Second opinion on my buddy's interests?

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    Mar 26, 2010 5:56 PM GMT
    Wanted some second opinions figuring someone out. I live with a friends of mine and am great friends with one in particular. Seems like the typical straight-as-an-arrow type, and wouldn't raise anyone's suspicions, but that probably tells you where this is going.

    He had me get on his computer the other day to update WoW before he got home. I jumped in his browser to replace his wallpaper with something from one of weird porn sites. But, in his history I was only expecting to find straight-weird, not what I found. The first few said something about tranny vids then tranny stories. Figured an online friend was just sending him 'shocking stuff', but after looking at the 30 day history it was all stuff like that. Saw the word 'tranny' a lot, along with cfnm.com, and some gay sites. There were straight porn sites and fur porn sprinkled in there. It was surprising how few non-porn sites there were too. Turned it off pretty fast because I realized I was in his business in a bad way, not in a funny way.

    But, most of my questions are now, what's that mean? I've never been into tranny stuff, and don't know what kind of dudes like that. Is that a sure sign that someone is gay or bi? I know, I know, I should just have an honest discussion with my friend, but I have a feeling it would end in my ass getting kicked. This guy has gone to great lengths to preserve his straight reputation, I'm not gonna be the first one to venture there unless I know without a doubt.

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    Mar 26, 2010 6:05 PM GMT
    IME guys into trannies are not gay or bi. They are normally mostly straight, BUT not opposed to getting or sometimes giving head from or to a guy.
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    Mar 26, 2010 6:19 PM GMT
    That might make sense. I've always joked with him that I think he's "prison gay." Not the nice kind of gay, the scary kind.
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    Mar 26, 2010 6:36 PM GMT
    slowcore, I'd back right away from this and give your friend his dignity and privacy.

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    Mar 26, 2010 6:42 PM GMT
    You're right, but I keep wondering about how it affects me. All the jokes about fooling around he's made with me, seem less like jokes now. I'd like to know if there's real interest there, and decide if I'm down for it.

    I guess a good side effect is that I'm working out more. Feel like I have to look good at home now icon_razz.gif
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    Mar 26, 2010 6:51 PM GMT
    Well....if he is interested in you he'll let you know (because I'm pretty sure you wouldn't want to go out with someone who wouldn't make it clear that he's interested, right?).

    -Doug

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    Mar 26, 2010 7:10 PM GMT
    That's assuming that all parties involved are very mature, open and comfortable with their sexual identity. To answer your question, no I don't think he would ever tell me, or anyone else. Personally, his interest in me is secondary. His family and his friends would never understand, and he's very close to them. I'm likely the only person that he could share personal things with, without judgement.

    So, now you're making me think, damnit. Those things considered, is it wrong to take a selfish interest in him? Should I just find ways to let him know he can confide in me?
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    Mar 26, 2010 7:51 PM GMT
    slowcore saidThat's assuming that all parties involved are very mature, open and comfortable with their sexual identity. To answer your question, no I don't think he would ever tell me, or anyone else. Personally, his interest in me is secondary. His family and his friends would never understand, and he's very close to them. I'm likely the only person that he could share personal things with, without judgement.

    So, now you're making me think, damnit. Those things considered, is it wrong to take a selfish interest in him? Should I just find ways to let him know he can confide in me?

    Pandora, didnt anyone ever tell you not to open that box? ...Now look at the mess you've gotten yourself into.

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    Mar 26, 2010 10:25 PM GMT
    OH OH OH OH OH OH OH OH OH MY GOD WATCH DAN!!!!!!!!

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    Mar 26, 2010 11:15 PM GMT
    Fascinating. Great video, thanks. To borrow from Jane Goodall -- gay and straight is a very wuzzy line, and it's getting wuzzier all the time.
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    Mar 29, 2010 5:56 AM GMT
    slowcore saidFascinating. Great video, thanks. To borrow from Jane Goodall -- gay and straight is a very wuzzy line, and it's getting wuzzier all the time.


    Heh, Symphony of Science?

    Oh, and thanks for the vid tank, never seen that before, but definately a good find!
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    Mar 31, 2010 6:20 AM GMT
    I knew someone would catch the reference icon_smile.gif

    Pandora's box is right. I'm not bothered by any of it, but it's shaken me to have my image of my friend switched so fast. It'd be easier to forget about if I wasn't half-interested in him. It's also strange that the jokes he makes all the time are things he's actually into, so joking back now feels like flirting.

    This is going nowhere good. The people are right. Avoid snooping at all costs. But, who doesn't clear their history when they have interests they want to keep private? It's like walking in on someone who didn't latch the door in a public bathroom.