Why the gays are unfaithfull?

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    Jan 28, 2007 4:59 PM GMT
    They are never satisfied! Always look for more! If you dont have a nice body or a cute face, they´ll look for on the next corner...
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    Jan 28, 2007 8:43 PM GMT
    Luckily, you have both buddy!

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    Jan 28, 2007 9:20 PM GMT
    We all respond favorably to something or someone beautiful. We tend to desire for what's new and what looks good ( or who looks good or hot). At a young age, we may be too shallow to fall into this trap but in the end, we all long for that faithful friend or family member or partner who will be with us no matter what and until the end. I believe we all would want to be cared for when we are weak and old, and that is the faithfulness we would want to have. I would choose that. But for now, when people have their options, there is a thinking of "have fun now, get serious later". I find it interesting that this site talks about monogamy for gay guys, which is an assurance that as gay individuals we still hold on to those dear values. We may be gay, but that just part and parcel of who we are and how we deal with others.
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    Jan 28, 2007 9:26 PM GMT
    Well, not all gay guys are unfaithful. Some of them do believe and practice monogamy. It's not something related to the sexual orientation, heteros do it too. But people are different, and act differently. No rules. There must be a sociological answer to that though, but it would apply to certain gay groups or individuals.
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    Jan 28, 2007 9:41 PM GMT
    Of course, we are all different. And, of course, we shoud be all inclusive. But I do wonder about the number of profiles on this site that list "Monogamous Relationship" as the guy's current state, yet that person states he is looking for "Sex." The last time I looked up "monogamous", that's not possible, unless the guy means "monogamous emotionally". That is possible, of course.

    And, then, it would be interesting to see the demographics on "Open Relationship". For those of us who are single, it's dismaying to see guys who already have "someone" persisting on the market.

    Again, I am not saying mean things here or throwing stones. It's just curious to me.

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    Jan 28, 2007 9:44 PM GMT
    I know that cheating happens among heterosexuals, too, but it seems like it's more prevalent in the gay community. Is it because we don't have anything that legally binds us to our mate? I don't think it's so much a gay or straight thing as much as it is a male or female thing. Women tend to mate for life...to nurture. Men are more territorial and are more prone to "spread their seed..."
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    Jan 28, 2007 10:04 PM GMT
    Well not all gay guys are unfaithfull.

    I was with my last ex 4y10m .. Even though in the end he was unfaithfull to me little over 7 times to find out.

    I left in the end. Most people just dont put any efforts into relationships. Which sucks.

    There are a lot of superfical guys but it works same way in any reference gay or straight. Both worlds people cheat. The basics is people have to b honest about what they want and offer and expect and really know in the end be truth full.

    I loved my ex for all the good and the bad. I believe that people need when get involved in relationship put the extra effort in making it work not fall apart and give up ant resistance or if things are not going their ways.

    People have to make things work for any relationship takes effort.
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    Jan 29, 2007 9:31 AM GMT
    Totally off topic, but I had to giggle when I read 'the gays' in the title...

    That is how my grandmom refers to all homosexuals, 'the gays', like we are a family that lives on the block. It's always 'the gays' this or that...

    Gram? You in here? lol
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    Jan 29, 2007 12:25 PM GMT
    Gay guys are always thinking there is something better out there then what they currently have. Someone cuter, someone more built, someone more fun...they are rarely try to work on what they have with the person they are with. I think for me, it is important to be friends first, then sex. And really explore sex with your partner. It isn't easy...but be aware sex doesn't always happen and sex can suck sometimes...but then other times it can be mind blowing!!
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    Jan 29, 2007 12:58 PM GMT
    Simply stated gay guys are dumb... I should know. If I had a dollar for everytime I jumped the fence because the grass was greener on the other side... I should have just bought a bag a fertilizer and worked on my own lawn...
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    Jan 29, 2007 2:14 PM GMT
    I wonder if it's a self fulfilling prophesy. I mean, when my relationship began we had so many people just give us a wink and a grin and say that in a few years we'd loosen up and "open up." I can't tell you how annoying that was hehe. If you're told that frequently and you take it seriously then I'd think it would have to affect your thoughts.
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    Jan 29, 2007 2:20 PM GMT
    As a gay man who tends bar in a straight club, I can attest to the fact that "being unfaithful" is no less prevalent in the hetero community that it is in the gay community.

