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    Mar 23, 2010 4:49 AM GMT
    I guess I just feel a bit disappointed that everytime I meet a genuinely cool/sexy guy they are usually a minimum of about 3 states away. I'm bi and not out to anybody-- not that that is anything original, but it definitely makes meeting people a little more difficult unless its online.

    So it totally sucks sifting through fake profiles and creeps for hours only to find an awesome guy who I might not even ever meet.

    So this is just kind of a disappointed rant on my part, but whatever lol. Anybody else seem to experience this type of curse?
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    Mar 23, 2010 5:10 AM GMT
    It'll work out for you. Don't sweat it.
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    Mar 23, 2010 5:11 AM GMT
    lol, for some it's no curse.

    Look at at bgcat57 and jockbod48 for example....icon_wink.gif


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    Mar 23, 2010 5:24 AM GMT
    I feel your pain, so I gave up on that n just started to build some friendship here...but for you this place might be a great way to be yourself...I mean it sucks to be in the closet and not be able to talk about guys (we dont really much care about the ones with no cocks tbh) so just look at it as a way to build a support group instead of you know...scorin n gettin lucky...dont know if this a good advice considering that Im just 19....but hey at least I tried to help right?
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    Mar 23, 2010 5:29 AM GMT
    haha, well i cant knock your advice man, im only 19 myself. That is one of the main reasons i enjoy this site, because im able to talk to people about stuff i normally wouldnt be able to. As far as being not out though, that doesnt really worry me, because im pretty comfortable with myself. I just dont really feel like i should have to announce anything.
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    Mar 23, 2010 2:59 PM GMT
    Well I dont mean like announcing it to the world, marchin in your undies, and bein a total flamer kind of thing. Just tell those that you care about, is not like your personality is going to change just because you told some people that you like dick. If anything this will be a burden off your shoulders, and you be able to meet guys near you and not be worried what your others have to say. But if you dont want to oh well, is your life I cant force people to do things they dont feel comfortable doing. I just wish you luck finding a guy in the intranet : )
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    Mar 23, 2010 7:34 PM GMT
    haha, well thx man. I definitely did not have anything like a parade or something that involves a podium in mind when i meant announced.icon_lol.gif I guess I just feel that with my great group of friends, I dont want to say something that would potentially put them in an uncomfortable spot. I don't think it would be fair to them.
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    Mar 24, 2010 7:10 PM GMT
    YoungJock4 saidhaha, well thx man. I definitely did not have anything like a parade or something that involves a podium in mind when i meant announced.icon_lol.gif I guess I just feel that with my great group of friends, I dont want to say something that would potentially put them in an uncomfortable spot. I don't think it would be fair to them.


    I don't think it's fair for you to be uncomfortable about who you are just so your group of friends don't have to possibly deal with it. If they really are your friends, then they will support you and root for you in your efforts to be yourself and find someone who makes you happy.
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    Mar 25, 2010 2:30 AM GMT
    i totaly understand about the fake shit...and i feel your pain but in my case i tend to find guys and my attitude pushes them away,i have never dated online im only here to make friends but if hes here kool,

    and about not being out yet.my advice is not to wait no more you are 19,you are at the best age to have fun and party,im sure you do but when your family knows you party better,i came out when i was 14 but i know alot of guys who are still in the closet but then again im 19 also lolicon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 25, 2010 11:18 PM GMT
    BELLO saidi totaly understand about the fake shit...and i feel your pain but in my case i tend to find guys and my attitude pushes them away,i have never dated online im only here to make friends but if hes here kool,

    and about not being out yet.my advice is not to wait no more you are 19,you are at the best age to have fun and party,im sure you do but when your family knows you party better,i came out when i was 14 but i know alot of guys who are still in the closet but then again im 19 also lolicon_biggrin.gif


    i actually do admire your "i don't give a shit what people think about me" attitude. i guess in the end it's just me being worried about complicating things with my friends and family. Also, being Bi... i somehow feel less obligated to "be out" i guess.
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    Mar 25, 2010 11:21 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidBest solution is to stay off line. It's practical and easy. Nothing else that can really be done. Go out in public and meet guys. Join organizations.

    I am just here for chat so I don't have that problem. But if I were in the OP's shoes I would totally understand.


    your advice really does make a ton of sense and that is probably what i should do... just not ready for it mentally unfortunately icon_sad.gif
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    Mar 26, 2010 1:36 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]meninlove said[/cite] lol, for some it's no curse.

    Look at at bgcat57 and jockbod48 for example....icon_wink.gif


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    Mar 29, 2010 10:04 PM GMT
    Surely there are other people in your city on here.

    But it would certainly help if you "came out" as they say.