Gay Bashing by Other Gays

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    Mar 21, 2010 3:56 PM GMT
    Call it what you want, but to me, I find that as a group of people who are already picked-on, labeled as pervs., ostracized by many, ignored by more, and sometimes, removed from our families, should show a little more tolerance to each other. This is apparently not the case in far too many settings...
    So, someone... PLEASE explain to me the reason that some people find it so easy to "bash" other gays because of the way they look, dress, worship and, in general, live???
    What kind of man (who happens to be on THIS site) would post the following ugly comment in his profile...and think that some may find it humorous, true or even acceptable:
    "So then I clicketty click onto a single guys profile. Not one of those pathetic unfit potatoes with nothing but saggy shitty parts who thinks that there will actually be a muscleman out there somewhere who is attracted to a bucket of lard on legs. In this era we're living in? Fat chance."

    I give some allowance because of this "boys" age... but he will, no doubt, grow up to be a bitter old man...and most likely alone.
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    Mar 21, 2010 4:01 PM GMT
    Hey, this is an age old question on RJ. When someone puts something like that on their profile, we consider it a BIG stop sign, and are peculiarly glad to see it. Makes sorting out who's cool and who isn't a lot easier. icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 21, 2010 4:05 PM GMT
    Just because he possesses a gay membership card does not mean he's gonna think uniform to other gays. He's a prick. They come a dime a dozen hetro and it didn't escape him cause he's a fag. The shit I sometimes hear directed towards me frm other blk ppl because of my skin tone and my choice of wrds gets me labeled all the time. It suxs but you have to lk at the source and then it just doesn't seem to matter as much.

    Hola, Bill and Doug!
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    Mar 21, 2010 4:08 PM GMT
    Hola yourself, Hillie! * strikes mean flamenco pose and snaps castanets* icon_lol.gif

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    Mar 21, 2010 4:14 PM GMT
    Gurl plz, Can you believe this shit? Who he think he is talking bout a bucket of lard on eggs? w/out the lard and the eggs we'd have no fried chicken. He better come correct! LOLicon_eek.gificon_eek.gificon_eek.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gif
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    Mar 21, 2010 4:15 PM GMT


    ROFL Hillie!
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    Mar 21, 2010 4:33 PM GMT
    Hillie...thanks for your support...but it's LEGS not eggs. Haven't had your breakfast yet, huh??
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    Mar 21, 2010 6:06 PM GMT
    ???? huh
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    Mar 21, 2010 6:15 PM GMT
    I think because a lot of gay men have been put down and made to feel as though they are less-than, they start building up strong egos as a defense mechanism to the negativity. It's sort of like saying, "well maybe if I have big muscles then they won't hate me as much," or "if I act this certain way then maybe I will have a bigger following of friends and more acceptance than someone else." I don't mean to say trying to look your best is in anyway wrong, but it's the motivation behind it that is important. Some of these sites should really be called RealEgo, or Egomaniac4Egomaniac, or EgomaniacHunt. There's just too many guys looking for image-approval and for someone to tell them they are attractive in order to satisfy their ego's desire to be acknowledged. I’m guilty of it at times as we all are. I think we should be more accurate and up front about what we’re looking for, and if someone rejects you because they feel that you’re not what they are looking for at this moment in time you should just accept it and move on rather than get angry..
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    Mar 21, 2010 6:23 PM GMT
    Lots of gay men ARE trashy dirt bags, vindictive, hateful, deceitful, closeted, lying, resentful, dishonest, careless, self-centered. They ARE trashy folks.

    Now, being gay does NOT give you entitlement to universal acceptance. It just makes you gay. If you're a trashy person, cheat on your wife, have careless sex, live in the closet....you're still a trashy person, gay, or not.
  • BlackBeltGuy

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    Mar 21, 2010 6:30 PM GMT
    YEAH ... GAY HATE ON GAY HATE IS NOT COOL.

    we should band together and focus on our strengths then instead tearing up each others weaknesses. That is the only way we will repeal any govt actions or inner racial prejudices.icon_exclaim.gif
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    Mar 21, 2010 7:16 PM GMT
    Thanks, my angel... I knew you would understand. (you know who you are)
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    Mar 21, 2010 7:25 PM GMT
    From lawguy920:

    "There's just too many guys looking for image-approval and for someone to tell them they are attractive in order to satisfy their ego's desire to be acknowledged. I think we should be more accurate and up front about what we’re looking for, and if someone rejects you because they feel that you’re not what they are looking for at this moment in time you should just accept it and move on rather than get angry."

    If I understand you correctly, you are saying that it's perfectly acceptable to "trash-talk" anyone who is less than perfect... and the blame is on ME because I'm looking for "image approval"... is that correct??
    To me, a good man is not what shell he is in, but what is inside that shell that counts. icon_exclaim.gif
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    Mar 21, 2010 7:35 PM GMT
    Some humans are assholes. That is how the world works.
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    Mar 21, 2010 8:18 PM GMT
    daddyluvsya saidFrom lawguy920:

    "There's just too many guys looking for image-approval and for someone to tell them they are attractive in order to satisfy their ego's desire to be acknowledged. I think we should be more accurate and up front about what we’re looking for, and if someone rejects you because they feel that you’re not what they are looking for at this moment in time you should just accept it and move on rather than get angry."

