What's Your Idea Of.......Romance?

  • masculumpedes

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    Mar 24, 2010 12:06 AM GMT
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    Personally, I like to go out of my way to show a guy that I am interested and once I catch his eye, then the fun starts. No, I am not talking sexual, I mean the everyday things, that to some guys still mean a lot, e-mails, chats, phone calls, cards and letters sent snail mail, flowers sent to his home or office...I also like to approach my man from behind, slowly massage his back and shoulders, wrap my arms around his chest and then kiss him gently on the neck....8.gif

    How do you show a guy that you really, really like him? icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 24, 2010 12:09 AM GMT
    Hold his hand whenever possible, talking a walk, sitting on a couch, watching tv, anything really.
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    Mar 24, 2010 12:35 AM GMT
    A hot guy sitting in bed with you playing the guitar and trying to sing to you. I'm a sucker. He can sing off tune I don't care.
  • Space_Cowboy_...

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    Mar 24, 2010 12:52 AM GMT
    I love doing little things here and there, cute things like I asked this girl out to prom by sending her on a treasure hunt it took me 10 hours to do and a whole day to set up and I had my friends and some teachers in on it, and it was basically the cutest thing ever... all the guys at school were like thanks ass hole now my girl friend was something cute like that! and I just LOLed
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    Mar 24, 2010 12:59 AM GMT
    Affectionately playful and rough with me would probably be the best way to be romantic with me... it's fun, I enjoy playing and it makes me happy icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 24, 2010 1:12 AM GMT
    They think about me when I'm not around and let me know, we include each other in our talks about the future, teasing each other when one of us is sick, spontaneous gifts, doesn't walk away when things get tough.......

    I think the hand written letter is a great idea 'cos it doesn't arrive for a few days so it's unexpected and thought out.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Mar 24, 2010 1:33 AM GMT
    You sound like an annoying stalker with all that stuff. Why can't you just say hello I think we should get together?
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    Mar 24, 2010 1:36 AM GMT
    A new CD, a bottle of wine, some candles and my couch. icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 24, 2010 1:40 AM GMT
    I remove my shell and open up the best I can to him. I let him in on things very few other people know about me. I send typewritten letters to remind him that though he isn't always present, he is never forgotten and always thought about....
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    Mar 24, 2010 1:40 AM GMT
    Two people who have connected physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually sitting on the beach watching the sun set together. That's my idea of romance.....hasn't actually happened yet. icon_cool.gif
  • masculumpedes

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    Mar 24, 2010 1:41 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy saidYou sound like an annoying stalker with all that stuff. Why can't you just say hello I think we should get together?


    Oh, I certainly did.....all of this "stuff" came AFTER.... Once you get his attention, you have to keep it.....icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 24, 2010 1:43 AM GMT
    Pianist saidI remove my shell and open up the best I can to him. I let him in on things very few other people know about me. I send typewritten letters to remind him that though he isn't always present, he is never forgotten and always thought about....


    Interesting Mr. Pianist......tell me though.....do You believe in love at first sight? icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 24, 2010 2:13 AM GMT
    malefeet saidHow do you show a guy that you really, really like him? icon_wink.gif

    First, I make the distinction between love, and romantic expression, that is, "romance." Romance should be special, out of the ordinary, done for the special effect. If you love a guy, the romance flows naturally from it. Romance is just the outward expression of your love.

    My late partner would order fresh crab flown in via FedEx from Alaska, packed in dry ice, to our home in Fargo. It would leave at dawn Alaska time, arrive around 2 PM local, and he'd promptly prepare it. I'd get home unawares around 4:30 from the university and he'd surprise me with it, a beautiful dinner I wasn't expecting, with wine and every detail already arranged, the table beautifully set. An evening of love making would follow.

    A BF would come over with a bottle of chilled champagne, some chocolates or French biscuits, and a foreign DVD. In either French or Russian, 2 languages he spoke (I could sorta get by in French), we'd watch it without subtitles on my big screen TV sipping the champagne, and holding hands. Bed would follow.

    Valentines Day this year was on a Sunday. My partner wanted me to join him for early breakfast with a friend, but I pretended being too sleepy, and stayed in bed while he left. The moment he closed the door I jumped into action.

    After just a few minutes of frantic activity I drove over and joined them in time to order breakfast, saying I'd forced myself to wake up, so as not to disappoint them.

    Then we returned home together, and he found a dozen red roses arranged in a vase, a red card with matching roses in a red envelope, red balloons with roses, and a traditional red heart-shaped candy box, containing hand-made chocolates I had selected individually from a local confectioner he loves.

    Everything matched, and he wondered how I managed it on a Sunday morning in a matter of minutes, because there's really no place to hide anything in our small place, and when he left me I was still sleeping (or so he thought). My little secret. We spent the day cuddling, watching TV, and getting fat on custom candies.

