How do you know if the person loves you or not?

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    Mar 26, 2010 1:48 PM GMT
    [color=0]let me hear you answers..[/color]
  • Bunjamon

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    Mar 26, 2010 2:21 PM GMT
    Because they tell you that they do.
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    Mar 26, 2010 2:35 PM GMT
    Some things you just don't question.


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    Mar 26, 2010 2:43 PM GMT
    There is a moment when two men are together and each one will have it.

    It is love.

    We as men have NO idea how to do love ...more later

    I have been really pondering this for me and for you...
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    Mar 26, 2010 3:10 PM GMT
    When he suggests that sex that night is performed while dressed in furry animal costumes.
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    Mar 26, 2010 3:15 PM GMT
    What's your thinking on this foxy55?
  • myklet1

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    Mar 26, 2010 3:16 PM GMT
    I think you have to assume that he is telling the truth. I was with a guy for 9 years. He told me he loved me, we laughed, we traveled and we shared everything. Then I caught him. Then he confessed. Then I heard the painful news that he had never really been faithful. We broke up. Sometimes by my responses to other blogs and my profile it is evident that I have trust issues. I don't know what a man could do that would make me totally trust him. I don't ever want to get hurt like that again. I have had guys say I love you since my horrible break up and I have to say, I am thinking..........right. sure you do. I like honesty, faithful and monogamy. I wonder how many others feel the same way.
  • rebornofflame

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    Mar 26, 2010 3:36 PM GMT
    I understand your view myklet1. Basically from my experience.... you can't KNOW. People are very good at lying sometimes. It's just not possible to know for sure if what they say to you is true or if they act like a different person when you're not around.

    The only thing you can know is if YOU love that person. If you love them all you can do is trust them and hope they'll treat you the same way that you will treat them. It's definitely a gamble and if you lose the bet it will hurt for a long time.

    The other option would be to never love anyone to protect yourself. That doesn't sound too great to me either. I guess that makes me a gambler icon_smile.gif.
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    Mar 26, 2010 3:58 PM GMT
    myklet1, when you said, "I don't ever want to get hurt like that again. I have had guys say I love you since my horrible break up and I have to say, I am thinking..........right. sure you do."

    ...the first thing I thought was that you're letting that guy of 9 years control your Present and your Future. Don't. icon_wink.gif
    If Bill or I had done that we would never have happened.

    -Doug
  • jrs1

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    Mar 26, 2010 4:04 PM GMT

    when you are constantly catching each other in their nerdiest moments and you love each other even more.

    when good news, bad news, any news comes to one and he has to tell the other.

    when you can go anywhere in the world, but no place feels like home until you're with him again.

    when you can look at someone else and say " ooh, they're hot, but ... you're my heart " and then proceed to enter yet another mock-argument where he replies with: " ooh, I'm your heart but am I not hot then? oi; answer me! "

    when you look at each other and see the rest of your life in his eyes (e.g., when you look at him and see: meeting his parents for the first time, driving so many miles to see him if he lives a ways away, getting a place together, coming home to your first animal together, seeing the birth of your first child or adopting your first child together ... growing old together and still teasing him about him going bald years earlier as you hand him his centrum silver).

    you know he loves you when the feeling that you have for him echoes in his heart as well ... sometimes the reverberation between the two beings is strong and cannot be silenced (i.e., is so loud those nearby can hear it as well). either way it takes work, a little courage, and a lot of patience to walk on a potentially powerful path with someone else ... but you must follow your heart and intuition.

  • calibro

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    Mar 26, 2010 4:21 PM GMT
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    Mar 26, 2010 4:30 PM GMT
    calibro said


    I don't agree with Cher. It IS in his eyes.
    Anyone can give a hot kiss and make you believe anything. Eyes don't lie.
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    Mar 26, 2010 4:34 PM GMT
    TexDef07 said
    calibro said


    I don't agree with Cher. It IS in his eyes.
    Anyone can give a hot kiss and make you believe anything. Eyes don't lie.


    but what if my eyes are closed while i kiss you?
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    Mar 26, 2010 4:36 PM GMT
    calibro said but what if my eyes are closed while i kiss you?

    I hope there'd be some eye-lock first. That can be the most exciting part.
  • calibro

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    Mar 26, 2010 4:38 PM GMT
    TexDef07 said
    calibro said but what if my eyes are closed while i kiss you?

    I hope there'd be some eye-lock first. That can be the most exciting part.


    sorry, the lights are off and we've just came home from a good time at the bar... you're gonna have to settle for the kiss
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    Mar 26, 2010 4:39 PM GMT
    I think it comes down to his actions - particularly the little every day things. Some things my partner does that let's me know he loves me:

    bringing me flowers or little gifts just because

    having a martini ready and waiting for me when I get home after I've called him to tell him what a rough day I've had

    Walking up behind me and giving me a big hug

    The list goes on, but his actions show me he loves
    me just as much or more than words could.

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    Mar 26, 2010 4:50 PM GMT
    calibro said
    TexDef07 said
    calibro said but what if my eyes are closed while i kiss you?

    I hope there'd be some eye-lock first. That can be the most exciting part.


    sorry, the lights are off and we've just came home from a good time at the bar... you're gonna have to settle for the kiss

    What? No bottle of wine by the fireplace, with soul-searching conversation and those long looks where time stands still?
    People don't do romance anymore.
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    Mar 26, 2010 4:58 PM GMT
    That answer is not always easy.

    But one sign of love is, when a person continues to stand by your side and provides comfort when you're at the lowest point of your life.
    It's easy to be with someone when they're at their best, but takes someone committed and loving to stay with you when you're at your worst.
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    Mar 26, 2010 5:23 PM GMT
    I think I like this live version of the answer better. Can you believe Cher is 60 something?
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  • Shiv66

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    Mar 26, 2010 5:28 PM GMT
    "Love" is a chemical reaction, an emotion. It is inconstant, fluctuates throughout the day, is subject to mood and circumstance as much as anything else we experience. We vest too much sacredness in it; our imagined scenarios of how it should be are rarely in sync with how it really is.

    This is all love is:

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence

    It's like belief in god. Once you stop trying to believe in the fairy tale, then you are free from the anxieties that absurd leap of faith comes with. And perhaps then you can build the foundations of a lasting, healthy relationship, whether it is monogamous, polygamous, polyamorous, or whatever. There are as many configurations of how relationships can be as there are obstinate opinions of how they should be.
  • calibro

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    Mar 26, 2010 9:29 PM GMT
    TexDef07 said
    calibro said
    TexDef07 said
    calibro said but what if my eyes are closed while i kiss you?

    I hope there'd be some eye-lock first. That can be the most exciting part.


    sorry, the lights are off and we've just came home from a good time at the bar... you're gonna have to settle for the kiss

    What? No bottle of wine by the fireplace, with soul-searching conversation and those long looks where time stands still?
    People don't do romance anymore.


    we were already at the bar, drank a pitcher, and had a great discussion about why ncaa is so much better than pro... totally romantic
  • MuscleComeBac...

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    Mar 26, 2010 9:46 PM GMT
    When he says so, and you don't wonder whether or not it's true.
    Better yet, when he says nothing, and you know without asking.

    Yes, it happens.
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    Mar 27, 2010 5:01 PM GMT
    you should never have to waste your time trying to figure out if someone does.

    If someone loves you enough, they will make sure that you know.

    If they aren't making sure that you know, then chances are they don't love you enough.

    Just the same love is a two way street, and just as someone should be sending out those confirmations, you should be receiving it acceptingly without question.