when did hookups become so hard?

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    Mar 28, 2010 5:42 AM GMT
    I'm chatting with a guy, he texts me his pics and he's hot.
    He agrees to come over.
    I open the door, he enters and he's even hotter than he looked in the picture.
    I take him up to my room and I'm getting ready to unbotton his pants when he notices the ruck suck, patrol cap and dog tags on the floor and starts freaking out.

    Apparently he was in the military and just ended his enlistment 3 months ago. It was disrespectful to sleep with me because I was like a brother....

    He took off like a bat out of hell and needless to say, it is now 1:40 am, and I am frustrated and pissed!

    Can anyone relate?
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    Mar 28, 2010 6:34 AM GMT
    Oh no. Once you are in my bedroom you are as good as fucked.

    Sorry you had a flake over. Next time, just give me a call.
  • PRDGUY

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    Mar 28, 2010 8:11 AM GMT
    I'VE FOUND THAT HOOKING UP, WHETHER MILITARY OR CIVILIAN, HAS GOTTEN EASIER!

    Having numerous buds either in or recently left the service, each one I asked said it was him, and two said that they would prefer a fellow service member- it's a matter of trust.

    He obviously had some other issues.... sorry u were left standing at attention!
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    Mar 28, 2010 9:23 AM GMT
    Halfstep saidI
    Apparently he was in the military and just ended his enlistment 3 months ago. It was disrespectful to sleep with me because I was like a brother....


    It was disrespectful not to. next time hide the tag. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Mar 28, 2010 1:44 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidOh no. Once you are in my bedroom you are as good as fucked.

    Sorry you had a flake over. Next time, just give me a call.


    sure thing lol
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    Mar 28, 2010 1:45 PM GMT
    Lostboy said
    Halfstep saidI
    Apparently he was in the military and just ended his enlistment 3 months ago. It was disrespectful to sleep with me because I was like a brother....


    It was disrespectful not to. next time hide the tag. icon_rolleyes.gif


    thats what he said lol. I was so pissed man.

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    Mar 28, 2010 2:08 PM GMT
    Flakey…flake, flake, flake.

    Could have been worse; I once got: “sorry, you are too attractive”…WTF
  • Delivis

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    Mar 28, 2010 2:18 PM GMT
    That's quite odd, I think you are quite right to be annoyed.
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    Mar 28, 2010 2:31 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidFlakey…flake, flake, flake.

    Could have been worse; I once got: “sorry, you are too attractive”…WTF


    lol seriously? Thats crazy
  • Celticmusl

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    Mar 28, 2010 3:48 PM GMT
    Thanks for reminding me how awful hookups are.

    I really can't even recall the last time I've had one, but pretty much it was all horror stories.
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    Mar 28, 2010 3:49 PM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidI'm not sure what kind of "Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants" kick that guy was on that made him bolt like that...

    lol this made me laugh

    maybe next time you should know the other gut a bit more dont ya think?
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    Mar 28, 2010 4:57 PM GMT
    Celticmusl saidThanks for reminding me how awful hookups are.

    I really can't even recall the last time I've had one, but pretty much it was all horror stories.


    Yeah, its pretty crappy.

    The funny thing is, I don't remember it being this hard before I started seeing the ex.

    Now being newly single everything seems different. I feel more optimistic yet more pessimistic at the same time about everything.

    And hook ups seem so much harder. So many people are so dishonest.

    Maybe all those years of pure open communication with my ex has changed my perspective.

    I think what made it even worse is that I stopped and thought if I'm having this much trouble, my ex must be so lonely right now. It made me feel so bad because he's such a sweet guy.

    But thats a completely different post.

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    Mar 28, 2010 5:09 PM GMT
    Halfstep said
    I think what made it even worse is that I stopped and thought if I'm having this much trouble, my ex must be so lonely right now. It made me feel so bad because he's such a sweet guy.


    I can relate, also being again into the hookup game after many years. I get feelings for my ex come up at unpredictable times and making me feel bad during/after a hookup. I recently went to a sex club where they played some music reminding me of him, which brought up a lot of unexpected emotions all of a sudden.

