the point where it just doesnt END!! haha

    Any guidance??
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    Mar 15, 2010 1:31 AM GMT
    if your mate is really your mate, he wont be to upset when you bitch slap this idiot.

    a few choice words can shut him up quick and keep him that way and your mate will probably support you if he sees the same behavior
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    Mar 15, 2010 1:54 AM GMT
    Avoid him! If your friends want to chill w/ you they should understand if you don't want to be in his company. You've taken the high rd so far don't let his poor excuse of character change that.
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    Mar 15, 2010 1:56 AM GMT
    Hoodiestud saidSo, theres this guy, who isnt really my friend, but hes my friends friend. And he and I were interested in one another at one point but then I decided i was interested and ever since then hes nothing but rude to me. And yes, i understand that hes jealous or upset and still likes me....whatever. But now when my friends bring him around i have to deal with his bullshit about everything you can think of haha. So my question is, how do you deal with someone who you are going to be seeing on more than one occasion but at every situation, you will be having to deal with this dumbass??

    Ive tried ignorance and that works just fine, but now its getting to the point where it just doesnt END!! haha

    Any guidance??



    Just telling him how you feel! and if he doesn't change, but it still bothers you then you either learn to live with his rudeness or dump him! good luck!


    Leandro ♥
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    Mar 15, 2010 2:19 AM GMT
    Sounds like this guy is willing to take whatever avoidance
    measures you come up with to the next level.
    It may never end and the guy might be hoping for a fight. icon_smile.gif

    Tell your friend(s), whenever "he's" around you won't be.
  • Webster666

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    Mar 15, 2010 2:28 AM GMT
    Scream at him in front of everybody.
    I'm serious.
    Decide ahead of time what you're going to say.
    Then, when he starts bullying you, let him have it.
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    Mar 15, 2010 3:00 AM GMT
    Lol, i should pre-make a speech to yell at him??
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    Mar 15, 2010 3:15 AM GMT
    those never work for me i end up getting to into it and rambling and not making sense.i think saying something to friend would be the best bet if u want to get it over with discreetly.
  • BarettaB80

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    Mar 15, 2010 6:04 AM GMT
    Take this guy aside and talk to him one-on-one, privately. In a calm, NON-CONFRONTATIONAL manner, tell him that it seems to you that there has developed some sort of hostility between the two of you, and you'd like to resolve it and be friends.

    If he responds negatively, he is not worth your time or worry. Being the mature one often has a way of calming the waters.
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    Mar 15, 2010 7:03 AM GMT
    Hoodiestud saidSo, theres this guy, who isnt really my friend, but hes my friends friend. And he and I were interested in one another at one point but then I decided i was interested and ever since then hes nothing but rude to me. And yes, i understand that hes jealous or upset and still likes me....whatever. But now when my friends bring him around i have to deal with his bullshit about everything you can think of haha. So my question is, how do you deal with someone who you are going to be seeing on more than one occasion but at every situation, you will be having to deal with this dumbass??

    Ive tried ignorance and that works just fine, but now its getting to the point where it just doesnt END!! haha

    Any guidance??


    Kick him every time you see him. Eventually he'll figure it out or ask you whats up...in which case you explain it to him and kick him for being dense.
  • jrs1

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    Mar 15, 2010 7:08 AM GMT
    leave it to gravity and a well-timed back step:

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    Mar 15, 2010 11:08 AM GMT
    I tried to play nice and just act like it doesnt bother me, but that seems to fuel the fire as he tries to see what gets a rise out of me and what doesnt. Hes like testing me for weaknesses
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    Mar 15, 2010 11:24 AM GMT
    The next time he makes a sniping remark about you in a group situation, suggest you tell him you're tired of it and to cut it out or just fuck off. You don't have to yell or be angry in your delivery.

    Some guys are bullies. On some level, he may respect you for standing your ground.
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    Mar 15, 2010 9:54 PM GMT
    i can just imagine giving him whats what if he keeps it up or if he says something that sends me over the edge. I WILL DESTROY HIM!! haha
  • coolarmydude

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    Mar 15, 2010 9:55 PM GMT
    Fuck him like it's the worst sex ever. He won't bug you any more. icon_wink.gif
  • Space_Cowboy_...

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    Mar 15, 2010 9:56 PM GMT
    All you got to do is cuss his ass out one good time and if he still keeps with his BS kick his ass.
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    Mar 15, 2010 10:07 PM GMT
    coolarmydude saidFuck him like it's the worst sex ever. He won't bug you any more. icon_wink.gif

    LOL! Or start gagging during sex!!
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    Mar 15, 2010 10:10 PM GMT
    Hoodiestud saidi can just imagine giving him whats what if he keeps it up or if he says something that sends me over the edge. I WILL DESTROY HIM!! haha


    Are you still interested on him?
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    Mar 15, 2010 10:17 PM GMT
    Yah...call his bluff... fuck him silly.. make him your bitch.
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    Mar 16, 2010 10:09 AM GMT
    Lol, not interested in the least bit....hes just an ugly person inside....not very attractive. And when we were talking, it was shortlived (2 weeks) because i saw this whole side of him very quickly just hanging out with him and i knew he was absolutely NOT the one for me
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    Mar 16, 2010 11:28 AM GMT
    Hoodiestud saidLol, not interested in the least bit....hes just an ugly person inside....not very attractive. And when we were talking, it was shortlived (2 weeks) because i saw this whole side of him very quickly just hanging out with him and i knew he was absolutely NOT the one for me


    then tell him exactly that
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    Mar 17, 2010 12:50 AM GMT
    i already have, it just doesnt seem to work. He just needs to put me down all the time, it gets him off or someting
  • barriehomeboy

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    Mar 17, 2010 1:16 AM GMT
    Welcome to adulthood! You're not on the playground anymore, sadly. Getting along with people you don't like is what they mean by "interpersonal skills" in job advertisements.

    They have these old fashioned things called books. The best was written a thousand years ago or so and it's called "How to win friends and influence people" written by a guy who became famous in the USA just for writing the book, back around the end of the Depression. It's still a best seller. A more recent one that is useful is "How to deal with difficult people without becoming one of them." There are tons of others.

    Amazon.com my man.

    You or your followers can become the rich successful corporate men of the future, in a world of text-messaging misfits, just by learning how to communicate properly in person.
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    Mar 17, 2010 1:18 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidif your mate is really your mate, he wont be to upset when you bitch slap this idiot.


    Enough said!
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    Mar 17, 2010 1:18 AM GMT
    i would just avoid him

    i hooked up with my best friends gf's best friend ... (confusing sorry) but he wanted to get together after and i was like "no thanks" and it made it really ackward but i was like whatever fuck it we're grown, so i still went to their parties and all and i was never mean to him or gave him a dirty look i just treated him as an acquaintance