The best relationships?

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    Mar 20, 2010 9:35 AM GMT
    Do they come out of friendships, or things like GrindR, Craigs, even this place?

    For example, do best relationships start as friendships
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    Do best relationships start on a meeting of "we both will meet as a first date" for example, meeting on realjock, setting a time up, etc...

    I've recently discovered that the best come from friendships.

    Your thoughts?
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    Mar 20, 2010 11:00 AM GMT
    the best relationships happen spontaneously, without expectation and allowed to blossom organically.. they don't happen because you follow a certain plan or have a set of rules to abide by, they happen because your both just ready for it to happen.
  • grnranger99

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    Mar 20, 2010 12:13 PM GMT
    My best relationship (was 11 years in Feb. and still going strong) started as a one night stand. He was my rebound guy that I never got over! You never know when it's going to happen you just have to be open to the possibilities
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    Mar 20, 2010 1:31 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidthe best relationships happen spontaneously, without expectation and allowed to blossom organically.. they don't happen because you follow a certain plan or have a set of rules to abide by, they happen because your both just ready for it to happen.


    I could not say it better !
  • jlly_rnchr

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    Mar 20, 2010 1:42 PM GMT
    People meet the loves of their lives in different ways. Some are friends for years before dating. I call this route the "Some Kind of Wonderful". Or the "Jim and Pam".

    Some are set up by friends, meet randomly and hit it off, talk online and decide to meet, etc.

    I don't think one has advantages over the other.
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    Mar 20, 2010 1:44 PM GMT
    There's no template for relationships. They unfold in their own way based on how the two personalities grow together or fail to.

    That said, one of my less successful relationships began as a friendship. I was attracted to his personality, not to his looks. He knew it and always felt undervalued. He compensated with increasingly flagrant infidelities. In the end he very publicly dumped me.
    We'd both have been much happier as friends.
  • calibro

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    Mar 20, 2010 4:22 PM GMT
    I won't say those places are the spots to find relationships, but rather relationships can come from them. I met my last boyfriend off here and two others from various gay sites. I certainly don't come to rj to find guys, but every now and then you meet someone just like you do in real life.
  • chicagoguy79

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    Mar 20, 2010 4:35 PM GMT
    I'm in an 8 year relationship. I would say that we are best friends. Our friendship and sharing everything you would with a best friends, eating together, hanging out, gossiping together, going out together, hanging out with friends together, is what keeps us together.

    In terms of sex, it isn't our highest priority. We have sex with other guys. Neither of us are actively seeking guys to have sex with but we are young and its in a man's nature to have sex and desire other physical contact. If it happens it happens. It works for us. We are safe and honest about our sex life and whatever we might do with others.

    I would like to know how monogamous couples who have been together for a long time have kept it good in the sack. I would like to have sex with my partner more but life makes it difficult and I think the longer your together the more that other stuff affects that initial attraction (without all the baggage) that you once had that was so good.

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    Mar 20, 2010 6:03 PM GMT
    I morseo make these kind of posts to get the varying answers/opinions/stories, I don't actually believe in relationship templates or anything icon_smile.gif thanks for replies, I enjoy reading them all.