first time top

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    Mar 22, 2010 4:40 PM GMT
    Hey guys I have two problems.
    I have a new boyfriend I really like him a lot. He loves me. His whole gay life he´s been a top. And he always waited for the right guy (apparently me) when he can try bottoming. Well I am not the smallest guy if you know what I mean. Any idea how I can make this easier on him?

    I tried topping a few times before. But it never worked out cause when my head is in the guys hole it feels like my dick´s bending away. It hurts and I have to stop icon_sad.gif
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    Mar 22, 2010 6:02 PM GMT
    here are a few suggestions:

    1) spend more time playing softly with his sphincter. allow him to open up (presuming, of course, that he has properly and thoroughly douched he should already be a bit ready for penetration from inserting the nozzle repeatedly). start with your tongue then graduate to your smallest finger (in terms of girth). graduate slowly to your thickest finger. If all seems well, go slowly with two fingers.
    If you have a small butt toy, lube it generously and slide it in him while kissing. let the toy remain for a few minutes.

    2) are you using enough lube??? this bending issue sounds like you are either not using the appropriate angle and/or sufficient lubrication.

    3) go SLOW. allow him to VERY SLOWLY expand around the tip of your (condom-sheathed) cock. as he relaxes open and shifts his torso you will be able to slide in.

    4) consider that the depth/angle/shape of his bowel may not be compatible with your massive schlong. some things are just not meant to be.
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    Mar 22, 2010 8:14 PM GMT
    Jack gives good advice.

    It sounds like he is way too tight to take you. That bending you feel is probably being caused by his sphincter clamping down because he is in pain. After that ring of muscle, there is nothing other than bone to bend your dick around. If anything, you are banging into his guts and mashing them around.

    To get him to relax you need to spend some quality time with his ass. Stick your tongue in there. Use some lubed fingers. Perhaps get a toy (he should get a toy. All sexual people should have toys. This is my rule by which all creatures should live. Amen). You want to play with his ass so much that he relaxes and forgets the incredible weight of his cherry and and only thinks about getting your hot cock.

    At the same time, you are both inexperienced. The most important thing for you two to do is communicate with each other. You two don't know what you like yet. A few years down the road, he will know what he likes to get banged doggy style while you pull his hair. You will know that you can't get off unless he pushes back. Right now you two have to figure out what it is that you like, what it is you both like, and how you can have mind blowing orgasms together.

    A lot of this comes down to nerves. To get rid of that anxiety, he should make ass play more comfortable. He should play with a toy by himself to figure out what feels good and what doesn't to better inform you. He should play with himself with you there with him. That way a thing in the ass is associated with pleasure and not with ZOMG VIRGINITY!

    Play safe. Post pictures.
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    Mar 23, 2010 3:16 PM GMT
    pictures of what? ;)