Why do some masculine gay men act like WOMEN in bed?

  • SSB35

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    Mar 22, 2010 11:40 PM GMT
    I totally don't understand this. If you're a man, and you're proud to be a man, then why the need to act like a woman in bed??? For me, there's nothing more disappointing than getting a hot masculine guy to go to bed with me, only to discover that he's got some feminine side that wasn't apparent. It's bizarre. In the gay scene, there's all this emphasis on physical appearance and looking masculine, etc. And yet, it seems that some (perhaps most?) masculine gay guys behave in a very feminine manner in bed. What causes that? Or what is it that drives a man to want to act that way in bed? Is it some kind of latent feminine side that only comes out during sex? I'm sure many of you here have either encountered this type of thing before, or you yourselves are like that. Help me to understand this.
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    Mar 22, 2010 11:53 PM GMT
    Did you want those masculine guys to fuck you but they flopped on their backs with their legs in the air instead?
  • SSB35

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    Mar 23, 2010 12:00 AM GMT
    I'm not talking about them simply bottoming. I'm talking about literally acting like a woman (high-pitched moaning, etc).
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    Mar 23, 2010 12:02 AM GMT
    I know what you mean. Big turnoff..
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    Mar 23, 2010 12:04 AM GMT
    haha... high pitched moaning? Never experienced that one. But maybe im not putting up a front of masculinity to cover up my feminine features.
  • stevendust

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    Mar 23, 2010 12:07 AM GMT
    Haha yeah, I had a friend who was verbally "anti-gay" yet was known to be the biggest woman in bed and fell for everybody he had sex with as well. He was quite the joke.
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    Mar 23, 2010 12:10 AM GMT
    There isn't anything to understand. It's just who they are. Gay men are driven to appear and act masculine both by social pressure from mainstream expectations and their perceptions of what attracts potential partners. In many ways, these pressures are just forcing gay men into another closet for fear that to be themselves is to become unattractive (didn't you come out to avoid this?)

    God forbid that homos should have to censor themselves during sex now. It's bad enough as it is. I'm sure there are plenty of truly straight men who act, as you say, "feminine" (whatever that actually means) in bed.

    Perhaps the better question is how you end up fucking enough of them that it's bothering you to the point where you're posting about it?
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    Mar 23, 2010 12:12 AM GMT
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    Mar 23, 2010 12:13 AM GMT
    Because gay men in general associate that which is feminine with homosexuality. As such, a guy getting nailed in the butt likens his situation to a woman getting nailed in the vagina. As he's already imitating the form it isn't so far a stretch to go ahead and imitate the sound and behavior of a woman getting nailed.

    This is an example of psychosis and an unhealthy, fetish-driven fantasy-life.

    The power dynamic between two "gay" guys in a sexual relationship is already so disproportionate that the development of complexes is to be expected.

    But that's just my two cents.
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    Mar 23, 2010 12:15 AM GMT
    SSB35 saidI totally don't understand this. If you're a man, and you're proud to be a man, then why the need to act like a woman in bed??? For me, there's nothing more disappointing than getting a hot masculine guy to go to bed with me, only to discover that he's got some feminine side that wasn't apparent. It's bizarre. In the gay scene, there's all this emphasis on physical appearance and looking masculine, etc. And yet, it seems that some (perhaps most?) masculine gay guys behave in a very feminine manner in bed. What causes that? Or what is it that drives a man to want to act that way in bed? Is it some kind of latent feminine side that only comes out during sex? I'm sure many of you here have either encountered this type of thing before, or you yourselves are like that. Help me to understand this.


    So am I not allowed to enjoy cuddling? Because I DO! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 23, 2010 12:16 AM GMT
    Someone doesn't understand how women act in bed, I'd say.
  • coolarmydude

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    Mar 23, 2010 12:18 AM GMT
    SSB35 saidI'm not talking about them simply bottoming. I'm talking about literally acting like a woman (high-pitched moaning, etc).


    I see that in gay porn sometimes and it is annoying. There was one bottom that was still moaning long after the top pulled out. And it wasn't a sound editing either because his mouth was moving like he was moaning.
  • nv7_

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    Mar 23, 2010 12:20 AM GMT
    Stop whining. Fuck a fem guy. If the masc guys are acting fem in bed, the fem guys will act masc in bed. Problem solved. Move along. icon_cool.gif
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    Mar 23, 2010 12:21 AM GMT
    My voice cracks when a guy hits the right spots in my arse hehehe, but I don't really give a shit about it, I'm more interested in him hitting those spots...
  • tbeaux

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    Mar 23, 2010 12:21 AM GMT
    uhhh, who cares? (note to self: don't have sex with SSB, he takes the fun out of everything)
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    Mar 23, 2010 12:21 AM GMT
    nv7_ saidStop whining. Fuck a fem guy. If the masc guys are acting fem in bed, the fem guys will act masc in bed. Problem solved. Move along. icon_cool.gif

    *giggles* You tell'em icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 23, 2010 12:26 AM GMT
    JoeB1986 said
    SSB35 saidI totally don't understand this. If you're a man, and you're proud to be a man, then why the need to act like a woman in bed??? For me, there's nothing more disappointing than getting a hot masculine guy to go to bed with me, only to discover that he's got some feminine side that wasn't apparent. It's bizarre. In the gay scene, there's all this emphasis on physical appearance and looking masculine, etc. And yet, it seems that some (perhaps most?) masculine gay guys behave in a very feminine manner in bed. What causes that? Or what is it that drives a man to want to act that way in bed? Is it some kind of latent feminine side that only comes out during sex? I'm sure many of you here have either encountered this type of thing before, or you yourselves are like that. Help me to understand this.


