Most Weaselly and Underhanded Thing a Gay Guy Ever Did To You, or Attempted

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    Mar 29, 2010 5:18 AM GMT
    My favorite happened in a gay nightclub, by a guy my BF & I both knew casually. So first he comes up to me while my BF was going around the place by himself, visiting our various other friends there that night. This guy tells me I look terrible, I've lost a lot of weight, clearly the negative consequence of this new relationship I started a few months earlier.

    Well, no I reply, I've actually been gaining weight, as I always do in a relationship, from going out to eat too often, something I don't do as much when single. I was trying desperately to lose weight, to keep my BF's interest.

    Oh, no, you're wrong he says, you've lost weight, and "everyone" is talking about what a bad match this guy is for me. Well, I'm getting annoyed but try to keep it cordial in public, and eventually he goes away.

    A few minutes later I see him talking to my BF on the other side of the club, but I'm not insecure, so I leave them alone. Eventually we join back up, dance a little, and drive back to my place for a sleepover. And in the car we talk about our evening, especially exchanging the gay news & gossip the other may not have heard.

    Well, turns out Mr. Weasel was saying the same thing he had said earlier to me, almost verbatim, but about my BF instead of me! HE looked terrible, HE had lost a lot of weight, everyone thought I was wrong for HIM, bad match, it was making him ill, etc. Except, my BF felt Weasel was also making a play for him, which he hadn't for me.

    We howled with laughter in the car! That guy's nerve, and stupidity, to think we wouldn't freely discuss matters with each other (we still do, 6 years later, though now living apart with new love interests). He was very clumsily trying to break us up, so he could move in himself, apparently going after my BF, clearly the better catch, a millionaire and very prominent socially.

    In fact, he was that gay community's BEST catch, so much so that for the first & only time in my life I had to contend with rivals like this guy. But to this day I remain astonished by his chutzpah, which exceeded all others, that he would try that right in front of our faces.
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    Mar 29, 2010 12:05 PM GMT
    a gay FRIEND who i'd known for a while was living in a crappy situation, struggling trying to go school etc...Decided to let him move in for 3 months, figured that would give him time to find another place (My ex and me didn't like having roommates so it was temp only for him so just letting him stay for 3 months showed we cared about him) We owned several retail stores and decided to let him work 1 day a week at the stores to make extra money. One day I was walkng past his bathroom and saw some items on the counter that looked like they came from the store, checked the store employee purchase log and didn't see any purchase, let it slide as nothing. Then few weeks later we had to have cable installed, the guy had to run the cable down the wall in his closet, opened his closet and saw boxes of inventory from MY STORE with our very distinct price lables still on them. I went balistic, tore his room apart, we thru his bathroom and all his drawers and started a pile of MY INVENTORY from the store on his bed, added it all up and he had over $3700 of stuff he'd stole from MY STORE stored in MY HOUSE. When he came home, me and my ex said you have 15minutes to pack your stuff and GET OUT....He packed a suit case and then packed some of the stolen inventory in his suitcase before he left. WTF!
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    Mar 29, 2010 12:27 PM GMT
    ^ I rather your hot sex stories!
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    Mar 29, 2010 12:38 PM GMT
    lol........Been a while since i've been active on this site, looks like I may have found a guy to date, we just met and kinda not doing much online right now
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    Mar 29, 2010 1:01 PM GMT
    shortmuscleguy said...When he came home, me and my ex said you have 15minutes to pack your stuff and GET OUT....He packed a suit case and then packed some of the stolen inventory in his suitcase before he left. WTF!

    He's lucky you didn't have the police waiting for him when he returned, you certainly had grounds. I'm surprised you apparently let him pack his things in private, and I presume you realized he'd taken some inventory when stuff was missing from the pile on the bed you had made?

    In many cases of a complete moral breakdown like this, drugs are involved. Doesn't get a lot of sympathy from me, but when I was in military law enforcement, and just from my life experiences of people I've met, I know how common that pattern is.

    Once someone's involved with using drugs I distance myself from them ASAP & totally. Seems drug addiction breaks down any moral & ethical code, and self-respect & feelings for others they may once have had (of course, there are some people who never did have any redeeming qualities to begin with). But with drugs, their judgment & character completely break down, and they'll do things like this to you, and worse.

    I don't know if that's the case here, but it wouldn't surprise me. I mention it because I think it's one good way to minimize our exposure to risk from incidents like the one that happened to you; when you encounter drug involvement, run don't walk in the opposite direction. And BTW, I might also mention the risk of having a guy like that living under your roof, in case he's under DEA surveillance or something.
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    Mar 29, 2010 1:16 PM GMT
    Red_Vespa said
    shortmuscleguy said...When he came home, me and my ex said you have 15minutes to pack your stuff and GET OUT....He packed a suit case and then packed some of the stolen inventory in his suitcase before he left. WTF!

    He's lucky you didn't have the police waiting for him when he returned, you certainly had grounds. I'm surprised you apparently let him pack his things in private, and I presume you realized he'd taken some inventory when stuff was missing from the pile on the bed you had made?

    In many cases of a complete moral breakdown like this, drugs are involved. .


    The guy was an active member of AA and sober for a longtime, knew his partner very well, drugs and drinking were not the issues, more of an "they won't miss this and I won't get caught"...His sponsor even called me and made the rat pay me the money forthe stuff he stole, setup a payment plan and he payed for the full $3700 and I kept the inventory..another life lesson for everyone involved