    And those are just some definitions of romance.
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    Mar 24, 2010 2:17 AM GMT
    Great comments.. Im a bit of a romantic myself. I'll say "ditto" to all you said, but my beach romance is walking on the beach, hand in hand, on a clear, warm, moonlite night.

    lawguy920 saidTwo people who have connected physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually sitting on the beach watching the sun set together. That's my idea of romance.....hasn't actually happened yet. icon_cool.gif
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    Mar 24, 2010 2:20 AM GMT
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    When he returned and hour later, he found a dozen red roses arranged in a vase, a red card with matching roses in a red envelope, red balloons with roses, and a traditional red heart-shaped candy box, containing hand-made chocolates I selected individually from a local confectioner he loves. Then I drove over and joined them in time to order, saying I'd forced myself to wake up..[/quote]

    Wow! I want to go to there.
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    Mar 24, 2010 2:23 AM GMT
    HoosierLad said
    When he returned and hour later, he found a dozen red roses arranged in a vase, a red card with matching roses in a red envelope, red balloons with roses, and a traditional red heart-shaped candy box, containing hand-made chocolates I selected individually from a local confectioner he loves. Then I drove over and joined them in time to order, saying I'd forced myself to wake up.

    Wow! I want to go to there..

    I confess I have a weakness for dramatic gestures & surprises. It must be the Theatre degree in me, I dunno. But my lovers have often done the same for me. A gay thing instead, perhaps? icon_redface.gif
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    Mar 24, 2010 2:27 AM GMT
    Red_Vespa said
    HoosierLad said[quote][cite]
    When he returned and hour later, he found a dozen red roses arranged in a vase, a red card with matching roses in a red envelope, red balloons with roses, and a traditional red heart-shaped candy box, containing hand-made chocolates I selected individually from a local confectioner he loves. Then I drove over and joined them in time to order, saying I'd forced myself to wake up..


    Wow! I want to go to there.

    I confess I have a weakness for dramatic gestures & surprises. It must be the Theatre degree in me, I dunno. But my lovers have often done the same for me. A gay thing instead, perhaps? icon_redface.gif[/quote]

    well, I'm dating a theater geek now, and he's similar but not quite to the level you have perfected! Good thing you have your theatrical flourishes!
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    Mar 24, 2010 2:28 AM GMT
    I find it shocking how many guys are all the same...
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    Mar 24, 2010 2:31 AM GMT
    HoosierLad saidwell, I'm dating a theater geek now, and he's similar but not quite to the level you have perfected! Good thing you have your theatrical flourishes!

    Thanks, but let's not make this about me. I know others who exceed me by miles. The trick is, do some creative thinking, in which gays excel, think outside the box, which we also do very well, and be motivated to please a guy you love. The rest just happens, trust me. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 24, 2010 2:32 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidI find it shocking how many guys are all the same...

    The same how, Tanker?
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    Mar 24, 2010 2:49 AM GMT
    Red_Vespa said
    The same how, Tanker?

    I was never brought up to believe that romance was anything, it was just something that was there between to people and was shown in everything you do and everything you don't do.

    What I keep seeing is some scripted idea of what it's suppose to be, all those things seem about as repetitive as scratching an itch while engrossed in a good book, requires little thought and satisfies you only so much as you can keep doing what it is your doing

    What I keep seeing is the plots in romance movies, that have never really changed.

    I suppose I'm just not that kinda guy.
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    Mar 24, 2010 2:59 AM GMT
    Romance to me is LilTanker pinning me against a wall, whispering into my ear as he...
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    Mar 24, 2010 3:01 AM GMT
    lilTanker said
    Red_Vespa said
    The same how, Tanker?

    I was never brought up to believe that romance was anything, it was just something that was there between to people and was shown in everything you do and everything you don't do.

    What I keep seeing is some scripted idea of what it's suppose to be, all those things seem about as repetitive as scratching an itch while engrossed in a good book, requires little thought and satisfies you only so much as you can keep doing what it is your doing

    What I keep seeing is the plots in romance movies, that have never really changed.

    I suppose I'm just not that kinda guy.


    Alls I know is if someone did for me, what Red Vespa's BF did for him, I would MELT, and I am NOT a sappy romantic. I hate chick flicks/romantic date movies. But I would totally succumb to a gesture like he described. Yowza!
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    Mar 24, 2010 3:13 AM GMT
    TheIStrat saidRomance to me is LilTanker pinning me against a wall, whispering into my ear as he...

    Removes fluff that has fallen upon your shoulder and is looking unsightly on your dark coloured shirt??????????
  • masculumpedes

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    Mar 24, 2010 3:18 AM GMT
    HoosierLad saidI am NOT a sappy romantic. I hate chick flicks/romantic date movies. But I would totally succumb to a gesture like he described. Yowza!


    I do consider myself to be an old-fashioned romantic, but I can't stand love stories or the above mentioned chick flicks/romantic date movies....We are happy with the level of closeness that we have reached and continue to learn and share more with each other daily. Some of the old elements of tried and true romance are still just as valuable today, but what makes them even more special is the personal touch of our different personalities that we add to them to constantly share new and exciting ideas of expressing our thoughts and feelings for each other. icon_wink.gif