    So am I not allowed to enjoy cuddling? Because I DO! icon_biggrin.gif



    Me too. But let it be known, I'm not a high pitched moaner! icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 23, 2010 12:28 AM GMT
    JoeB1986 said
    SSB35 saidI totally don't understand this. If you're a man, and you're proud to be a man, then why the need to act like a woman in bed??? For me, there's nothing more disappointing than getting a hot masculine guy to go to bed with me, only to discover that he's got some feminine side that wasn't apparent. It's bizarre. In the gay scene, there's all this emphasis on physical appearance and looking masculine, etc. And yet, it seems that some (perhaps most?) masculine gay guys behave in a very feminine manner in bed. What causes that? Or what is it that drives a man to want to act that way in bed? Is it some kind of latent feminine side that only comes out during sex? I'm sure many of you here have either encountered this type of thing before, or you yourselves are like that. Help me to understand this.


    So am I not allowed to enjoy cuddling? Because I DO! icon_biggrin.gif


    You can cuddle all you want...just don't turn into Tina Turner on crack while u getting laid.
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    Mar 23, 2010 12:29 AM GMT
    I enjoy both cuddling and deep male grunts... if I wanted high-pitched I'd have stayed with my beard
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    Mar 23, 2010 12:30 AM GMT
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    JoeB1986 said
    SSB35 saidI totally don't understand this. If you're a man, and you're proud to be a man, then why the need to act like a woman in bed??? For me, there's nothing more disappointing than getting a hot masculine guy to go to bed with me, only to discover that he's got some feminine side that wasn't apparent. It's bizarre. In the gay scene, there's all this emphasis on physical appearance and looking masculine, etc. And yet, it seems that some (perhaps most?) masculine gay guys behave in a very feminine manner in bed. What causes that? Or what is it that drives a man to want to act that way in bed? Is it some kind of latent feminine side that only comes out during sex? I'm sure many of you here have either encountered this type of thing before, or you yourselves are like that. Help me to understand this.


    So am I not allowed to enjoy cuddling? Because I DO! icon_biggrin.gif


    You can cuddle all you want...just don't turn into Tina Turner on crack while u getting laid.



    HAhaha, never my friend. Crack is wack.
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    Mar 23, 2010 12:32 AM GMT

    So am I not allowed to enjoy cuddling? Because I DO! icon_biggrin.gif[/quote]

    Oh I so enjoy cuddling ...
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    Mar 23, 2010 12:32 AM GMT
    U want turn off??? I had a guy cry while in bed...i was gonna leave because i though of it as a sign of me doing a bad job...but it turned out that he just ends up crying while having sex. He was sobbing and screaming "don't stop don't stop"...but his sobs were more of the "my dog just died" variety...I was confused and freaked out and stuck with the guy until he would cum...now THAT's a mood killer.
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    Mar 23, 2010 12:33 AM GMT
    Did you watch porn when Tiger Tyson fuck Castro who screamed like woman
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    Mar 23, 2010 12:33 AM GMT
    JoeB1986 said
    nysexy said
    JoeB1986 said
    SSB35 saidI totally don't understand this. If you're a man, and you're proud to be a man, then why the need to act like a woman in bed??? For me, there's nothing more disappointing than getting a hot masculine guy to go to bed with me, only to discover that he's got some feminine side that wasn't apparent. It's bizarre. In the gay scene, there's all this emphasis on physical appearance and looking masculine, etc. And yet, it seems that some (perhaps most?) masculine gay guys behave in a very feminine manner in bed. What causes that? Or what is it that drives a man to want to act that way in bed? Is it some kind of latent feminine side that only comes out during sex? I'm sure many of you here have either encountered this type of thing before, or you yourselves are like that. Help me to understand this.


    So am I not allowed to enjoy cuddling? Because I DO! icon_biggrin.gif


    You can cuddle all you want...just don't turn into Tina Turner on crack while u getting laid.



    HAhaha, never my friend. Crack is wack.


    lol...good to know..and the fact that u like to cuddle is VERY hot
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    Mar 23, 2010 12:33 AM GMT
    Jboegz saidI enjoy both cuddling and deep male grunts... if I wanted high-pitched I'd have stayed with my beard

    Oh the grunts...yeah deep male grunts.....mmmmmmm