The use of "Mister"

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    Mar 15, 2010 9:57 PM GMT
    Since I have increasing numbers of gay friends, i've noticed that they love to address each other and me as 'mr'. (straight acting, femme whatever)

    Why?

    It seems to be a pretty universal thing, but something i dont recall any of my straight mates calling me. Plus, its not actually my salutation and i'd feel wanky correcting them. (which i have done while drunk but they quickly revert).

    Have you noticed this?
    Do you use mr a lot?
    How do you feel about it?
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    Mar 16, 2010 12:36 AM GMT
    I go through kicks where I refer to guys (gay and straight) as Mr. No real reason, just for the hell of it and to mix things up.
  • masculumpedes

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    Mar 16, 2010 12:56 AM GMT
    I use the word "mister" to show emphasis to my guy that I am being very serious....however, I always get a...."Ooooohhhhh" in return 34.gif
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    Mar 16, 2010 1:34 AM GMT
    I tend to get it from 8 year olds ("Mister, would you like to buy some girl scout cookies?"). I guess that's probably not the prime use of the term!
  • barriehomeboy

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    Mar 16, 2010 1:53 AM GMT
    I haven't experienced it, but I think it's a good trend.

    There was a time when men wore fedoras all the time, and women wore hats to church on sundays and introduced themselves as "Mrs John Smith." They had no identity of their own which is a whole other chat rant. Mrs and Mister. Woman and Man. Masculine and Femenine.

    When I go to the waiting room to get a patient, I look at the name, and age. If he's over 60, I call for Mr Smith, if he's under 50 I call out both names. If he's under 30 I call out his first name, then see how many people look up, then call for the last name to clarify.

    We've become very informal with salutations as we've progressed into the 21'st century.

    Calling someone "Mister" is a traditional sign of respect for their masculinity and mastery.

    If we can take that one over the way we took over "gay" then I'm all for it.




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    Mar 16, 2010 2:13 AM GMT
    No idea what you're talking about. I've heard the Mister used very infrequently and probably more by the straight people I hang out with.
  • IdkMyBffJill

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    Mar 16, 2010 2:21 AM GMT
    I'm guilty of this on every now and again. Never really thought about it.
  • DCEric

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    Mar 16, 2010 2:23 AM GMT
    HomingDevice saidMR still has the word "mis" so if your implying something manly just use "sir".


    Yes sir. Sorry sir. Won't happen again sir.

    /No one could ever interpret that in a gay sense.
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    Mar 16, 2010 2:26 AM GMT
    Personally, i'd like to be addressed as MONSIEUR but Mister's fine, or Sir. icon_cool.gif
  • Webster666

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    Mar 16, 2010 2:39 AM GMT
    I don't have a clue what you're talking about...
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    Mar 16, 2010 2:52 AM GMT
    My preference is "Your Grace" or "M'Lord."

    Truthfully, I always invite everyone to call me by my nickname, when they first call me Mister (XXXX) out of courtesy, provided the circumstances permit. I was always addressed as "Sir" or else by my rank from my early 20s, and such hollow formalities forever turned me off to continuing them now.

    One place in the US I notice the Mister is still routinely used is in hospitals, doctors offices and other medical facilities, which unfortunately I frequent quite a bit these days. Especially when they have to announce your name in a waiting room, where a first name, or last name without the Mister would seem rude.

    At my own doctor's they all use my nickname at my request, in all circumstances, but I'll hear a guy sitting right next to me get called by Mister. In a sort of reverse way, I think them using your nickname is an even higher status indicator.

    I do have a few gay friends who'll use the "Mr. Bob" with me, which I take as affection on their part, because I know them. Even though it reminds me a bit of the animated SNL character "Mr. Bill." I never use Mister with any of my gay friends.
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    Mar 16, 2010 3:43 AM GMT
    I'd rather be called sir or Mr. than to be called shithead!icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 16, 2010 3:48 AM GMT
    ahhhhhhhhhhhh I hate when homo's use MISTER!

    "how are you mister!?"

    "what's up mister!?"

    "i miss you mister!"

    it's usually said with WAYYYYY too much enthusiasm.
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    in fact when I get a message with mister in the title or body of the email, it's an instant red flag.

    yeah, not attractive.
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    Mar 16, 2010 3:50 AM GMT
    I think Mister would only be applicably if he were in trouble, and i was informing him that he was about to get a spanking.
  • jlly_rnchr

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    Mar 16, 2010 4:04 AM GMT
    I've been know to occasionally call people "Buster", like Natalie Portman in Closer. Way better than "Mister".


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    Mar 16, 2010 12:47 PM GMT
    BILLY_1980 saidahhhhhhhhhhhh I hate when homo's use MISTER!

    "how are you mister!?"

    "what's up mister!?"

    "i miss you mister!"

    it's usually said with WAYYYYY too much enthusiasm.
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    in fact when I get a message with mister in the title or body of the email, it's an instant red flag.

    yeah, not attractive.


    This is exactly what I mean!
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    Mar 16, 2010 12:49 PM GMT
    Sounds like a big ol' counter-reaction to gay men referring to each other as "Gurl." Either way, it's affected, and I don't like it.
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    Mar 16, 2010 12:52 PM GMT
    BILLY_1980 said
    "i miss you mister!"



    well, you have to admit, that one has a certain ring to it.
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    Mar 16, 2010 12:55 PM GMT
    offsgalassst

    Oh for god´s sake, get a life and stop starting stupid threads
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 16, 2010 1:05 PM GMT
    For me its really a term of endearment. There are a couple of guys here
    who I address as Mr on a regular basis and a few others that I'll say..
    Mr. ...... as a way to start a conversation.

    and then there's MrDCEric......

    Only HE knows why he's addressed as "MR"... LOL

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    Mar 16, 2010 1:47 PM GMT
    sometimes you can overinterpret what people say or write. people who overinterpret sometimes seem a little paranoid and insecure.

    Like this exchange of messages on a gay website :

    visitor (few years older than myself): "hey there, nice pics of you ;)"

    ME: "thank you kindly sir."

    visitor: "Are you implying that I'm OLD??!!!"

    ME (already deciding this would be my last msg to him): "ehm, please stop assuming things, you don't even know me yet."

  • Celticmusl

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    Mar 16, 2010 1:52 PM GMT
    Yep, we use the word "mister" a bit. Like "Hey Mister, why didn't you show up last weekend"....you only use it with close associations. I went to Boston for a weekend and everyone would call each other "boss". Like "Hey Boss, what will you have to drink", etc.
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    Mar 16, 2010 3:18 PM GMT
    Celticmusl saidYep, we use the word "mister" a bit. Like "Hey Mister, why didn't you show up last weekend"....you only use it with close associations. I went to Boston for a weekend and everyone would call each other "boss". Like "Hey Boss, what will you have to drink", etc.


    true that...and here in nashville it's "bro." ugh. never mind "dude."

    reminds me of a south park episode not too long ago:

    "i'm not your guy, pal."

    "i'm not your pal, friend."

    i'm not your friend, guy."

    and so on...

    so was "mister mister" doubly gay?
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    Mar 16, 2010 9:58 PM GMT
    rangard said
    Celticmusl said

    reminds me of a south park episode not too long ago:

    "i'm not your guy, pal."

    "i'm not your pal, friend."

    i'm not your friend, guy."

    and so on...

    so was "mister mister" doubly gay?


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  • lozano86

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    Mar 16, 2010 10:13 PM GMT
    Buddy. Pal. Friend. Guy

    That'll donkey. That'll do icon_cool.gif