When two just isn't enough!

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    Mar 23, 2010 12:44 AM GMT
    Are there any guys in monogamist relationship with two guys? What are your thoughts on threeway relationships?
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    Mar 23, 2010 2:04 PM GMT
    that's something i didn't really think about. i could do it for sure but jealousy/favoritism would be my biggest concern but i imagine it would be more like a housemates with benefits situation.

    i would prefer to have a three way relationship with a man and a woman if two of us had a family together but i would only have sex with the guy.

    are you in one?
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    Mar 23, 2010 2:06 PM GMT
    Hot. ^_^
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    Mar 23, 2010 2:09 PM GMT
    Threeway sex = hot.

    Threeway love = trouble.

    By the way, the definition of monogamy is one lover.

  • hotboy813

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    Mar 23, 2010 2:11 PM GMT
    djdorchester saidThreeway sex = hot.

    Threeway love = trouble.

    By the way, the definition of monogamy is one lover.



    agree 100%
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    Mar 23, 2010 2:31 PM GMT
    Hah! I was in one of these menages at 19. late 1974-early 1975. They were in their 30s. It was fine til I fell hard over one of them, and began being less interested in the other. Ugh.


    -Doug
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    Mar 23, 2010 2:37 PM GMT
    What about a bf, who cheat. I love him so much and accepted the arrangement. That what happen to me with my ex. But it was he, who having 2 bf , not me. I remain monogamous with him, until he start ignoring me and finally dump me for him.
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    Mar 23, 2010 3:20 PM GMT
    zakariahzol saidWhat about a bf, who cheat. I love him so much and accepted the arrangement. That what happen to me with my ex. But it was he, who having 2 bf , not me. I remain monogamous with him, until he start ignoring me and finally dump me for him.


    He wasn't cheating if you accepted the arrangement. Lesson learned, eh?

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    Mar 23, 2010 3:23 PM GMT
    There is always more than two in any relationship.

    Thinking about someone else when you are having sex?

    Think about it.
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    Mar 23, 2010 3:30 PM GMT
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    Mar 23, 2010 3:31 PM GMT
    cronker saidThere is always more than two in any relationship.

    Thinking about someone else when you are having sex?

    Think about it.



    Wrong. It's not the thought of another person that makes it polygamy, it's the involvement of another one.

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    Mar 23, 2010 3:36 PM GMT
    I think polygamy can work for very confident self-assured guys from their mid-30s onwards.

    Unlikely to work for most guys before then. Too many insecurities.
  • Timbales

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    Mar 23, 2010 3:47 PM GMT
    The idea does sound intriguing on paper.
  • coolarmydude

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    Mar 23, 2010 4:09 PM GMT
    cowboyy78 saidAre there any guys in monogamist relationship with two guys? What are your thoughts on threeway relationships?



    Between three people, the relationship could be a closed relationship, but not monogamous, unless one is not sexually involved with either. The whole term monogamous means to be in a sexual relationship with only one other person.
  • irishkcguy

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    Mar 23, 2010 4:20 PM GMT
    I have a friend who has been involved in two separate three-way relationships. Both of them ended badly for him. Based on that, I don't think it's a good idea.
  • mrcpu1

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    Mar 24, 2010 3:52 AM GMT
    What about friends with privileges? You can have best friends, but only one lover. Sex for the sake of sex is not love, it's an urge. How would that fit in to this discussion?
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    Mar 24, 2010 4:01 AM GMT
    If that one guy isn't enough for you, you probably shouldn't be in a relationship with him..
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    Mar 24, 2010 1:40 PM GMT
    djdorchester saidThreeway sex = hot.

    Threeway love = trouble.

    By the way, the definition of monogamy is one lover.



    Not in the sense we are using it. We could rewrite the OP to ask "is it possible to have a closed relationship among three people."

    I see some people on here, and the dozen other threads we have had on this, say that they personally don't feel capable of it. Great.

    Others say they knew someone who was in one once. It didn't work out, thus it is a bad idea. I was in a two person relationship once and it didn't work out, should I be telling you that two-person relationships are doomed to failure?

    Look, it works for some people. It does not work for other people. Keep an open mind about it. If you are presented with the opportunity to enter into such a relationship, it could be a great experience for you. Or, you can walk into it closed minded and miss out on love.
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    Apr 18, 2010 2:01 PM GMT
    viveutvivas saidI think polygamy can work for very confident self-assured guys from their mid-30s onwards.

    Unlikely to work for most guys before then. Too many insecurities.


    Ummm...hmm...can you elaborate please? I'm not sure I buy that.
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    Apr 18, 2010 2:04 PM GMT
    I've been in one and it was GREAT! I am open to it happening again!
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    Apr 23, 2010 3:54 PM GMT
    a1972guy saidI've been in one and it was GREAT! I am open to it happening again!


    hi,

    more info on this please. How did you guys start out? What were the rules, if any? Did you guys only have threeways or could you pair off? Was this a threeway closed relationship or were you guys open to multiple partners, pairings etc? How did it end? Why?

    Facts please :-)
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    Apr 23, 2010 3:58 PM GMT
    DjDorchester saidThreeway sex = hot.

    Threeway love = trouble.

    By the way, the definition of monogamy is one lover.



    I agree with this.

    Even if it's a committed triad, I still forsee an incredible amount of jealousy issues, and I don;t want any part in it.
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    Apr 23, 2010 4:14 PM GMT
    lol no, just no...
  • JayDT

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    Apr 23, 2010 4:49 PM GMT
    It's not for me personally, but I don't judge. Hell I know a straight thrupple who have this scenario and a gay thrupple. The straight thrupple it's one woman and two men. The two guys considder eachother best friends and they are both madly in love with her and only want to see her happy. I've never asked how their sex lives work, it's none of my business. They've been together for over ten years. The gay thrupple has been together for at least three years. The thing with them is that one of the guys is big time not out, his two bfs are the only men he has ever known and potentially will ever know. They're all way cool.
  • Midas426

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    Apr 23, 2010 4:56 PM GMT
    JayDT saidIt's not for me personally, but I don't judge. Hell I know a straight thrupple who have this scenario and a gay thrupple. The straight thrupple it's one woman and two men. The two guys considder eachother best friends and they are both madly in love with her and only want to see her happy. I've never asked how their sex lives work, it's none of my business. They've been together for over ten years. The gay thrupple has been together for at least three years. The thing with them is that one of the guys is big time not out, his two bfs are the only men he has ever known and potentially will ever know. They're all way cool.
    Wow...that's one lucky lady getting two supposed straight guys to agree to that scenario.

    I actually got introduced to the 3-way game January 2009. Honestly I did it because I had a mad crush on the guy that initiated it. Physically and sexually he was perfect for me. Unfortunately he liked three ways a bit too much for my taste. I enjoyed it the three times I've done it with him and the three other guys. But there was that side of me that was jealous of having to share him so I told myself if I couldn't have all of him, then I couldn't have any of him.