    I think its a matter of confidence and communication. Either group of people are not able to tell their partner they are unhappy and willing to either work out the differences or call it quits.

    There is also a certain amount of safety in having a quick fuck with no obligations, rather than developing an open communication system with your significant other.

    Frankly, I don't believe people are monogamous, but it is achievable if you develop a mature and open honest relationship with the one you love.

    You people that say gays are less monogamous need to get out in the real world and see that all people regardless of sexuality have the power to be unfaithful as well as faithful.
  • dfrourke

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    Jan 29, 2007 6:35 PM GMT
    Gotta Agree with "tatudincmh"...being unfaithful has less to do with sexual orientation than our own maturity...it might also be a sign that someone is just not oriented to being monogamous [I have a post somewhere about this]...

    I was a bartender in a straight club in New York City and I saw the same stuff in that club that I see here...which is not necessarily reassuring...

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  • DiverScience

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    Jan 31, 2007 8:13 PM GMT
    3 years... never unfaithful... neither of us ever jealous or suspicious. And now we've both moved on and are still good friends.

    I think a lot of it comes from the habit that many of us get into of hiding everything. We hide who we are for so long that we become unable to talk about who we are and what we need with our partners. So they don't have a chance to give it to us and we have no way to back out when we're not getting it. I think similar things (minus the closet part) cause the same problems in hetero relationships.

    Communication. It's key.
  • HotMuscleFun

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    Feb 11, 2007 8:05 PM GMT
    It is simply a symptom of not having a clearly defined philosophy grounded in reality.

    Jim
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    Feb 23, 2007 6:37 AM GMT
    People grow apart when they become too familiar with each other, and look elsewhere for new adventures. One always has to create a sense of mystery and at the sametime engage the other partner in the doing things that are new and different in the relationship, so it doesn't get boring, that includes adventures sex play, using your imagination and keeping things exiting, and above all communicate and talk out issues that are of concern in the relationship, before they become a big problem, and always confess when you are attracted to someone else sexually---- clarify if that attraction is only momentary and superficial, or could threaten your relatioship. Thatway the other person knows where they stand, and know if it's time for the "dreaded talk". Most of the roving eyes are just hormonal and momentary if your relatioship is not just based on looks.It's normal to want what you can't have and keeps you feeling desiarable. So keep making your partner feel desierd. ;) S.
  • ManAfoot

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    Jun 05, 2007 3:03 AM GMT
    All the more reason I am strictly JO.

    I want to have my fun, but I'm not about to establish a sexual history or add to my partner's.

    But I have also not been able to get repeat time with anyone yet.

    Not that I am surprised. But until I find guys whose sexual interests are similar, I will expect more one-night stands, much as I hate to use the term. And I will continue playing extremely safe.
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    Oct 22, 2013 5:25 PM GMT
    "Most people just dont put any efforts into relationships. Which sucks."

    Sad, isn't it?
  • Destinharbor

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    Oct 22, 2013 5:32 PM GMT
    Oeaseaux said"Most people just dont put any efforts into relationships. Which sucks."

    Sad, isn't it?

    Children don't. Adults do.
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    Oct 22, 2013 5:51 PM GMT
    Ugh, don't even get me started about this...

    #bitterscornedangryhomosexual icon_evil.gif
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    Oct 22, 2013 5:55 PM GMT
    Destinharbor said
    Oeaseaux said"Most people just dont put any efforts into relationships. Which sucks."

    Sad, isn't it?

    Children don't. Adults do.



    EXACTLY.

  • HottJoe

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    Oct 22, 2013 5:56 PM GMT
    Tight pants.
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    Oct 22, 2013 6:06 PM GMT
    The same reason most guys seek to hookup and date only the hottest looking guys, when they just as easily date guys in their own status...
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    Oct 22, 2013 6:08 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidTight pants.


    Lol! Agreed! icon_razz.gif
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    Oct 22, 2013 6:14 PM GMT
    Sone said
    _JRQ saidThe same reason most guys seek to hookup and date only the hottest looking guys, when they just as easily date guys in their own status...


    If guys in their own status was even legitimately interested......

    All I know is that I want to date someone who is like me in ways that matter. Aesthetic appeal is so basic that it makes me explode. Sure, everyone wants a hottie, but what do they have in common? If young and hot wants you, likes you, or just appreciates you for more than what you can see, you've won the jackpot! If just like you appreciates you... what the hell is the problem? I'm a bad homo.