What makes a good bottom?

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    Mar 25, 2010 4:39 PM GMT
    Saw the post about what makes a good top, and figured it was only fitting to post about bottoms!

    So, from a top's perspective, what makes a good bottom?
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    Mar 25, 2010 5:09 PM GMT
    A nice ass doesn´t hurt, but is sadly not enough

    They need

    (1) to have stamina, it´s frustrating if they can only take a gentle fuck for 3 minutes and then complain that it´s too big and can I please stop.... icon_rolleyes.gif
    (2) to be involved, it´s frustrating if they just lie there won´t tell you what works for them and what they really most enjoy. Tip: I´m enjoying all of it.... you don´t have to worry about me.
    (3) to be prepared to flip sometimes. It´s frustrating when people are so tied to their "role" that they can´t go with the flow. If you don´t like my ass, the chances are you are straight. icon_wink.gif


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    Mar 25, 2010 5:09 PM GMT
    Yay purelife! Good thread.


    *clears throat, steps on to stage*


    - One who can't seem to WAIT to get you inside him.
    - One who moves, thrashes around, grunts and moans.
    - One who stares at you with big wide eyes because he can't believe how big you are and how good you feel in him.
    - One who uses his eyes, mouth, and hands as much as his ass.
    - One who likes it slow and romantic one moment and then turns into a crazy animal the next, tossing the top onto his back and jumping aboard to take control.
    - One who smiles a lot while taking it like a good boy.


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    Mar 25, 2010 7:24 PM GMT
    DjDorchester saidYay purelife! Good thread.

    *clears throat, steps on to stage*

    - One who can't seem to WAIT to get you inside him.
    - One who moves, thrashes around, grunts and moans.
    - One who stares at you with big wide eyes because he can't believe how big you are and how good you feel in him.
    - One who uses his eyes, mouth, and hands as much as his ass.
    - One who likes it slow and romantic one moment and then turns into a crazy animal the next, tossing the top onto his back and jumping aboard to take control.
    - One who smiles a lot while taking it like a good boy.


    Have you been looking in my bedroom window at night??
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    Mar 25, 2010 7:55 PM GMT
    From the "What Makes a Good Top" thread:

    A good lover is someone that works with you to get the two (or more) of you off. Maybe that means hitting the bottom's prostate from a certain angle, maybe that means having tacos before shitting on a glass coffee table. The only universal rule is pay attention.

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    Mar 25, 2010 11:11 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidFrom the "What Makes a Good Top" thread:

    A good lover is someone that works with you to get the two (or more) of you off. Maybe that means hitting the bottom's prostate from a certain angle, maybe that means having tacos before shitting on a glass coffee table. The only universal rule is pay attention.


    While a nice answer Munchies, that is not nearly explicit enough icon_razz.gif
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    Mar 25, 2010 11:31 PM GMT
    cleanliness
    strong arse muscles
    sense of timing
    flexibility / core stability / balance
    multitasks
    stamina
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    Mar 26, 2010 12:43 AM GMT
    EasilyDistracted said
    DjDorchester saidYay purelife! Good thread.

    *clears throat, steps on to stage*

    - One who can't seem to WAIT to get you inside him.
    - One who moves, thrashes around, grunts and moans.
    - One who stares at you with big wide eyes because he can't believe how big you are and how good you feel in him.
    - One who uses his eyes, mouth, and hands as much as his ass.
    - One who likes it slow and romantic one moment and then turns into a crazy animal the next, tossing the top onto his back and jumping aboard to take control.
    - One who smiles a lot while taking it like a good boy.


    Have you been looking in my bedroom window at night??


    Damn, mine too!
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    Mar 26, 2010 4:44 PM GMT
    DjDorchester saidYay purelife! Good thread.


    *clears throat, steps on to stage*


    - One who can't seem to WAIT to get you inside him.
    - One who moves, thrashes around, grunts and moans.
    - One who stares at you with big wide eyes because he can't believe how big you are and how good you feel in him.
    - One who uses his eyes, mouth, and hands as much as his ass.
    - One who likes it slow and romantic one moment and then turns into a crazy animal the next, tossing the top onto his back and jumping aboard to take control.
    - One who smiles a lot while taking it like a good boy.




