Did I make the right decision???

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    Mar 24, 2010 1:39 AM GMT
    So I just broke up with my first real boyfriend. We were only together for four months... but there were several things that made me feel like it wasnt right.

    1. We are both busy grad students and I never felt like we had ANY time during the week to really hang out and enjoy each other's company. Sometimes he would come over during the week, at like 10 pm...we'd watch some TV and just go to bed. There was never time to really just... chill with each other... I'm so busy with school (and only getting busier) that I really felt completely overwhelmed with the idea of trying to meet someone else's needs when I can barely meet my own. The relationship felt like it was on the back burner compared to both of our school commitments. There were a few times where I felt like I was second to his school, which didnt always feel nice.

    2. I never felt like the connection was that strong. I liked him, he is a good guy, but I always felt like something was missing... I never felt that passion... and I wonder if the 'passion' you feel for someone is just a figment of my imagination... or if it is indeed real?

    3. Our sex life was... in need. We both play the same position in bed, if you know what i mean. So... it left some needs unmet.

    .... SO... it probably sounds like an obvious decision. BUT... he is SUCH a nice, good, friendly and caring person. We had many great things together, we were similar in how we approached relationships, we are both pretty laid back, like ot have a good time. I guess I just worry that giving him up means that I'll never find another good person. He's one of the few that I've met. I am lucky though in that he is okay with being friends, he just needs a little time.

    Did I make the right decision?? Ack! has anyone else been in my shoes??

  • Space_Cowboy_...

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    Mar 24, 2010 3:02 AM GMT
    Maybe you should have gotten a 3rd player to play the position needed, but if you feel like it seriously wasn't going to go anywhere then you made the right decision.
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    Mar 24, 2010 3:05 AM GMT
    Based on what you wrote, yes i believe you made the right move. The thing that got me was this part "I felt like there was something missing"

    This I believe can tear a relationship apart for good