how did you meet?

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    Mar 21, 2010 3:05 PM GMT
    Not sure if this is being discusses anywhere, please tell me if it is.

    Since the newbies are always looking for prince charming, I would like to hear from other guys how they met each other. Doesnt matter if you are still in the relationship, I just want to hear how you met someone/pursued a LTR/STR/friendship/marriage.

    Hope this is not too personal to share.

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    Mar 21, 2010 3:09 PM GMT
    I met my current bf on adam4adam icon_lol.gif

    we've been together for about a year and a half so it's worked out. I like meeting new people and not necessariuly into the bar scene, so my only other options are to meet up with guys online.
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    Mar 21, 2010 4:20 PM GMT
    On the beach... Checked each other out from a distance for a while and started talking in the waves.
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    Mar 21, 2010 5:26 PM GMT
    I've met b.f.'s in a variety of places.............including the gym; office; clubs I belong to - Rotary; alumni gatherings; even out running at lunchtime. I met the "one" however, right here on R.J. Forums. He lived 2600 miles away, but it didn't matter. One of us (we can't remember who) wrote to the other after a good Forum post or comment. We slowly began E-mailing - and then phoning each other. We've shared about a thousand hours on the phone. Finally, we met in person at the Phoenix airport last year. Long story short: It went well.........really well. There were a lot more airports, longer visits. Now, we're reducing the 2600 miles apart down to one house - same city, no more airports!

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  • ATLANTIS7

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    Mar 21, 2010 5:32 PM GMT
    On the Net.
  • jrs1

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    Mar 21, 2010 8:27 PM GMT

    I don't have a boyfriend, so I suppose you're not talking directly to me, but I just went to a club - by myself - for the first time in over 2 months. I walked in with no intentions other than to be in a new place, see the folks there, and see the nightlife events that are part of ' my community. '

    I had the " I don't really give two craps " kind of attitude except to smile and just be in the club; be in the moment. I saw all kinds of guys and I didn't really connect with any, at first. after two drinks and after seeing someone who is not my type but cute ... I walked up to him and just told him, straight up, that I think he's very attractive. of course, I walked away calmly after that ... but he and I ended up talking. he said that, not in a million years, would he have the courage to do what I did.

    I then began to just throw out my sense of being someone who mattered or was executive to those around him - i.e., arrogant and unapproachable - and just said hello to people. fairly soon, I was receiving kisses on my face from the hot bartender (and ended up with his number), a biomedical researcher with a cute personality's number - after up front and genuine conversation, and - the best part - I approached a guy who was smoking hot ... and he was definitely hot ... and he thought I was joking: " who me? no way. " turns out ... he is not accustomed to being approached because he recently lost a lot of weight, so he says he still felt like ' the fat kid. ' I could not help but realize how much I had been missing for years by being too scared to talk to people.

    the latter fellow, it turns out, had a boyfriend and then the three of us began to chat and as the bar was closing ... we were the loudest ones there what with our laughter. it was sweet, respectful, and highly comical conversation.

    point being ... when you're confident enough not to search ... when you're pleasant enough to ignore the bills, the rent, the homework assignments, the loans, the things that force you to plan and be responsible ... just to be more in the moment ... you can meet ' him ' anywhere ... just try not to make it some place sordid.
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    Mar 21, 2010 8:30 PM GMT
    interesting story.,... i had a bf who i met online(he ended up being a total douche bag). we decided to have a threesome

    we broke up 2 months later and i found the guy tht was the third online and i kinda just wanted to hookup but one thing led to another and 5 months later we are in loveicon_smile.gif
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    Mar 21, 2010 8:48 PM GMT
    The last LTR I was in I met my BF by walking my dog. My dog literally dragged me over to where he was fixing his car, and the rest was history.
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    Mar 21, 2010 8:57 PM GMT
    I met my dude on gay.com. I didn't think he was interested in getting to know me more, but a few weeks later, he messaged me on almost every dating site that I was on. He wanted to get my attention and I thank god everyday that I opened up to him. He's been my escape and my number one reason to smile.
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    Mar 21, 2010 9:03 PM GMT
    Met mine on a Yahoo chat group, we met (hook up!!) then again, and again........... six years now. icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 21, 2010 9:07 PM GMT
    djdorchester saidMet mine on a Yahoo chat group, we met (hook up!!) then again, and again........... six years now. icon_smile.gif


    aww.....u skankeh hoe....lolz icon_twisted.gif
  • Akula

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    Mar 21, 2010 9:12 PM GMT
    Met my hubby on gay.com I was in Korea in the Army and he was here in Tacoma, we chatted for a few months and he said he'd make frozen pizza when I got back state side. We hooked up a couple weeks after I got back hung out twice and been together ever since, that was 10 years ago and I love him more and more each day.
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    Mar 21, 2010 9:12 PM GMT
    jrs1 said...
    point being ... when you're confident enough not to search ... when you're pleasant enough to ignore the bills, the rent, the homework assignments, the loans, the things that force you to plan and be responsible ... just to be more in the moment ... you can meet ' him ' anywhere ... just try not to make it some place sordid.


    How can this man be so wise at such a tender age?

    As for me, I found my guy on RJ!

    It took two years of just building friendship and expecting nothing more, and then, last month, it all went krazy kuckoo bonkers off the deep end -- in the good way.