    Yes indeed, that pretty much sums it up.....
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    Mar 27, 2010 12:19 AM GMT
    Hard question...it's such a personal, subjective thing.....

    I just hate it when they lie there like a ragdoll......or have limp legs.
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    Mar 27, 2010 4:39 PM GMT
    EasilyDistracted said
    DjDorchester saidYay purelife! Good thread.

    *clears throat, steps on to stage*

    - One who can't seem to WAIT to get you inside him.
    - One who moves, thrashes around, grunts and moans.
    - One who stares at you with big wide eyes because he can't believe how big you are and how good you feel in him.
    - One who uses his eyes, mouth, and hands as much as his ass.
    - One who likes it slow and romantic one moment and then turns into a crazy animal the next, tossing the top onto his back and jumping aboard to take control.
    - One who smiles a lot while taking it like a good boy.


    Have you been looking in my bedroom window at night??



    *grins*

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    Mar 27, 2010 5:35 PM GMT
    jim_e saidcleanliness
    strong arse muscles
    sense of timing
    flexibility / core stability / balance
    multitasks
    stamina



    this sounds like a nightmare combination of yoga class, office grind, and training session. what the hell are you doing that requires core stability, balance, and multitasking?

    i'd hate to have you as a manager in a corporation... jeez.
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    Mar 27, 2010 6:31 PM GMT
    Lostboy saidA nice ass doesn´t hurt, but is sadly not enough

    They need

    (1) to have stamina, it´s frustrating if they can only take a gentle fuck for 3 minutes and then complain that it´s too big and can I please stop.... icon_rolleyes.gif
    (2) to be involved, it´s frustrating if they just lie there won´t tell you what works for them and what they really most enjoy. Tip: I´m enjoying all of it.... you don´t have to worry about me.
    (3) to be prepared to flip sometimes. It´s frustrating when people are so tied to their "role" that they can´t go with the flow. If you don´t like my ass, the chances are you are straight. icon_wink.gif


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    Mar 27, 2010 7:35 PM GMT
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    Lostboy saidA nice ass doesn´t hurt, but is sadly not enough

    They need

    (1) to have stamina, it´s frustrating if they can only take a gentle fuck for 3 minutes and then complain that it´s too big and can I please stop.... icon_rolleyes.gif
    (2) to be involved, it´s frustrating if they just lie there won´t tell you what works for them and what they really most enjoy. Tip: I´m enjoying all of it.... you don´t have to worry about me.
    (3) to be prepared to flip sometimes. It´s frustrating when people are so tied to their "role" that they can´t go with the flow. If you don´t like my ass, the chances are you are straight. icon_wink.gif




    I dont get #3. In order to be a good top, they have to bottom too? Do other people feel that way? Eek. Bad news for me.
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    Mar 27, 2010 11:08 PM GMT
    DjDorchester saidIn order to be a good top, they have to bottom too? Do other people feel that way? Eek. Bad news for me.

    No, I've met tops who couldn't physically bottom and they were good tops.

    While I would say that the majority of "tops" out there can bottom and bottom just as well as anyone, that's not the case with everyone..

    What is important is that you are attentive to your bottoms wants, that you listen to his cues and that you put as much effort into pleasing him as you do for your self, which, hopefully a good bottom will do the same.
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    Mar 27, 2010 11:17 PM GMT
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    MunchingZombie saidFrom the "What Makes a Good Top" thread:

    A good lover is someone that works with you to get the two (or more) of you off. Maybe that means hitting the bottom's prostate from a certain angle, maybe that means having tacos before shitting on a glass coffee table. The only universal rule is pay attention.


    While a nice answer Munchies, that is not nearly explicit enough icon_razz.gif


    as always you make me laugh lol
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    Mar 28, 2010 3:27 AM GMT
    Good bottom is when it pair with good top. icon_smile.gif

    Being a bottom myself, most consider that amI an active bottom who never get enoughicon_redface.gif

    I know how to play my "asset" and expecting the same in return. Comfort with the partner is important part.


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    Mar 28, 2010 4:07 AM GMT

    While I would say that the majority of "tops" out there can bottom and bottom just as well as anyone, that's not the case with everyone..

