Why do guys seem to look down on saying that they want to fuck another guy?

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    Mar 25, 2010 9:11 PM GMT

    Maybe I’m a total cave man but I don’t see how sex on a first date has anything to do with the relationship lasting and or turning into love. I’m not going to be happy long term with someone that I’m not compatible with sexually. And there is only one way to find that out. I’m sure this or something like it has come up a shit-ton. If so some one point me towards that posting.
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    Mar 25, 2010 9:26 PM GMT
    I'm with you.

    We are men. All that buying the cow stuff is for breeder dating. icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 25, 2010 9:35 PM GMT
    You just made my cock move.icon_biggrin.gif
  • drypin

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    Mar 25, 2010 11:18 PM GMT
    Never got much into that myself either. I'm quite the opposite. Never wanted a guy who could keep his hands to himself around me. Show me desire. Show me libido.
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    Mar 26, 2010 1:10 AM GMT
    I don’t know about shit-ton but it has been done at least a F250 load.
    Usually guys whining on how no one wants’ a relationship they just all want to fornicate.
    I’m sure there are still plenty of guys that get the milk for free.
  • chris_dallas

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    Mar 26, 2010 1:13 AM GMT
    it also has to work without sex though so if u find tht out in the begining it can b good but im not against first date sex but not oposed to not having it either
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    Mar 26, 2010 1:17 AM GMT
    to qoute this whore

    "I dont really care where you live at
    Just turn around boy and let me hit that
    Dont be a little bitch with your chit chat
    Just show me where your dicks at"icon_wink.gif
  • Timbales

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    Mar 26, 2010 1:21 AM GMT
    I know it sounds crazy, but some people have a more fulfilling sexual experience with someone they feel close to and not just another body.
  • myklet1

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    Mar 26, 2010 1:32 AM GMT
    Timberoo saidI know it sounds crazy, but some people have a more fulfilling sexual experience with someone they feel close to and not just another body.


    I totally agree. I think it is a part of growing up myself.
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    Mar 26, 2010 1:44 AM GMT
    wi11 said
    Maybe I’m a total cave man but I don’t see how sex on a first date has anything to do with the relationship lasting and or turning into love. I’m not going to be happy long term with someone that I’m not compatible with sexually. And there is only one way to find that out. I’m sure this or something like it has come up a shit-ton. If so some one point me towards that posting.


    Because once your 90 you can't have sex anymore.
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    Mar 26, 2010 1:53 AM GMT
    kyleray said
    wi11 said
    Maybe I’m a total cave man but I don’t see how sex on a first date has anything to do with the relationship lasting and or turning into love. I’m not going to be happy long term with someone that I’m not compatible with sexually. And there is only one way to find that out. I’m sure this or something like it has come up a shit-ton. If so some one point me towards that posting.


    Because once your 90 you can't have sex anymore.



    oh yeah, Don't forget Viagra made for themicon_twisted.gif
  • DarkSensation

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    Mar 26, 2010 1:55 AM GMT
    I so Agree with you...Sex first then Questions later icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 26, 2010 2:02 AM GMT
    Timberoo saidI know it sounds crazy, but some people have a more fulfilling sexual experience with someone they feel close to and not just another body.

    what??????
  • InsatiableBlo...

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    Mar 26, 2010 2:04 AM GMT
    I used to agree with the OP but not anymore.


    You have plenty of time to find out whether or not the person satisfies you sexually later on in a relationship.

    The main reason its best not to have sex on a first date is because, you just don't know the guy that well after ONE date. You may find out later on the individual is a liar or is not as charming after the first date. Conversely, if you had sex with the person on the first date you are more likely to regret it later on because you may find out the person was only trying to get in your pants or just isn't your type.

    Remember guys relationships are NOT only about sex.
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    Mar 26, 2010 2:11 AM GMT
    InsatiableBloom saidI used to agree with the OP but not anymore.


    You have plenty of time to find out whether or not the person satisfies you sexually later on in a relationship.

    The main reason its best not to have sex on a first date is because, you just don't know the guy that well after ONE date. You may find out later on the individual is a liar or is not as charming after the first date. Conversely, if you had sex with the person on the first date you are more likely to regret it later on because you may find out the person was only trying to get in your pants or just isn't your type.

    Remember guys relationships are NOT only about sex.


    I've had my share of sex on the first date and lived to tell about it, but no relationships ever came of it. Discovered lots of guys just looking for sex and nothing else (no matter what they may have said to get into my pants!)

    I agree that there is plenty of time to find out if you're compatible after you get to know each other a bit.

