FACEBOOK PREDATORS

  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 28, 2010 2:03 PM GMT
    I had mentioned in a recent thread about the process of finally establishing a "Facebook" profile and the process over the last couple of weeks. It is interesting people from parts of your life commenting on various things about you.
    The law school peer talking with someone you knew from elementary school,
    a client making a comment about a personal discussion. It can be a little odd.

    But what has been really weird is an "facebook preditor". I mentioned the dude in the previous thread. He was my piano teacher from 4th grade, but I found he didn't hardly remember me. Instead it was about hitting on me as he had with a number of my local gay "facebook friends". Discussion has ensued as he contacted several of my friends (some who would be younger than his daughters). He finally contacted my partner and made suggestions. Let say he got a response, but not what he expected. I often wonder whether his wife knows anything about this behavior.

    It does remind me that Facebook is fun, it can be great. I've enjoyed starting the process of talking with a few of my RJ friends there.... but you have to be aware of the negatives and react accordingly.

    If you have Facebook or Twitter... any negatives yet?

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    Mar 28, 2010 2:25 PM GMT

    Nope, no negatives, except for having to tinker with privacy settings when FB monkeyed with them. Privacy helps prevent stalkers etc.
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    Mar 28, 2010 2:56 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    Nope, no negatives, except for having to tinker with privacy settings when FB monkeyed with them. Privacy helps prevent stalkers etc.


    mhm
  • greenlantern1

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    Mar 28, 2010 3:14 PM GMT
    charlitos said
    meninlove said
    Nope, no negatives, except for having to tinker with privacy settings when FB monkeyed with them. Privacy helps prevent stalkers etc.


    mhm


    Yeah, I have to agree....as long as the facebook techs don't keep screwing with the settings....I really don't have problems with anyone because I set my settings to..."No Stalkers" too.....the only problem I have with it is that when more than one person i.m.s you, it gets a little screwy...-Lantern
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    Mar 28, 2010 3:18 PM GMT
    charlitos said
    meninlove said
    Nope, no negatives, except for having to tinker with privacy settings when FB monkeyed with them. Privacy helps prevent stalkers etc.


    mhm

    mhm :
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    Mar 28, 2010 3:55 PM GMT
    I don't get the whole Friend Collecting thing. I personally ONLY use FB for friends and for some of the RJ fam. However I have friends you seem to just add/collect people on there that they have no idea who they are. I don't get it.

    I also DO NOT accept any current co-workers/clients! FB for me is JUST for personal fun and a quick and easy way of staying connected with friends and family without putting out too much effort to everyone individually.
  • Celticmusl

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    Mar 28, 2010 4:05 PM GMT
    I agree, things are getting confusing in regards to keeping your professional life and personal life separate. Most seem to like the fact that you no longer have to have a "professional" manner while holding a professional job.

    I had a very confusing interview recently, where the woman was good friends with one of my friends(who actually was able to get me an interview). She asked me very personal questions throughout the interview and honestly I was stupefied. I couldn't answer the question in a professional context and possibly you should not be asking such questions in an interview because at some point if someone does not get the job they will think "Oh, it's because I'm gay".
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    Mar 28, 2010 8:04 PM GMT
    The problem with Facebook and similar sites is that they're getting people to spend even more time online. People used to do things for real, like meet friends for coffee or even garden. Instead they're exchanging messages on FB and spending hours playing Farmville. In my opinion it's kind of sad.
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    Mar 28, 2010 8:10 PM GMT
    SeaSon saidThe problem with Facebook and similar sites is that they're getting people to spend even more time online. People used to do things for real, like meet friends for coffee or even garden. Instead they're exchanging messages on FB and spending hours playing Farmville. In my opinion it's kind of sad.

    True. Okay, going out for the rest of the day, since I actually have to sit in front of a computer Mon-Fri.

    Also, I find it strange that your friends and co-workers are contacting each other from your page even though they don't know each other. That doesn't seem like normal Facebook behaviour. icon_confused.gif
  • Tiller66

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    Mar 28, 2010 8:48 PM GMT
    Well no real negs yet but all the games on there can get you sucked in.I did get to connect with some old friends that moved away so I do like that I've goten on fb.
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    Mar 28, 2010 9:13 PM GMT
    Constantly. I have been forced to change my name in facebook because people I have worked with somehow like to make my life miserable. Stalkers and harassers. I often have had old friends who know about my orientation start rumors...it got to my parents ears. My family is pretty harsh on the reputation we have established among a certain group of people that have high expectation of us [wouldn't know why people EXPECT things from others] but thats life.

    I had a couple people call me
    fake...
    untalented...
    slut...
    bitch...
    threaten to go after me...
    poser...
    wannabe...



    But...eh. I don't care. Haters i call them.

    But if you have a facebook and wanna add me, please do! Msg Msg! :p
    I love meeting new people, and for the most part guys from here a super mature. icon_smile.gif
  • drypin

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    Mar 28, 2010 9:47 PM GMT
    No, but I have to say that I'm kind of over the whole "let's see what those people from high school are up to" thing. I saw. It wasn't interesting. Finally, I went through and started weeding. 250... 200... 150... 100. If I had had to read "thank god it's Friday" (because that's the most interesting/revealing thing 80% of them had to say) or to see one more photo of people's dogs as their profile (I knew they were "dogs"... they didn't have to pound home the point), I was going to yank my entire profile out.

    I've developed a few tips to save myself the bother of deleting these "friends" later.

    1) if they send you a friend request with no text, hit the [ignore] button.

    2) if 9 out of 10 messages from them were automatically sent from any game with "town" or "ville" or "wars" in the title, say goodbye.

    3) if they haven't updated their profile, added a photo, or sent a message in the last 6 months, will they really miss me?

    4) if I've told them that I don't like depictions of angels and I simply detest cherubs, and they insist on sending them to me, sayonara, mes anges!

    5) if deleting a few more friends will get you to some handsomely round number like 100, pick a few borderline cases and push.
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    Mar 28, 2010 10:16 PM GMT
    No problems for me and I have been on it for well over a year. I have set my profile on private and I dont accept random people's friend request.
  • Timbales

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    Mar 28, 2010 11:00 PM GMT
    I keep a few things in mind when it comes to Facebook. It's a public record. I don't post pictures or make comments that I think could be used against me.