I realize that I am not "out" publicly and start looking over my shoulder. Then, I look over at the other shoulder to see if the handsome man was checking me out. Of course, my issue is tied up with self-esteem, in public scenarios: That is, in public spaces, I always feel "judged," and the result "shame." And, it's not that I agree with those feelings; I know-differently, but it doesn't make the experience any less difficult. I suspect that many guys enjoy the public spaces afforded to the gay community in general. That is to say, in my area, the gay community is a marginalized community: No public displays; no public parades; no "PDA's"-ever! West Virginia is not the "backward" state that most people think it is: The state is quite forward-looking, albeit not progressive, although some areas are. The problem is the community has internalized its members and as long as the member stays within its confines, then-frankly-, they are less likely to suffer the experiences of some gays/lesbians, &c. My partner and I, and our families together, understand the nature of our relationship, but the "coming out" discussion will never occur. The consequences seem to outweigh the possibilities. I do not wish to be chained to a Camaro and dragged along a gravel road (a chef in Wheeling died in that "incident"). I mean this state attempted to ban the movie, "Brokeback Mountain." Of course, and after the movie received its award, the State and the movie theatres has no other choice than to show the film.
Anyway, the movies can be a great place to meet someone. And, I would avoid the restrooms at local department stores, at boat-launching sites, at college and university rest rooms, etc.
What do I do....? I acknowledge the guy. Then, and depending upon the response, we may exchange e-mail addresses, phone numbers, etc. I'm so removed from any particular scene, that I cannot answer your question as fully as possible.