Are you satistfied with the way you look?

  • Nayro

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    Mar 29, 2010 8:35 AM GMT
    When I'm on this site I always enjoy reading the forums, I also enjoy looking at all the gorgeous men on here. Sometimes it can make me a little sad aswell though because since whenever I can start remembering I have never been satistfied with my appearance. I know it's in my head and I don't look as awful as I sometimes feel, but lots of times I wish I looked more like some of the guys on this site.

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  • Bunjamon

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    Mar 29, 2010 10:25 AM GMT
    I only started feeling comfortable and confident about the way I look in the last year. I used to be a ridiculously skinny pile of insecurity. But through hard work I'm really starting to like the changes I'm bringing about on the outside, which has brought a lot of changes inside, too. It's sounds cliché and ingenuine when I read that sentence again but it's true. Remember, we all want what we can't have (a lot of the time), so it's best to learn to accept the things you can't change and to motivate yourself to change the things you can.
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    Mar 29, 2010 10:37 AM GMT
    eh, I'm not the one who has to wake up next to me.. so.. yeah.. I am icon_smile.gif
  • jlly_rnchr

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    Mar 29, 2010 11:45 AM GMT
    Nope, not 100%. There's always something that I will feel needs improvement.
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    Mar 29, 2010 11:52 AM GMT
    never
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    Mar 29, 2010 12:17 PM GMT
    Always something that you would like to change, right?

    There's kinda one answer to it. BEGIN!
    if you wanna get buff, go to the gym.
    If you wanna get slim, lose weight, change your diet.
    If you wanna get healthy, then throw out all the crappy food that's laying around in your cupboard.

    I think you get the point. No one's gonna do it for you, so why not change yourself?
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    Mar 29, 2010 12:17 PM GMT
    Niceguy89 saidWhen I'm on this site I always enjoy reading the forums, I also enjoy looking at all the gorgeous men on here. Sometimes it can make me a little sad aswell though because since whenever I can start remembering I have never been satistfied with my appearance. I know it's in my head and I don't look as awful as I sometimes feel, but lots of times I wish I looked more like some of the guys on this site.

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    Of course not! icon_cry.gif
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    Mar 29, 2010 12:26 PM GMT
    There's a difference between wishing you looked like somebody else and not being satisfied that your body is the best it can be. I'm the latter, but the former is not constructive at all. Work on improving what you've got, don't waste time wishing you were something you'll never be.

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    Mar 29, 2010 12:30 PM GMT
    Bryan91 saidAlways something that you would like to change, right?

    There's kinda one answer to it. BEGIN!
    if you wanna get buff, go to the gym.
    If you wanna get slim, lose weight, change your diet.
    If you wanna get healthy, then throw out all the crappy food that's laying around in your cupboard.

    I think you get the point. No one's gonna do it for you, so why not change yourself?


    there's stuff you can't really change like your face or hair loss
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    Mar 29, 2010 12:36 PM GMT
    Bunjamon saidI only started feeling comfortable and confident about the way I look in the last year. I used to be a ridiculously skinny pile of insecurity. But through hard work I'm really starting to like the changes I'm bringing about on the outside, which has brought a lot of changes inside, too. It's sounds cliché and ingenuine when I read that sentence again but it's true. Remember, we all want what we can't have (a lot of the time), so it's best to learn to accept the things you can't change and to motivate yourself to change the things you can.


    *wisdom*

    keep a balance between caring about it and not caring about it.

    and then if you had some fairy godmother who could satisfy your wish, how would you exactly decide what you'd want to look like. Bet you'd pick a model, and two weeks later wish you were another.
  • DarkSensation

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    Mar 29, 2010 12:39 PM GMT
    DjDorchester saidThere's a difference between wishing you looked like somebody else and not being satisfied that your body is the best it can be. I'm the latter, but the former is not constructive at all. Work on improving what you've got, don't waste time wishing you were something you'll never be.



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    Mar 29, 2010 12:45 PM GMT
    For a guy my age I am happy with my body. Am I working on becoming more fit and toned? Yes. Do I obsess over my looks? No.

    I accept myself as I am, love my body as it is, because it is healthy. icon_biggrin.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 29, 2010 12:47 PM GMT
    I absolutely am. Are there things that I can improve? For sure, but I have to consider myself very lucky and happy with how I look.

    Was it always this way? No way. I think you have to realize the possibilities
    and make changes.
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Mar 29, 2010 12:50 PM GMT
    Niceguy89 saidWhen I'm on this site I always enjoy reading the forums, I also enjoy looking at all the gorgeous men on here. Sometimes it can make me a little sad aswell though because since whenever I can start remembering I have never been satistfied with my appearance. I know it's in my head and I don't look as awful as I sometimes feel, but lots of times I wish I looked more like some of the guys on this site.