    QUOTE AUTHOR GOES HEREWhat is important is that you are attentive to your bottoms wants, that you listen to his cues and that you put as much effort into pleasing him as you do for your self, which, hopefully a good bottom will do the same.


    Totally agree
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    Mar 28, 2010 3:36 PM GMT
    lilTanker said
    DjDorchester saidIn order to be a good top, they have to bottom too? Do other people feel that way? Eek. Bad news for me.

    No, I've met tops who couldn't physically bottom and they were good tops.

    While I would say that the majority of "tops" out there can bottom and bottom just as well as anyone, that's not the case with everyone..

    What is important is that you are attentive to your bottoms wants, that you listen to his cues and that you put as much effort into pleasing him as you do for your self, which, hopefully a good bottom will do the same.



    So I guess sitting back and letting the boy do all the work for me is out of the question? What about service? What about submission? pffttt... my bottom boy ALWAYS does as I say. Period.
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    Mar 28, 2010 6:53 PM GMT
    DjDorchester said

    So I guess sitting back and letting the boy do all the work for me is out of the question? What about service? What about submission? pffttt... my bottom boy ALWAYS does as I say. Period.
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    If your bottom is into submission or just servicing, great. I assume those are the kind of bottoms you hook up with. But you can't assume all guys who like to bottom are turned on by that. I personally am a fairly aggressive bottom and like to at least feel like I'm a little bit in control. If I guy starts getting overly forceful, I will at best just get totally turned off and at worse, throw the mf off of me (after a couple of firm warnings of course icon_smile.gif )

    For me, the sex gets truly hot when there is give and take on both sides and you can feel either a balance or a back and forth trade off of control. Just having someone bark me orders, or a situation where it feels like one is just there to please the other (whether I'm the top or bottom or both) just doesn't do it for me.
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    Mar 29, 2010 12:48 AM GMT
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    DjDorchester said

    So I guess sitting back and letting the boy do all the work for me is out of the question? What about service? What about submission? pffttt... my bottom boy ALWAYS does as I say. Period.
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    If your bottom is into submission or just servicing, great. I assume those are the kind of bottoms you hook up with. But you can't assume all guys who like to bottom are turned on by that. I personally am a fairly aggressive bottom and like to at least feel like I'm a little bit in control. If I guy starts getting overly forceful, I will at best just get totally turned off and at worse, throw the mf off of me (after a couple of firm warnings of course icon_smile.gif )

    For me, the sex gets truly hot when there is give and take on both sides and you can feel either a balance or a back and forth trade off of control. Just having someone bark me orders, or a situation where it feels like one is just there to please the other (whether I'm the top or bottom or both) just doesn't do it for me.


    o gosh... We aren't a match. Fancy that.
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    Apr 06, 2010 4:39 AM GMT
    The best bottoms have a natural, soul-deep hunger to please their top. All other preparation and performance cascades from this singular, essential trait.

    However, the best bottoms are wasted on tops that do not know how to have a mutual "an energy exchange" flowing and ebbing with their bottom. A Stradivarius violin in the hands of a tone-deaf barbarian will never produce fine music. In the hands, arms, and deep embrace of the right top, symphony is experienced.

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    Apr 06, 2010 7:21 AM GMT
    keeeping an asshole clean is very important for any bottom guy

    I always keep my asshole clean, n free from any shit particles
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    Dec 15, 2010 9:24 PM GMT
    GAMRican saidThe best bottoms have a natural, soul-deep hunger to please their top. All other preparation and performance cascades from this singular, essential trait.

    However, the best bottoms are wasted on tops that do not know how to have a mutual "an energy exchange" flowing and ebbing with their bottom. A Stradivarius violin in the hands of a tone-deaf barbarian will never produce fine music. In the hands, arms, and deep embrace of the right top, symphony is experienced.



    damn... that was poetic lol
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    Dec 15, 2010 10:03 PM GMT
    DJdorchester said
    lilTanker said
    DjDorchester said


    So I guess sitting back and letting the boy do all the work for me is out of the question? What about service? What about submission? pffttt... my bottom boy ALWAYS does as I say. Period.
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    hello dream top lol