    Don't be too hard on this guy. He was probably reminded of something or someone that brought up strong emotions, got spooked, and made up some excuse. Maybe he thought of his ex, or he has feelings of guilt about sex, or cheating, or whatever, and couldn't go through with it. It has nothing to do with you, most likely.

    I have gotten spooked in the past. It happens. I don't think it makes me a flake. Well, technically maybe, but not a bad person, at least.
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    Mar 28, 2010 6:27 PM GMT
    For starters, I would be grateful the guy looked better than his pic. That's so rare these days. Secondly, sex isn't a given and either side should be allowed to say no, without having to provide an explanation.

    Having said that, the military does produce some fine looking guys. If only that were their sole purpose. That'll be the day...
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    Mar 28, 2010 6:29 PM GMT
    it's always better to "hide" clues that identify yourself even more if it's just a hookup for reason being
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    Mar 28, 2010 6:30 PM GMT
    He wanted to keep it a strict physical interaction. Once he picked up clues on 'who' you are he saw you more than just a piece of meat (which freaked him out)
  • Space_Cowboy_...

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    Mar 28, 2010 6:35 PM GMT
    O_o WOW that guys a fucking idiot... well he'll learn after actually being in the Military that guys fuck each other all the time, I used to go to the barracks in Germany all the time and there was always someone hooking up or getting a bj lol
  • jlly_rnchr

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    Mar 28, 2010 6:38 PM GMT
    Maybe he didn't trust you to keep it quiet. Sleeping with another military guy is risky, right? Or is it safer because you're in the same boat?
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    Mar 28, 2010 7:16 PM GMT
    Space_Cowboy_89 saidO_o WOW that guys a fucking idiot... well he'll learn after actually being in the Military that guys fuck each other all the time, I used to go to the barracks in Germany all the time and there was always someone hooking up or getting a bj lol


    Really? Why don't they include that in the recruiting infomercials?
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    Mar 28, 2010 8:08 PM GMT
    SeaSon said
    Space_Cowboy_89 saidO_o WOW that guys a fucking idiot... well he'll learn after actually being in the Military that guys fuck each other all the time, I used to go to the barracks in Germany all the time and there was always someone hooking up or getting a bj lol


    Really? Why don't they include that in the recruiting infomercials?


    Haha not literally everyone but all the Gay and bi guys are lol. BUT all the guys go get naked and play video games together. it's really hot lol and most of the time they're playing Call of Duty
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    Mar 28, 2010 8:13 PM GMT
    Space_Cowboy_89 saidBUT all the guys go get naked and play video games together.


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    Okay, my head just exploded.
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    Mar 28, 2010 8:16 PM GMT
    Camouflage pants. Hot hookups. Next thing ya know they're gonna have an opening for a pacifist
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    Mar 28, 2010 8:18 PM GMT
    viveutvivas said
    Space_Cowboy_89 saidBUT all the guys go get naked and play video games together.


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    Okay, my head just exploded.


    Haha yeah I was like icon_redface.gif but icon_razz.gif all at the same time HAHA

    I gave head that night too icon_cool.gif
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    Mar 29, 2010 12:41 AM GMT
    sorry for the bad connection...

    In my experience with other military bros it tends to be very very exciting...

    I've had some flakes in the past but none that we've gotten to the bedroom and then decided to call it off.

    Oh well there are other guys out there don't sweat this one at all
  • Celticmusl

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    Mar 29, 2010 12:45 AM GMT
    Halfstep said
    Celticmusl saidThanks for reminding me how awful hookups are.

    I really can't even recall the last time I've had one, but pretty much it was all horror stories.


    Yeah, its pretty crappy.

    The funny thing is, I don't remember it being this hard before I started seeing the ex.

    Now being newly single everything seems different. I feel more optimistic yet more pessimistic at the same time about everything.

    And hook ups seem so much harder. So many people are so dishonest.

    Maybe all those years of pure open communication with my ex has changed my perspective.

    I think what made it even worse is that I stopped and thought if I'm having this much trouble, my ex must be so lonely right now. It made me feel so bad because he's such a sweet guy.

    But thats a completely different post.



    You're just having growing pains Halfstep. And yes, it is hard to find a connection. Once you've had it, at least you know that it's possible again. Maybe that's why I don't really have much interest in sex without the connection as well.