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    Mar 24, 2010 5:21 PM GMT
    I was just wondering if some guys could help me out with a question I have?

    Today was this guys birthday that I am really crushing on, so I picked up a few things I thought he might like, wrapped it up and took it over to his place. Anyways, he started to tear up almost crying when he opened up the box and saw the stuff i got him.

    SO: My question is why did he tear up - what does this mean? Any help would be great!
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    Mar 24, 2010 5:35 PM GMT
    He either hated it or loved it. How are we supposed to know? Ask him.

  • rnch

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    Mar 24, 2010 5:56 PM GMT
    it means you did a good thing that day. icon_cool.gif
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    Mar 24, 2010 6:00 PM GMT
    Hmmm ... seems a strange reaction to getting gifts. I'd ask him why he reacted that way.
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    Mar 24, 2010 6:14 PM GMT
    rnch saidit means you did a good thing that day. icon_cool.gif

    Yeah, obviously tears of happiness and gratitude. Well done in your choices, and the decision to do it!

    Among the reasons he was so happy could be that you chose his gifts really well. One time I gave a guy a Swarovski red crystal heart for Valentine's Day, because I knew he liked the stuff (I think it's overrated crap, own none myself).

    Unknown to me he already had a smaller version and a larger one of the same heart, but he didn't have the medium one I gave him, completing the set of 3. He was just overwhelmed, in fact stunned, also in tears, he thought I was clairvoyant or something. Actually just dumb luck on my part (with a strange story behind it I won't go into here). You never know when you might strike just the right nerve with the perfect gift.

    He could also be unused to getting presents, for whatever reason. Humble background, or family that doesn't believe in gifts, previous BFs who never gave them, etc. I think it sweet & touching that he showed his emotions to you. You did good! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 24, 2010 6:15 PM GMT
    Means he's a damn pussy icon_twisted.gif

    Or... he was just really happy?
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    Mar 24, 2010 6:18 PM GMT
    Red_Vespa said
    rnch saidit means you did a good thing that day. icon_cool.gif

    Yeah, obviously tears of happiness and gratitude. Well done in your choices, and the decision to do it!

    Among the reasons he was so happy could be that you chose his gifts really well. One time I gave a guy a Swarovski red crystal heart for Valentine's Day, because I knew he liked the stuff (I think it's overrated crap).

    Unknown to me he already had a smaller version and a larger one of the same heart, but he didn't have the medium one I gave him, completing the set of 3. He was just overwhelmed, in fact stunned, also in tears, he thought I was clairvoyant or something. Actually just dumb luck on my part. You never know when you might strike just the right nerve with the perfect gift.

    He could also be unused to getting presents, for whatever reason. Humble background, or family that doesn't believe in gifts, previous BFs who never gave them, etc. I think it sweet & touching that he showed his emotions to you. You did good! icon_biggrin.gif


    What if it was a can of Beer Nuts, and the dude teared up because he's allergic to nuts and was wishing for a few $10 scratch tickets. Point is, how are we supposed to know if they were tears of joy or tears because whatever was in the box reminded him of his mean ol' uncle who used to abuse him and kept him locked in the cellar for six long, dark years? Just sayin.... who knows?
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    Mar 24, 2010 6:21 PM GMT
    You did a sweet thing for someone who was clearly in need of some love.

    The world needs more people like you. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 24, 2010 6:43 PM GMT
    djdorchester saidWhat if it was a can of Beer Nuts, and the dude teared up because he's allergic to nuts and was wishing for a few $10 scratch tickets. Point is, how are we supposed to know if they were tears of joy or tears because whatever was in the box reminded him of his mean ol' uncle who used to abuse him and kept him locked in the cellar for six long, dark years? Just sayin.... who knows?

    Ummm... a bit of a stretch, wouldn't you say? Not out of the bounds of possibility, and you get an "A" for creativity, but I think improbable.

    Yet here's the improbable part of my Swarovski crystal heart story from above: We were attending a formal opera fundraiser gala together, which included silent and live auctions. The Swarovski heart was one of the silent auction items. He didn't say a word to me about it, and we perused the auction items separately. I got into a bidding war for the crystal, eventually winning it (and no bargain, but the money was for charity, and I already knew what I was going to do with it, Valentine's Day being just a few days away).

    When they announced the winners as we sat together having after-dinner coffee he was surprised to hear my name called for it. Later as we left I claimed my prize and paid for it, then approached him.

    "Here, this is for you," I told him.

    "Are you serious?" he replied.