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    What's on the inside is what matters.
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    Mar 29, 2010 12:53 PM GMT
    Is it possible to be attracted to yourself? icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 29, 2010 1:05 PM GMT
    Very Happy.
    Very Satisfied
    Years of gradual improvement in diet/exercise and mental clarity have brought me to a place I thought I could never get to.
    But I didn't always feel this way. In fact, always used to think I was ugly.
    So developing good self perception/esteem can go a long way in helping you shine.
    When you shine people notice and tell you you glow.
    And they all can't be lying.
    Good genes from mom and dad helps too.
    What's on the outside matters a lot Don't let anyone tell you anything different. But if you are pretty and still a jerk/idiot, it will backfire in your pretty face.
    And balance....between caring about it and not giving a shit matters too.
  • Nayro

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    Mar 29, 2010 2:31 PM GMT
    Hmm k. guess I'm not the only one ;) It changes a lot how I feel about my appearance too. Today I'm o.k with it. Yesterday I was not... thats why i started this topic
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    Mar 29, 2010 2:36 PM GMT
    I dedicate this to Niceguy89, who is.

    We've been there, lol! -Doug

    In particular...

    "sometimes this face seems so funny,
    that I hide it behind a book.
    sometimes this face has so much class,
    that I have to sneak a second look."

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    Mar 29, 2010 2:37 PM GMT
    meh i dont really care much, i mean i dont want to be some narcissist :i

    which there are alot from what i can tell lol

    just be happy with what you got, not all of us are perfect; and thats the true beauty(ha lame corny saying I know :s )
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    Mar 29, 2010 2:54 PM GMT
    I'm more satisfied than before I started being dedicated to fitness, but that's not to say I've reached all my goals...yet.
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    Mar 29, 2010 3:01 PM GMT
    body wise i'm very satisfied, but my face meh. i wish i was more cute and not look older then my age, my nose make me look it i always wanted to get it fixed.
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    Mar 29, 2010 3:10 PM GMT
    Back to the gym for bulking up; see you guys in 12 weeks.icon_idea.gif
  • Celticmusl

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    Mar 29, 2010 3:14 PM GMT
    I have to say extremely satisfied. Hear out the rest of the story and you might understand that.

    In my mid thirties I found myself single again. I wasn't working out for awhile for fear of aggravating a neck and back issue that was brought on by a car accident a few years before. I was extremely insecure about my appearance and even though I started working out again I still was too insecure to go out that often. I think how I was treated in the LTR had a lot to do with my build up of insecurities.

    I honestly thought hitting forty was going to mean the death knell to any sort of social attractiveness, and after 40 it would be downhill from there.

    Well I was not social much at all until the Fall of 2008 when a coworker decided we should join the gay bowling league. I was surprised but I got a lot of attention from the other gay bowlers, and it made me feel good. So ever since then I have a few folks to go to gay events with and do stuff with.

    Anyway, we joke that I get treated like the "rockstar" sometimes. Believe me, right now being unemployed, it feels like that's the only thing I got going on right now. Coming up for me this week is yet another birthday, and thank God for my health, that is definitely something I can celebrate about.
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    Mar 29, 2010 3:18 PM GMT
    Yes, because ultimately I am the only person I need to please. Not all others are for me, not I for them.
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    Mar 29, 2010 4:12 PM GMT
    Niceguy89 saidWhen I'm on this site I always enjoy reading the forums, I also enjoy looking at all the gorgeous men on here. Sometimes it can make me a little sad aswell though because since whenever I can start remembering I have never been satistfied with my appearance. I know it's in my head and I don't look as awful as I sometimes feel, but lots of times I wish I looked more like some of the guys on this site.

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    "Another person's happiness is just a shadow.
    To be vexed by shadows is foolish.
    Create your own circumstances in which you are the one who is happy."

    ― Daisaku Ikeda

    I used to feel like I wish I could have had a great look(face) like famous actors or models. It was only because I was uncosciously thinking that those men who had great looks were happy and better than me since they had things I couldn't have. However, it is not true. We also have things that others could never have. We don't have to be loved by everyone in the world, but at least, you got to love and cherish yourself. Unless you truly realize what the quote means, the same worry/problem will keep coming up over and over, and you will not be able to creat your own happiness. Although, when you conquer the feeling, you can also cheer people who suffer from the same trouble up in the future. To have worries is not a bad thing. I'd rather say you are so brave to confide how you feel about yourself right now. Forward, ever forward Mr.Niceguy89!