    If I understand you correctly, you are saying that it's perfectly acceptable to "trash-talk" anyone who is less than perfect... and the blame is on ME because I'm looking for "image approval"... is that correct??
    To me, a good man is not what shell he is in, but what is inside that shell that counts. icon_exclaim.gif


    No, I was saying there are many other guys who are looking for approval. Not sure how you could read that to infer I was talking about you.
  • jgymnast733

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    Mar 21, 2010 8:51 PM GMT
    WOW, cant believe someone actually has this on their page,, How dare he.. Thats just mean, i wanna know who it is so i can visit this page and check him out..
    I'd like to give him a piece of my mind,[New York Style]......
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    Mar 21, 2010 9:06 PM GMT
    Red_Homo_Rush

    5th paragraph.


    I would say something about him,but I don't want to make him cry.icon_biggrin.gif
  • Celticmusl

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    Mar 21, 2010 9:24 PM GMT
    lenoxx saidRed_Homo_Rush

    5th paragraph.


    I would say something about him,but I don't want to make him cry.icon_biggrin.gif



    Meh.... I think the profile says what sometimes I think, but I have an internal editor that stops me from saying or writing certain things that yes, will hurt other peoples feelings. I can't get too upset about this and I don't think it's gay on gay bashing as in, bashing someone specifically because they are gay.

    The paragraph about happy couples....yeah....sometimes when I get home late at night from hanging out with a few of my friends that are happy couples... Well, let's just say it's good that I don't write down my thoughts or feelings. It's great that there are happy couples, it's just that sometimes one might not want to be reminded of what they don't have in their life.

    We all have our likes and dislikes, and we all are not going to get along all the time. But it is still important to have a bit of solidarity in terms of wanting the best for others and also equal rights among other things. I didn't read the whole thing, but I don't think this profile is threatening any of that.
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    Mar 21, 2010 9:24 PM GMT
    meninlove said Hey, this is an age old question on RJ. When someone puts something like that on their profile, we consider it a BIG stop sign, and are peculiarly glad to see it. Makes sorting out who's cool and who isn't a lot easier. icon_wink.gif


    That is very true!
  • mcwclewis

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    Mar 21, 2010 9:28 PM GMT
    After reading the context it was in, I don't think he's an asshole, just naive.


  • dannyboy1101

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    Mar 21, 2010 9:28 PM GMT
    I HATE gays that say they hate gays. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 21, 2010 9:51 PM GMT
    Hey, whiners ITT: Why should I be attracted to someone who doesn't take care of themselves? Seriously, there's no reason for it, being fat shows a lot about a person besides a gargantuan waistline.

    Let's face it, when you look at porn, do you see fatties very often? Nope, you see muscular, athletic guys and (sometimes) twinks and bears. But it's mostly muscular guys. You know why? Because people aren't attracted to fatasses, they'd much rather look at guys with defined, built bodies. So stop whining.
  • Joeyphx444

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    Mar 21, 2010 9:55 PM GMT
    dannyboy1101 saidI HATE gays that say they hate gays. icon_biggrin.gif


    So just b/c I am a college student I have to love all college students? Just cuz I am latino, I have to love all latinos? Just cuz I'm gay I have to love all gays? Etc, etc

    Get real people and get over it geez
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    Mar 21, 2010 9:57 PM GMT
    Fearthefall saidHey, whiners ITT: Why should I be attracted to someone who doesn't take care of themselves? Seriously, there's no reason for it, being fat shows a lot about a person besides a gargantuan waistline.

    Let's face it, when you look at porn, do you see fatties very often? Nope, you see muscular, athletic guys and (sometimes) twinks and bears. But it's mostly muscular guys. You know why? Because people aren't attracted to fatasses, they'd much rather look at guys with defined, built bodies. So stop whining.


    It's really sad that you're either so insecure or so suffering from delusions of adequacy that all you can do is attack other people.

    Have you ever contributed anything positive to this forum?

    I'm beginning to think RJ needs an "Asshole of the Day" award to supplement the MOTD one. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Mar 21, 2010 9:58 PM GMT
    daddyluvsya saidCall it what you want, but to me, I find that as a group of people who are already picked-on, labeled as pervs., ostracized by many, ignored by more, and sometimes, removed from our families, should show a little more tolerance to each other. This is apparently not the case in far too many settings...
    So, someone... PLEASE explain to me the reason that some people find it so easy to "bash" other gays because of the way they look, dress, worship and, in general, live???
    What kind of man (who happens to be on THIS site) would post the following ugly comment in his profile...and think that some may find it humorous, true or even acceptable:
    "So then I clicketty click onto a single guys profile. Not one of those pathetic unfit potatoes with nothing but saggy shitty parts who thinks that there will actually be a muscleman out there somewhere who is attracted to a bucket of lard on legs. In this era we're living in? Fat chance."

    I give some allowance because of this "boys" age... but he will, no doubt, grow up to be a bitter old man...and most likely alone.



    Doesn't sound like gay-bashing at all to me. Sounds like the type of judging that goes on between people of all sexes, races, etc... it's always been there, always will be. Just ignore it and try to be a good person yourself icon_smile.gif