    "Of course, an early Valentine's Day gift. I know you like Swarovski."

    "I have two of these, the larger and smaller one, and I almost bid on it myself, but I saw your name several times on the sheet, and I didn't want to bid against you."

    "You really have others like it?"

    "Yes, there's a larger and smaller in the set, and this completes it. How did you know I wanted this?"

    "I honestly didn't. It was Valentine's Day, I know you like Swarovski, so I got it."

    By now he was crying, but trying to conceal it in that straight crowd where he wasn't out but well known, as we made our way to the coat check to get our topcoats. I thought to myself: "Bob, for once your instincts were correct, and it doesn't work out any better than this." Improbable, but sometimes improbable things do happen.
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    Mar 24, 2010 6:58 PM GMT
    Riptide42 saidYou did a sweet thing for someone who was clearly in need of some love.

    The world needs more people like you. icon_biggrin.gif
    agree on both sentences. icon_cool.gificon_cool.gificon_cool.gif
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    Mar 24, 2010 7:04 PM GMT
    it means, you are getting closer to getting in his pants ;D

    keep it up, & he wont be your crush for long : )
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    Mar 24, 2010 8:19 PM GMT
    it means youre an amazing guy.
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    Mar 24, 2010 8:40 PM GMT
    JoeB1986 saidMeans he's a damn pussy icon_twisted.gif

    Or... he was just really happy?


    Probably both.
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    Mar 24, 2010 8:56 PM GMT
    Wow. So, just tell me you kissed him. That's all that comes next. No questions, just follow those same instincts and you'll be fine. Don't worry about "how come", just respond accordingly as before. You're doin' FINE. Wow.

    And who knows if you unlocked something unexpected, and maybe even something hoped for. And it probably had very little to do with the "stuff" and a whole lot to do with the action. It means you made a good choice, and you have good instinct, and are...good. And sounds like this "crush" is good, too.

    Again, just kiss him and get on with it. One thoughtful thing at a time.

    P.S. - whether with this cat or some other, please have kids. Seriously dude, we need men, gay men, like you, raising kids. Someday, huh?
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    Mar 24, 2010 9:46 PM GMT
    sublstyley saidit means youre an amazing guy.


    amazing indeed...

    Some men never get anything, they are always giving, and so if and when someone actually acknowledges them, they can’t help but become emotional
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    Mar 24, 2010 9:54 PM GMT
    summon a bit of empathy and put yourself in his shoes. If I gave you a gift on your b-day and you started crying, what do you think would cause that.

    I guess I can't speak for you, but if it was me, I would probably be crying because showed they cared when I needed someone to care more than ever.
  • lozano86

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    Mar 25, 2010 7:42 AM GMT
    really? he cried

    do you put a ring on it or something. im confused.

    You did good i guess. and it mattered so much he cried about it
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    Mar 25, 2010 8:12 AM GMT
    Aww that's sweet icon_razz.gif He was touched by the gesture of the gift and he really appreciated it icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 25, 2010 8:17 AM GMT
    Like someone said, maybe he's always the one giving and never receiving and when you came along with a present for him, you shocked him with happiness... I wish a guy was that thoughtful to me.
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    Mar 25, 2010 2:04 PM GMT
    " SO: My question is why did he tear up - what does this mean?"

    ...it means that you, and what you did, matter. icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 25, 2010 2:28 PM GMT
    theres nothing that can beat a gift given with a good heart...

    yaaaay...good!....its all good....you touched him in a way...I did the same thing to my girlfriend(my amazing sweet lil faghag)...put all the stuff that she loved in a pretty box with lil notes in it...and when I gifted it, she teared up...and best part, her boyfriend, jealous as a green eyed monster...icon_cool.gif

    this guy of yours is definitely a fan now...all the best...
  • Celticmusl

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    Mar 25, 2010 2:44 PM GMT
    Well, here is a story that might help, with an explanation from the cry baby.

    At about the fourth year of my LTR we had his sister stay with us for the Easter holiday weekend. She was a little bit older than us, had an on again off again boyfriend, and a teenage daughter.

    For Easter morning I did what my parents used to do for us kids. I made a big Easter basket for her Saturday night. I put a couple of stuffed animals, Gorant chocolates(her favorite), jelly beans, little toys, and of course the peeps in it and set it on the dining room table next to the basket I made for my ex.

    The next morning when she found her basket she just started crying, tried to say thank you and ran upstairs with her basket. My ex ran after her to see if everything was ok. Later my ex told me everything was fine but the she "never had a man that she was involved with do something like that for her".