An Ex on RJ?

  • styrgan

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    Mar 15, 2010 4:22 AM GMT
    So with the popularity of RJ always increasing, I've got a new problem - lots of ex's and former flings showing up on the home page as new members.

    I've come across four just in the last two weeks. Only one actually contacted me.

    So with my favorite obscure social networking site becoming conventional, what's a guy to do? It's not like I had a particularly bad breakup or that there are any rough memories involved, but I'd rather not see pictures of them in their underwear, and I'd rather preserve my privacy on a site where I've always been able to pick and choose who I get close to. And yet, I feel really bad blocking them because they've done nothing wrong.

    Anyone else have on any thoughts on this? Do you guys have a policy of automatically blocking ex's on here or on other social networking sites?
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    Mar 15, 2010 4:24 AM GMT
    Let me date you, break up with you and I'll let you know.
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    Mar 15, 2010 4:33 AM GMT
    I would think it must be strange to ask this question and have them able to read the comments.....I would hope that civility is maintained....what happens when you get on a "hook up "site like "A4A" or others and your 'ex's" see you out there...do they "attack"? I think this is a somewhat different clientele than those sites get...so I wouldn't sweat it until you are being stalked or out rightly being harassed... say hello and move along politely......icon_cool.gif
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    Mar 15, 2010 4:50 AM GMT
    ooers convert operation, let me know who they are and once I've extracted all information from them, I shall ponder telling you what they intend on doing icon_razz.gif
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    Mar 15, 2010 4:55 AM GMT
    I hear you. I've got one one here and what can I do? He is a stand up guy - and although we weren't right for each other for the long haul, he deserves somebody really great, and he'll get that kind of relationship. He was a good guy. I'm just too wild to settle down. I take all the responsibility that was mine for the breakup.

    Now there was another one before him - that I wouldn't want to see on here. I will refer to him as only "the green monster". 'nuff said.
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    Mar 15, 2010 5:00 AM GMT
    It's my understanding that blocking doesn't do anything on this site. All it does is automatically delete any messages they send you. They can still see your profile, pics, forum posts, etc.
  • styrgan

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    Mar 15, 2010 6:20 AM GMT
    _Brandon said
    styrgan said:So with the popularity of RJ always increasing, I've got a new problem - lots of ex's and former flings showing up on the home page as new members...Anyone else have on any thoughts on this? Do you guys have a policy of automatically "blocking" ex's on here or on other social networking sites?

    Blocking?!?.."NAH!!!"... why???... cos everyone has made poor choices or done something in their past that could possibly be labeled as "regrettable." But, think about it. The fact that you are now able to look back and realize that a mistake or mis-step occurred means you have learned a valuable lesson. Some of my choices may have landed me in unpleasant circumstances with my ex, but experiencing these things certainly built my current relationship. I wouldn't be so cautious with a guy who I am dating today if it weren't for those situations. Mistakes are stepping stones to an evolving relationships. No need for you to sink into regret or despair!...u know... keep your chin up,lolicon_wink.gif
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    I think you're missing the problem. This is not a matter of having a lousy experience or some other "mistake" as you put it.

    RJ is my escape from my otherwise chaotic world... I lurk around the forums (posting when convenient), message a bunch of people I've never met in real life, read the articles, and look at the pretty pictures. In other words, it's never been quite real to me. But that illusion is becoming more and more shattered, and I don't like it.
  • styrgan

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    Mar 15, 2010 6:20 AM GMT
    xrichx saidIt's my understanding that blocking doesn't do anything on this site. All it does is automatically delete any messages they send you. They can still see your profile, pics, forum posts, etc.


    That's kind of useless, isn't it?
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    Mar 15, 2010 6:59 AM GMT
    styrgan said
    xrichx saidIt's my understanding that blocking doesn't do anything on this site. All it does is automatically delete any messages they send you. They can still see your profile, pics, forum posts, etc.


    That's kind of useless, isn't it?

    Yeah, I agree. But I'm not surprised. A lot of social sites don't have advanced privacy controls. It's an all or nothing setting. I think Facebook does a pretty good job of offering granular control of your profile. On RJ, your alternative is to make all your pics private and make your profile blank. icon_neutral.gif