    So my moral is: never say never -- you don't know what life has around the corner for you -- tomorrow, or years from tomorrow.
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    Mar 21, 2010 9:24 PM GMT
    awww I love reading these. MORE PLEASE!!!!!!!! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 21, 2010 9:31 PM GMT
    I agree it's cute. icon_surprised.gif
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    Mar 21, 2010 10:07 PM GMT
    Bf and I met on the beach, in Mykonos, Greece. I had gone for a long swim to blow off some steam and when I climbed out of the water, out of the corners of my eyes I saw him go in. I don't remember what I saw, only that I went right back into the water, looking at him through my goggles. After a couple of strokes he was wearing his swimsuit around his neck, I had been naked already. We got to know each other better in the rocks on the side of the bay icon_rolleyes.gif, had dinner that evening, I spent the night at his hotel and we spent the next 4 days together.

    After the vacation we did a long-distance relationship for 6 years between Cologne and Amsterdam, before he fell up the corporate ladder and had to go back to Silicon Valley and I decided to come along. For 6 years we were living together in San Jose, CA and now the last 4 here in Orlando.
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    Mar 21, 2010 10:10 PM GMT
    bernd saidBf and I met on the beach, in Mykonos, Greece. I had gone for a long swim to blow off some steam and when I climbed out of the water, out of the corners of my eyes I saw him go in. I don't remember what I saw, only that I went right back into the water, looking at him through my goggles. After a couple of strokes he was wearing his swimsuit around his neck, I had been naked already. We got to know each other better in the rocks on the side of the bay icon_rolleyes.gif, had dinner that evening, I spent the night at his hotel and we spent the next 4 days together.

    After the vacation we did a long-distance relationship for 6 years between Cologne and Amsterdam, before he fell up the corporate ladder and had to go back to Silicon Valley and I decided to come along. For 6 years we were living together in San Jose, CA and now the last 4 here in Orlando.




    That's cute ^^D
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    Mar 21, 2010 10:28 PM GMT
    A wedding. Yay!
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    Mar 21, 2010 10:38 PM GMT
    Awww, all these beautiful stories make me feel so lonely right now. But everyone who is with someone, wishing you all a very happy and strong relationship with ur better halves.
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    Mar 21, 2010 10:42 PM GMT
    i keep hearing people whove met their bf for A4A, now im considering getting one even though last time i was on it (2 years ago) it was all about Sexxx
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    Mar 21, 2010 10:51 PM GMT
    On line for the bathroom at a bar - 8 1/2 years ago. icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 21, 2010 10:53 PM GMT
    Wow, so many on-line meetings....kind of surprising. I guess mines not so unusual then. Met mine on Bigmuscle.com. He saw me on line and sent me a short message to say hi and tell me how handsome he thought I was. I thought he was very attractive BUT he was 21 and was in Tokyo in school. So I sent a message back and thanked him for the compliment and thought that was that.

    Then he'd send me a message once a week just to say hello and ask how things were going and I'd answer, exchanging pleasantries. Then the messages started coming more frequently and I didn't mind but still wasn't thinking about anything beyond an internet friendship. Eventually he asked for an IM id and we started chatting and from a couple times a week, it became everyday and after about three months I started thinking, wow this kid (was still thinking of him as a kid then) is really nice, I'm glad we've become buddies.

    To make a long story short, fast forward four months and I'm falling for him hard so I hop on a plane half way around the world to Cape Town, South Africa and when I saw him at the airport......WOW! That was it for me. I proposed over Christmas and we hope to marry in Cape Town later this year or next spring.

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    Mar 21, 2010 10:55 PM GMT
    Met my husband when his bf at the time approached me at a club for a 3some with them. I politely declined but couldn't help noticing how cute he was. A year later we ran into each other again at a party. This time we were both single so he asked me out. Been together 11 years and married for almost 3 years.
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    Mar 22, 2010 2:20 AM GMT
    asnextdoor saidAwww, all these beautiful stories make me feel so lonely right now. But everyone who is with someone, wishing you all a very happy and strong relationship with ur better halves.



    asnextdoor, we both wish for you, with every bit of our fairy godfatherness (yes we really are) every degree of the most thrilling and satisfying love relationship that there is!

    BEN-itty BOB-itty BRIAN. (for those that don't know, fairy godmothers say bibbitty bobbitty boo) icon_wink.gif


    Bill and I met at a Vancouver dance club known as Celebrities.

    -Doug
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    Mar 22, 2010 2:55 AM GMT
    This one is for the grandkids icon_lol.gif

    My bf and I first met each other way back in kindergarten. I moved away after grade 1, and we did not meet each other again until 30 + years later at a house party hosted by a mutual friend. There was something oddly familiar about him, but I just could not place it. We ended up developing a friendship over the course of that summer, hanging out and getting to know each other.

    One day for some inexplicable reason, I decided to look at my kindergarten school picture and there he was sitting on the floor 3 little guys away from me. I was 99% sure it was him, because he still honestly has that baby-faced aura about him, so I immediately emailed him and asked him what grade school he went to. He confirmed it, but thought it an odd question. I kept this info to myself for a few weeks, wanting to get a framed copy of the school picture as a surprise.

    We quickly realized afterwards that we had crossed paths numerous times during the years in between, both going to the same university sharing the same faculty, and also working for several years at the same public market in Vancouver. We just never officially met each other, so that explains the feelings of familiarity I had about him, and neither one of us remembers the other from kindergarten.

    This September, we will have been together for 10 years. I am not a huge believer in fate or destiny, but this does kind of make me think about it, eh?