    And yeah, I'm one of those guys who feels sex is more pleasurable when I care for the guy and he cares for me on some level.
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    Mar 26, 2010 2:11 AM GMT
    Timberoo saidI know it sounds crazy, but some people have a more fulfilling sexual experience with someone they feel close to and not just another body.

    Those random sexual experiences with just another body may have been less fulfilling but there were lots of times when fulfillment wasn't really on the agenda.
  • Timbales

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    Mar 26, 2010 2:13 AM GMT
    TexDef07 said
    Timberoo saidI know it sounds crazy, but some people have a more fulfilling sexual experience with someone they feel close to and not just another body.

    Those random sexual experiences with just another body may have been less fulfilling but there were lots of times when fulfillment wasn't really on the agenda.


    I'm not judging, to each their own, but this topic is posted in the dating and relationships section.
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    Mar 26, 2010 2:15 AM GMT
    I've never bought the car without driving it first!
  • DrobUA

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    Mar 26, 2010 2:23 AM GMT
    I think part of it is a trust issue. I like to know someone before I sleep with them. If they don't know shit about you when they sleep with you, you can assume they didn't know anything about the countless others they slept with. Seems like a sexual safety hazard but thats just me.
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    Mar 26, 2010 2:47 AM GMT
    IsmeIvan1990 saidto qoute this whore

    "I dont really care where you live at
    Just turn around boy and let me hit that
    Dont be a little bitch with your chit chat
    Just show me where your dicks at"icon_wink.gif



    Loving this quote!
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    Mar 26, 2010 3:50 AM GMT
    I can actually think of far more reasons NOT to have sex when one is first meeting than to just go ahead and do it when one is actually potentially interested in an extended relationship with someone else.

    There are many things one may (though no guarantee, I suppose) find out through the course of meeting someone several times before "doing it".

    - STD history (hey guys - there's a wealth of things beyond HIV!!)
    - mental instability
    - incompatible aesthetics
    - inappropriate public/social behavior
    - poor hygiene
    - general honesty
    - follow-through
    - general intelligence
    - ability to share
    - ability to be openly communicative
    - etc., etc.

    So - granted - many of these are issues that one will find out more-so in the course of repeated meetings whether there's sex involved or not, but some of these could easily be revealed in the first few meetings that may cause one to re-consider, or assure one in physical follow through.

    That said, my longest/most significant relationship happen to involve sex on the first DATE - but that was a few days after we'd initially met at a bar. I didn't go home with him the first night, and in the interim we talked a bit on the phone (which went really really well...) and it was revealed that we had mutual friends and associates. We both just lucked out.

    I'm not arguing that one cannot have a successful relationship if sex is involved on the first date (or night met, I suppose) but am saying there are just as many logical reasons not to do so. One thing that can be a factor is the concept of self control for both parties - which could indicate their partner might be less inclined to just jump in the sack with anyone they might randomly meet. Right??

    I am also realizing/re-discovering that if I like someone and I have sex with them/spend the night, I am more likely to have expectations of follow though/repeat scenarios, and when that doesn't happen, I am more likely to feel hurt/used/rejected than if we'd just talked/had coffee, etc. But that's me. icon_neutral.gif
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    Mar 26, 2010 3:53 AM GMT
    I was thinking the same thing the other day. I dated a guy for about 2 months and we had NO sex. I tried to give him head, and hinted around at having sex. I even took off all my clothes and got naked in his bed hoping for some magic to happen, NOTHING. I finally asked him what his deal was. Not to be conceited, but Im hot and can not figure out why he didnt want to have sex with me! LOL, he said he would get too attached, we are no longer dating.
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    Mar 26, 2010 4:05 AM GMT
    You're not likely to end up in a relationship with a guy you can sex up on a first date but I'm pretty sure you're more likely to end up with some STIs instead...

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    Mar 26, 2010 4:08 AM GMT
    I think it depends on where you are at in your life. STD's dont go away just because you have gone a few dates with a guy. They certainly do not go away even after a few months of talking with a guy either. Using protection and being wise will help reduce getting STDs whether you are in relationship or not. But if you are just looking for sex then why not just do it? Have fun but be safe and smart.
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    Mar 26, 2010 4:10 AM GMT
    inmotion1 saidI was thinking the same thing the other day. I dated a guy for about 2 months and we had NO sex. I tried to give him head, and hinted around at having sex. I even took off all my clothes and got naked in his bed hoping for some magic to happen, NOTHING. I finally asked him what his deal was. Not to be conceited, but Im hot and can not figure out why he didnt want to have sex with me! LOL, he said he would get too attached, we are no longer dating.


    See: mental instability icon_confused.gif