malefeet saidHow do you show a guy that you really, really like him?
First, I make the distinction between love, and romantic expression, that is, "romance." Romance should be special, out of the ordinary, done for the special effect. If you love a guy, the romance flows naturally from it. Romance is just the outward expression of your love.
My late partner would order fresh crab flown in via FedEx from Alaska, packed in dry ice, to our home in Fargo. It would leave at dawn Alaska time, arrive around 2 PM local, and he'd promptly prepare it. I'd get home unawares around 4:30 from the university and he'd surprise me with it, a beautiful dinner I wasn't expecting, with wine and every detail already arranged, the table beautifully set. An evening of love making would follow.
A BF would come over with a bottle of chilled champagne, some chocolates or French biscuits, and a foreign DVD. In either French or Russian, 2 languages he spoke (I could sorta get by in French), we'd watch it without subtitles on my big screen TV sipping the champagne, and holding hands. Bed would follow.
Valentines Day this year was on a Sunday. My partner wanted me to join him for early breakfast with a friend, but I pretended being too sleepy, and stayed in bed while he left. The moment he closed the door I jumped into action.
After just a few minutes of frantic activity I drove over and joined them in time to order breakfast, saying I'd forced myself to wake up, so as not to disappoint them.
Then we returned home together, and he found a dozen red roses arranged in a vase, a red card with matching roses in a red envelope, red balloons with roses, and a traditional red heart-shaped candy box, containing hand-made chocolates I had selected individually from a local confectioner he loves.
Everything matched, and he wondered how I managed it on a Sunday morning in a matter of minutes, because there's really no place to hide anything in our small place, and when he left me I was still sleeping (or so he thought). My little secret. We spent the day cuddling, watching TV, and getting fat on custom candies.
And those are just some definitions of romance.