dancerjack saidi work out with a trainer in a studio to simply circumvent the issue. i'm in a bit of a mood after a lengthy and heated discussion with a non-fit gay who was bent on trying to get me to apologize for being attracted to physically fit men. so i really am not in much of a mood to analyze any further than to say i don't care if we all look like creeps and sluts, since most of us are. embrace it. you'll sound less like a stuffed sausage.
Lol, it's funny how some people are like that non-fit guy you described. If you want a fit guy to be attracted to you, become an attractive fit guy yourself. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. This stuff is pretty much common sense.
you can be fit an still unattractive... how do you become attractive ?
It's sort of the same thing. People usually find symmetry attractive. As you get into shape (ie: Gain musclular definition), your face becomes more symmetrical. Hard lines in the male face are generally what constitute whether a guy is "good looking" or not. Sure, there are guys out there that just look ridiculously good as a result of good genes but that doesn't mean guys that weren't born "Adonises" have to just give up.
There's definitely a limit with how "attractive" you can become but there being a limit doesn't mean you shouldn't try at all.