He won't give head.

  • bsings

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    Mar 24, 2010 2:24 PM GMT
    So i'm seeing this guy, and I find out he won't give head. Is this a deal breaker for anyone else?
  • rnch

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    Mar 24, 2010 2:40 PM GMT
    it would depend on if he is ...talented...in other areas. icon_lol.gif

    my bf and I love a long, sweaty, wet 69/rimming foreplay session before the main event. icon_twisted.gif
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    Mar 24, 2010 3:44 PM GMT
    I would dump his sorry ass...
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    Mar 24, 2010 3:47 PM GMT
    What do you mean "he wont give head"?

    Does he refuse to give head at all, ever?
    Does he refuse to give head when ever you ask?
    Is he refusing to give head at this stage of the relationship?

    In the first case, is that a deal breaker for you? If you need oral sex, then you are not sexually compatable. Thank him for the good time and be on your way.

    If it is the second and third case, you should have a discussion with him about sex. Perhaps you are being a jerk about it, perhaps he is not comfortable with something.
  • bsings

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    Mar 24, 2010 7:04 PM GMT
    we aren't fucking....yet. But he likes to be on top, and i like versatility. I like to give and get head, he likes to get head. He hates cum, and doesn't like jacking off together.... I feel that this already doomed...
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    Mar 24, 2010 7:09 PM GMT
    Yeah, he doesn't sound like a good lover for you.
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    Mar 24, 2010 7:11 PM GMT
    He doesnt sound like a good lover for any man .... hates cum? ... icon_eek.gif .... .ummmmm....he is definitely in the wrong sexual orientation.
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    Mar 24, 2010 7:22 PM GMT
    Caslon14000 saidHe doesnt sound like a good lover for any man


    He might be OK for a total bottom.
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    Mar 24, 2010 7:28 PM GMT
    bsings saidwe aren't fucking....yet. But he likes to be on top, and i like versatility. I like to give and get head, he likes to get head. He hates cum, and doesn't like jacking off together.... I feel that this already doomed...


    Well, you are not his sex toy. You are a living human being with needs of your own. If he wants to get his sexual needs met, you need to get your sexual needs met. "Hey honey, you want some of this ass? Well first you are going to have to blow me". Giving you head isn't his preferred sexual activity, but being a total bottom isn't yours either.

    I think we should try to make every lover we have better than when we found them, fuck it forward. Maybe this guy will work out, maybe he wont. But right now, he sounds like a shitty love. So tell him to suck your cock. Don't do it for you. Do it for all the other lovers he will have in the future.
  • rnch

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    Mar 24, 2010 7:29 PM GMT
    bsings saidwe aren't fucking....yet. But he likes to be on top, and i like versatility. I like to give and get head, he likes to get head. He hates cum, and doesn't like jacking off together.... I feel that this already doomed...
    time to move on! icon_neutral.gif
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    Mar 24, 2010 7:31 PM GMT
    bsings saidwe aren't fucking....yet. But he likes to be on top, and i like versatility. I like to give and get head, he likes to get head. He hates cum, and doesn't like jacking off together.... I feel that this already doomed...

    Agree. He has the right to do the things he likes, but so do you. That's what's called compatibility. It seems to be lacking here. icon_sad.gif
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    Mar 24, 2010 7:31 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie said
    I think we should try to make every lover we have better than when we found them, fuck it forward.


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    That line made my day...
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    Mar 24, 2010 8:26 PM GMT
    Oh Hell yes this is a deal breaker.
    If I had to guess he has a fear of some kind; more than likely, contracting HIV.
    Just from personal experience, when I first started messing around with men I was so afraid, I would not swallow-- thankfully I got over that quickly enough.
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    Mar 29, 2010 3:43 AM GMT
    viveutvivas saidI would dump his sorry ass...


    DUDE...DITTO!! Dropped like a hot fucking stone!!
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    Mar 29, 2010 3:49 AM GMT
    Can't you hear your own warning bells? Listen, time to abandon ship or cast off dead weight either way
  • rnch

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    Mar 29, 2010 3:52 AM GMT
    no bj?

    are you shurrrrrrr that he is gay? icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 31, 2010 7:09 AM GMT
    Sad...


    My mouth is open and nothing to fill it...why is it that way...guys have something great in front of them and yet they have no appreciation for it. If they could learn to appreciate the man in their life and treat him like a KING....all would be fine. That's my motto!!
  • PRDGUY

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    Mar 31, 2010 7:52 AM GMT
    YES, UNLESS he'll bttm for me!
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    Mar 31, 2010 8:13 AM GMT
    any man who doesn't wanna suck ma cock, wont get his cock sucked, nor will he get his cock in me either...
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    Mar 31, 2010 11:47 AM GMT
    depends on tonnes of stuff... he may find it hard and be embarrassed about it, or he might just have a selfish "100% top: this is all about me" attitude.

    The actual act: meh, thereĀ“s other stuff to do, the attitude, drop him like a syphilitic tampon.
  • superboy32

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    Apr 01, 2010 3:26 AM GMT
    If there is no blow then it's a no go.
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    Apr 04, 2010 12:59 AM GMT
    bsings saidwe aren't fucking....yet. But he likes to be on top, and i like versatility. I like to give and get head, he likes to get head. He hates cum, and doesn't like jacking off together.... I feel that this already doomed...


    He sounds like a straight guy experimenting.

    Dump him