Firsstt time...??

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    Mar 23, 2010 10:27 PM GMT
    havent had my firstt...but what should be expected??
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    Mar 23, 2010 10:33 PM GMT
    been watching gay porn for a while, but never had sex with another gay
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    Mar 24, 2010 1:18 AM GMT
    Andress22 saidbeen watching gay porn for a while, but never had sex with another gay

    Gay porn , like straight porn, is staged for the camera. It's all about what looks exciting to the viewer who purchases these things, not about what may feel best to the participants. Porn can give you some ideas about positions and such, but not necessarily the finer points of technique.

    For instance, in both gay & straight porn, the guy usually pulls out before he cums, so you can see him shoot. Shooting while you're still inside is generally more pleasurable, and I believe more common in the real world.

    While most gay porn in the US shows a condom being used (though often disguised), porn vids from overseas will feature bareback. Not an example you should follow.

    Gay porn also is heavy on anal, which can look hot on the screen. Polls have shown it's actually not as popular as most of us assume, a lot of guys preferring oral and/or manual. You may be assuming your "first" has to be anal, but my own first with a guy was oral (and totally mind-blowing, if you'll forgive the play on words). Gay porn also will show a fairly quick anal entry, while in reality it can often be much slower & careful, which isn't as exciting to watch in a DVD.

    So what should you expect with your first anal? Some pain, depending on his size, and aggressiveness. You or he MUST wear a condom, and use lots of lube intended for sex (petroleum-based products like Vaseline will cause a latex condom to dissolve). I always insert a lubed finger or 2 first, to dilate the guy who's my bottom, and to introduce some additional lube inside him.

    The pain from being a bottom will diminish with repeated encounters. Make sure the top knows you're a novice, and INSIST he go very slowly as he enters, and stop when you say stop. If he won't agree, then try someone else. You don't want to have rectal fissures and bleeding.

    The good side is that if you have a receptive prostate gland, aka the male G-spot, it'll feel great. If not the first time, then subsequently, when the pain of entry is less distracting. Some guys can cum just from being a bottom.

    And to repeat: BE SAFE! CONDOM ONLY! And use lots of the correct lube. And do post pics (OK, j/k). icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 24, 2010 7:06 PM GMT
    thanks, that was a great response icon_smile.gif

    Red_VespaThe pain from being a bottom will diminish with repeated encounters. Make sure the top knows you're a novice, and INSIST he go very slowly as he enters, and stop when you say stop. If he won't agree, then try someone else. You don't want to have rectal fissures and bleeding.


    i'd say thats what im most worried about. I've rarely used toys/objects on myself, but def going to give more of a try since i want to experience the real thing soon icon_smile.gif...oral sex is def something i want to try really bad tho...kinda hard to get that first since im not openly gay, so i've been trying the online thing for a few weeks now, hopefully this site helps icon_smile.gif

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    Apr 14, 2010 7:25 AM GMT
    It would definetley be my first time with a guy, my wife has used a dildo on me before but I don't think it would be the same as having the real thing.My best friend and I used to masturbate together all the time when we were young but never had any sex other than when he went down on me one when we alone(totally blew my mind)Then he wanted me to blow him and for some reason I couldn't bring myself to do it and I've regretted that decision ever since then.And I never had the opportunity to do it since then but I have always been curious about doing it though just never had the right time or place till now so...............anyone out there willing to be my guinea pig for a an hour or two?
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    Apr 22, 2010 3:54 PM GMT
    I am having my first pretty soon, and I'm excited about it!